Perhaps no one can connect the dots because the person’s hatred is irrational. I think we are dealing with a rational situation and irrational reaction, but the person does not look capable of irrational behavior.
I think this is an excellent summary. Short and too the point.
Whomever "Steve" / "Sally" is (murderer "vibes" relatively big boned, but athletic female to me), they are, as you stated "invisible in everyday sight".
Likewise, though they may have a few "edges", they do not, as you stated, present themselves as an inherently aggressive or strongly jealous person on a day to day basis. This allows them to "fly under the radar".
Even still, I am thinking that there are a limited number of places for the "invisible man / woman to hide in:
- Family: (not likely in my opinion as there are simply not that many people for the person to hide amongst)
- Work: (Ditto, not likely in my opinion. The victim did not have firing authority and was not ladder climber
More likely in my opinion:
- Cosplay: One forum member stated that in her cosplay genre, there are a visible minority of participants who derive nearly all esteem, social position and even chose family from the cosplay world. Then again, another forum member said that his experience in Cosplay was that of a big, happy nerdy family
sans alot of drama.
- High school: Larger number of people with all kinds of personalities. Alot of potential drama issues.
- Online: Evidently both victim and husband had extensive on line lives.