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It does us no good to judge their parenting now. Their daughter is gone.![]()
i agree and in my opinion judging innocent victims is ignorant, trashy and shows a lack of class.
It does us no good to judge their parenting now. Their daughter is gone.![]()
I've taken classes/seminars and how to do this in my career pursuits and they're typically very general and an "educated" guess. In the cases I've observed they are pretty vague and fit into the "could be a number of people" category. Plus its hard to factor in sociopaths (who have a great ability to create a facade and/or mimic "normal" behavior). With that being said I have seen it work when used in smaller suspect pools, with cases of multiple crimes, and in interrogation techniques.
Somedays you can't win. Somedays who you trust aren't the ones to trust, I found out tonight. bummer for Alanna. May she rest in peace. I understand her mistake in trusting someone. May she be wrapped in a blanket of pure love. I can only wish her a silent death with drugs, which only her and the perp know at the moment & a soft death for Alanna.
Justice will be served. Really disgusted at some of my friends at the moment. Darn, the trusted and true. yah
It isn't just about being kidnapped. It is the fact that they are children and do not have good sense about things.
My friend left her daughter ( the daughter received all kinds of awards and has two Master's Degrees) when the child was around age 8. Mom went to the store which was three blocks away.
When mom got home a short while later, her daughter was upside down stuck in the bannister of the stairs going to the second floor.
She was doing tricks and got stuck. What would have happened if she was upside down for hours is unknown, but it would not have been good.
Kids do stupid things because they are kids. That is why they have parents. Otherwise, they could be like sharks when the mother leaves shortly after birth
As a retired teacher, I am impressed with all of he coaches and teachers that are found to be perverts. But then again, it is a good idea to go looking for kids where they are. One probably won't find many opportunities for children at a stock broker's office , for instance.
I think all of the safety laws and information out there have helped to inform people to make decisions on what are better ideas.
I guess I'm still not sure why everyone thinks they didn't have any idea where their child was or that they let her be gone too long?
1. she was going to a specific friends house, i.e. they knew where she was; should they have had her call or called to make sure she made it, or taken her, or had older sibling escort her?.....maybe.......hindsight is always 20/20
2. IIRC, per LDhummingbird, mom & older sis were looking for her by 6 o'clock; so, she would have been at her friend's house about 2 to 2 1/2 hours......how long is too long for a 6 year old to be at her friend's house on a summer day?
i agree and in my opinion judging innocent victims is ignorant, trashy and shows a lack of class.
I agree that the description they give of the perp is very global. What I found interesting is that they analyze the crime and make an explanation for every aspect of it.
Just like what we try to do on here, except the difference is that rhey have informationto work with
i agree and in my opinion judging innocent victims is ignorant, trashy and shows a lack of class.
Thank you ! I often do not not want to know the COD in cases because it's just really rough to hear about sometimes. But you're reminding me with the things we know it was NOT, then it likely was a rather ' peaceful' passing for baby girl and that is a blessing,,,,,,, at least that one tiny bit is a blessing.
ETA if it is drugs, what's the privacy law like on that ? Can LE call up walgreens/cvs and any other drug stores and find out who within a 5 block radius of her home takes x y or z drug ( that was found in her system, * speculative*) with OUT the knowledge or consent of the patient whose prescriptions those are ?
To me, a child who has left the home at 4 PM and people start looking for her at 6 is unusual. She just turned 6.
To me, that is really really young. Just out of kindergarten.
Then to still be looking for her at 8 and at 9 is unusual as well.
4 hours and your child has not been seen is rather a long time.
The child could have fallen and been unconscious. Of course, the reality was much worse.
How many homes would the parents check and then know there is a problem? When I used to live in town, there were about three or four homes where my child could conceivably be. After that, there were no possiblities. Any other home where she might be would not be acceptable. And that was years ago.
1. The little girl she went to visit wasn't even home, correct? So the parents didn't even speak with the other parents about their child going to visit.
2. When Alanna was late getting home, I'd assume they'd call and ask the friend's parents to send her home.
i agree and in my opinion judging innocent victims is ignorant, trashy and shows a lack of class.
What I question is who confirmed that the child wasn't home when Alanna came by? Was no one home? What if the child wasn't home and/or the parents but someone else.
Is there an exact time that she left to go to this friends house?
i agree and in my opinion judging innocent victims is ignorant, trashy and shows a lack of class.
If she went to a friends house she has visited many times before and that friend was home and they were playing , 2 hours is absolutely reasonable. I get the feeling no one realized that friend was not home and that Alanna was not with said friend until after the fact.
I believe that info came from a verified insider.
This is exactly what I'm thinking.
To respond to the fact that they must not have called friend's parents first....again, going only from my own experience......but when I went to my friend's house I don't remember my mom routinely calling. We went to each other's house pretty much every day; like a "standing date" of sorts. The rule was "if they don't answer you come straight back" (i.e., don't go to someone else's house to see if they are home, mess around in the alley, etc).
I don't know the circumstances around this and if this level of routine was why MM didn't call in advance or follow-up (remember, LG wasn't home when she asked to go play). I'm sure they are beating themselves up over it now and don't need our help. And of course, I've noted this in my Mommy Playbook for future reference.
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