GUILTY TX - Gerren Isgrigg, 6, disabled, left to die in Wylie park, 12 April 2010

[justthinkin]

Why did the GMs move to a motel? Was it their hideout or had they been evicted from their home by foreclosure or if renting, could they no longer afford the rent?

I really want to hear that the GPs sunk all their money into caring for Gerren, and that overwhelming stress caused this GM to snap, and do something irrational. 3 1/2 years of caring for a child with extreme needs, and without a break would be hard for anyone to manage. Of course, we do not know whether the GPs ever got a break.

Now that little Gerren is dead, it is so easy for the father and other GM to say they would've done this or that if only they'd gotten a call. I have to wonder how many times they called the caregiver to see how well she was managing under the stress? Did they ever volunteer their time to see that the caregiver got some much needed rest?

Debloree, oh I so totally agree the baby Moses law needs to be changed to protect more children. When I think of all the that harm their children or step-children or grandchildren, I think we are not doing enough to protect the children. Far better all the way around if someone can legally abandon a child as opposed to starving or beating that child senseless or to death.

 

[lorann]

The father said the last time he saw his son was three years ago in a hospital in Dallas - soon after that the mother left the boy with her mother. So up until then, it sounds as if he was medically attended to. I am wondering if, besides support money, the mother was receiving other financial aid to attend to him? It sounds like this elderly couple have had financial woes besides or because of all the care of this boy. I do think gma just couldn't cope any longer.

But everyone who knew of this situation failed him in their own way. Should have/could have/would have doesn't cut it. This little angel brought out much in everyone - so terribly sad. The people of Wylie sure have shown what kind of hearts they have.

 

[NewMommy09]

Dad shocked at Gerren's treatment.
http://www.nbcdfw.com/news/local-be...d-And-Angry-Over-Sons-Treatment-92064689.html

Snip:
In a phone interview with NBC DFW, Isgrigg said he felt he had been cut out of his son's life after he divorced his wife, Nyki Phillips, in 2006. Isgrigg has seen Gerren only twice since 2005. He thought Gerren was in the care of his ex-wife.

"I had no idea she had passed him off to her mom and dad," Isgrigg said.

 

[RubyRed]

"The support, the care, and love they have shown for him — it's beyond words," Sgt. Isgrigg said. "I'd hug every one of them."

http://www.wfaa.com/news/Father-of-Wylies-Angel-says-hes-devastated-92058664.html

Gerren was the one he needed to hug.

 

[cakegirl0905]

I struggle with the father issue. On one hand I want to fly off the handle and say he should have been fighting to his last breath to have some kind of custody. He should have known exactly where his kid was, seen photos of him, gotten progress reports from the caregiver.
The other part of me wonders if Nyki was just an evil person who made his life miserable. He was over seas or across the country and he couldn't get an answer on how Gerren was doing and was told repeatedly to not call so he just let Gerren go.
OK, after typing that out, I'm leaning towards to first reaction.

 

[cakegirl0905]

http://www.wfaa.com/news/Father-of-Wylies-Angel-says-hes-devastated-92058664.html



Gerren was the one he needed to hug.

On that video, there is a man who says "He was a complete vegetable. It's not like anyone is saying." Or something similar. That hit me very, very wrong.

 

[NewMommy09]

On that video, there is a man who says "He was a complete vegetable. It's not like anyone is saying." Or something similar. That hit me very, very wrong.

I felt the same way. I believe that person was quoted in the article as being the grandfather's son. I don't know if he was also the grandmother's son, or a full sibling to Nyki. But he seems to have NO compassion or feelings for Gerren. His words relate he thought of Gerren as an object, nothing more.

 

[Cubby]

I struggle with the father issue. On one hand I want to fly off the handle and say he should have been fighting to his last breath to have some kind of custody. He should have known exactly where his kid was, seen photos of him, gotten progress reports from the caregiver.
The other part of me wonders if Nyki was just an evil person who made his life miserable. He was over seas or across the country and he couldn't get an answer on how Gerren was doing and was told repeatedly to not call so he just let Gerren go.
OK, after typing that out, I'm leaning towards to first reaction.

I have to respectfully disagree with leaning toward your first reaction.
As a never married mother myself who has participated in single parenting forums- far more years than I have at WS - I have seen some of the most evil things women do to keep their childs father out of the kids life.

I'm not disagreeing what he should have done, I am just sharing the other side of how difficult it is for fathers to excersize their parental rights if mom wants to keep him out. IF he was stationed overseas he didn't have years and years to fight her in court here in the states....

Think about it, bio mom was evil enough to continue collecting child support from him even though Gerren had not been in her custody and care for 3 years. Had she told him where to go visit his son, that would have cost her who knows how much each month in child support for a child she wasn't even caring for. Kind of made me put two and two together with just how cooperative she would have been with him 'coparenting'. I would not doubt she made attempting to coparent a nightmare for him. Some guys do in fact walk away rather than fight. Sadly, they just become an emotional mess and it is too hard for them., so they walk to save their sanity.

All one has to do is go through NCMEC and take a look at the number of parental abductions. And those are just the ones listed as missing.... then who knows how many hundreds of thousands are victims of visitation interference. It happens. I would NOT be so quick to judge Gerrens father based on my experience as a single parent.

