LambChop
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Sorta OT...
I'm happy to have found this place to discuss/debate and sharpen not only myself but hopefully sharpen others. I wanted to mention that true communication involves voice inflection/tone, facial as well as hand & body language. I've read some posts were people (myself included) were offended regarding the victims family moving on and I'd like to say I went back and reread those and I honestly think they are coming from the heart in order to help the family. Some are more articulate than others, some of us have never been even remotely close to this kind of situation and we make make an ill worded post all be it with the best of intentions. I would like those of you who have gone through this horrible experience to help educate me as what to/not say to/about a bereaving (sp) family member. Innocently with a soft voice I can see myself saying the anger isn't help you physically. Explain to me as a victims advocate what/why that may not be the appropriate thing or maybe even it's just the timing of when to say it.
Asked with utmost respect and sincerity!
I watched the video of TA's sister and her husband when they were married in 2010. She is a very beautiful woman and from the video it appears she has moved on. We have many members here who have suffered through the same thing TA's family is going through right now. When the trial comes up they will all tell you the same thing. They can't eat, sleeping is difficult, etc. because they are reliving the event. It's part of the process they have to go through that is different than what is typical when a family member just dies from a disease or accident. It takes enormous strength to sit there day after day and I must say our hearts go out to them.
This is one reason why I say there is no proof they had sex other than from what Jodi has said and from friends who may have talked to TA about it. It appears he tried to distance himself from her and keep it on a friendship only basis because she was in the PPL business. I could see him doing that until he had had enough. Unless all these allegations are proven this constant speculation he was having wild sex with her only hurts the family because they already know the truth.
Another thing that bothers me. Why was Jodi going to TA's roommate and discussing personal information that may not have been true? Seems to me Jodi liked to start trouble. If she felt conflicted about how TA felt about her why didn't she go to their bishop. That is what he is there for. Instead she whines to his friends who tries to council her when they should have sent her to someone who had experience handling these types of situations. Sounds like the roommate who clued Lisa in got their info from Jodi and chances are she lied just to make sure Lisa would no longer come around on those social nights. jmo