JMO

 

[Cubby]

On that video, there is a man who says "He was a complete vegetable. It's not like anyone is saying." Or something similar. That hit me very, very wrong.

Here is the quote from the article:

"She left him some place where he would be found," the son said. "She fed him and everything. The kid was a complete vegetable the whole time before this. It's not like it's being portrayed."


:furious: :furious: :furious: And is that supposed to mean Gerren was any less worthy or important? :furious: :furious: :furious: Dude, and if you KNEW your step mom was struggling WHAT DID YOU DO TO HELP TAKE THE STRESS OFF HER? What did your DAD do to help take the stress off her?

If I say anymore about that comment I will have to time myself out.

Poor baby. RIP Gerren.......
(That comment by his step uncle made me cry.)

 

[fhc]

WTH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

http://www.dallasnews.com/sharedcon...e/stories/042710dnmetbodyfound.286639a20.html

Gerren Isgrigg lay in the viney overgrowth near a Collin County pond for three days before his body was found by a mowing crew April 15.

A probable cause affidavit obtained today states that Gerren was not visible from the roadway or a park area nearby.

Link: 'Wylie's Angel' Facebook page
Darlene Phillips, Gerren's grandmother and primary caretaker, faces a murder charge. She told investigators she left Gerren at the park on April 12 with a note that read: "I'm 6, I have seizures, I need medication and a feeding tube."

No note was found with Gerren. Nor did investigators find any medical supplies, papers or feeding tubes.

Phillips told investigators she removed the feeding tube before leaving Gerren in the brush.

Phillips told authorities she thought she was being punished by the boy's mother for having to care for the child, who had severe medical problems and the mental capacity of a 2-month-old, the affidavit states.

The affidavit states Phillips "intentionally or knowingly caused the death of [Gerren] by intentionally leaving the child in a place where the child was unlikely to be located," and because of his health issues, "he was unable to care for himself and died."

 

[fhc]

Three days!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Cubby]

They only moved to The Colony last week. They lived in Garland before that and were only 10 miles away.
http://www.wfaa.com/news/Father-of-W...-92058664.html
Snip (I knew they were probably local)
The Phillips recently lived in a Garland home 10 miles from where Gerren was found. Within the past week, they moved to a motel in The Colony.

Links not working. Does this mean they moved to the motel before or after Gerren was found? I wonder if they lost their home to forclosure and she was so stressed about caring for him she allowed him to die by withholding care/feedings and then lied to her husband and son about bringing him to a social worker. IF that was the scenario it would explain why her DH and step son? bought her story.

JMO

 

[Cubby]

WTH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

http://www.dallasnews.com/sharedcon...e/stories/042710dnmetbodyfound.286639a20.html

Gerren Isgrigg lay in the viney overgrowth near a Collin County pond for three days before his body was found by a mowing crew April 15.

A probable cause affidavit obtained today states that Gerren was not visible from the roadway or a park area nearby.

Link: 'Wylie's Angel' Facebook page
Darlene Phillips, Gerren's grandmother and primary caretaker, faces a murder charge. She told investigators she left Gerren at the park on April 12 with a note that read: "I'm 6, I have seizures, I need medication and a feeding tube."

No note was found with Gerren. Nor did investigators find any medical supplies, papers or feeding tubes.

Phillips told investigators she removed the feeding tube before leaving Gerren in the brush.

Phillips told authorities she thought she was being punished by the boy's mother for having to care for the child, who had severe medical problems and the mental capacity of a 2-month-old, the affidavit states.

The affidavit states Phillips "intentionally or knowingly caused the death of [Gerren] by intentionally leaving the child in a place where the child was unlikely to be located," and because of his health issues, "he was unable to care for himself and died."

BBM, the statement is sad, but WTF did she do about making her daughter responsible or getting help -respite care for herself? AT some point she, her husband AND her step son knew she was overwhelmed and stressed out. They KNEW better...... and from what we have read, it does not appear they reached out for any help or services. WHY? Why do people try to do it 'alone' when facing circumstances such as this? Why is it SO hard or so bad/wrong to seek help? :furious:

:furious: :banghead: :furious: :banghead:

 

[Trident]

I may have overlooked this, but does anyone know WHY Gerren was in such bad physical shape to begin with?

 

[Cubby]

I may have overlooked this, but does anyone know WHY Gerren was in such bad physical shape to begin with?

All I have read is his medical needs began "shortly after birth". I don't know the specific reasons why, just that these were (had to change from 'have been' to 'were ' ) life long health issues for Gerren.

 

[cakegirl0905]

http://www.myspace.com/124706313

Cubby-disagree away. I like hearing other's viewpoints on this-it's a tough situation!

 

[fhc]

http://www.myspace.com/124706313

Cubby-disagree away. I like hearing other's viewpoints on this-it's a tough situation!

and she signed on last the very day that grandma left Gerren in the park, that precious little boy was left and lived for at least 48 hours there under the brush pile

 

[fhc]

All I have read is his medical needs began "shortly after birth". I don't know the specific reasons why, just that these were (had to change from 'have been' to 'were ' ) life long health issues for Gerren.

Gerren was also premature...

 

[cakegirl0905]

Interesting that was the last day she posted.

She has another baby.

She's single, currently in OK. Has friends who say "TX misses you".

Other friends who call her a hooker?

I know it may NOT be her, but the pieces fit.

 

[fhc]

FYI, Cubby is a moderator