Speaking about this part of the exchange:
(Link: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/sandra-bland-arrest-transcript_55b03a88e4b0a9b94853b1f1
Encinia: You mind putting out your cigarette, please? If you don't mind?
Bland: I'm in my car, why do I have to put out my cigarette?
Encinia: Well you can step on out now.
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All I can think about regarding this snippet of the exchange is that let's pretend for a moment what would have occurred if SB actually did step out of her vehicle at that point - I wonder what BE planned to do then? Was he then going to answer her QUESTION? Seriously, what was his response going to be IF she had gotten out of her car after asking him what I consider a valid question? I don't think his plan was to answer her question (as to Why did she have to put out her cig since she was in her vehicle) as he could have done that without her exiting her vehicle.
Also, because it is clear IMO in how he is asking her to put out her cigarette that he kindly asking her to put it out. BE is not saying this is an lawful order. He asks her: "you mind putting out your cigarette please, if you don't mind?" That is not an order. I too would have asked why. Just because BE was politely asking her to put it out does not mean, IMO, that she has to simply comply and not ask questions. IMO, she asked him a simple question. She asked him because he is supposed to be the one with the answers. He is wearing the badge. He could have just explained to her why he is asking. Like I stated earlier IF he had given her an explanation as to why he is asking and treated her like her question mattered (therefore she mattered) we don't know - SB could have then just put it out. We don't know and will never know.
Seems to me his little bitty ego got hurt when she simply asked him a question. In this question she did not curse him. She did not call him names. She asked him a simple question and it is more than clear he did not like to be challenged. Since he is a rookie I suppose he has not yet grasped that the public will "challenge" you (if you call asking questions to a polite request "challenging") and ask you questions as to why this and that is happening or why do I have to do this or that.
Surely, he does not assume everyone he pulls over has to comply with whatever he says (even if he asked nicely) just because he has a badge. IMO, with this approach he is making his work life pretty stressful. BE is the one working that day, he is the one in charge in this situation, he is the one wielding the power therefore it is of my opinion it is his sole responsibility to be the professional one, to be the one to remain calm and in control, to communicate with the public in a respectful way by answering the questions they have especially when the questions are asked in a non-combative manner. The question(s) are being asked to the LEO because the public assumes they have an explanation as to why this or that is being requested. I also believe many people think it is not unreasonable to ask a LEO a reasonable question. IMO, it does NOT mean someone is provoking. Not even in the slightest. Really. I can't ask a question I truly want to know the answer to because I am seen as "provoking?" But BE, the LEO, can ignore my question and then order me out of the car for....??? for asking a question he didn't like ?? I personally would have lost it if I asked a LEO that same question and the LEO ignored it and ordered me to now exit my car. What?!?!? What is going on here?!? I can't ask a question in response to a request (not an order) without being treated in an aggressive manner. I will never understand how anyone thinks this is by any stretch of the imagination "OK." Had BE answered her as to why she needed to put the cig out this entire horrible situation could have gone much differently. Maybe if BE showed her an ounce of respect as a human being and answered her she would have complied and simply put the cig out.
Instead, he chose to be indifferent, aggressive and he chose to escalate an already tense exchange which is not IMO the best way to handle any traffic stop. After he ignored her and ordered her out of the vehicle for "asking a question :facepalm:" things THEN went down hill rapidly and I 1000% understand why SB was angry as she was and I would have been too. If I was ordered out of my car for asking a reasonable question and was told "I'll light you up" I cannot imagine what my reaction would have been but it would not have been good.
Again, I just wish I knew what BE's plan was when he FIRST said:
"Well, you can step out of the car now"
IF she had what was he going to then do?? Lecture her for not immediately responding to his polite request? Lecture her on the dangers of smoking :facepalm:? Lecture her for having the audacity to ask him a question when he is wearing a badge? What was his plan? We will never know. I wish SB would have simply stepped out to see what his plan was at that point. IMO, in his mind, he didn't like that she wasn't just shaking and scared and put out her cig because he is a big, bad police officer. I don't like to admit this but I'll be honest here. Because of situations like this, for years now, my attitude has totally changed when I am pulled over. I am no longer very friendly. I am not rude either. I just refuse to be a woman that has to put on this 'act' because of the big bad police. I don't want them to think that I am scared of them because I am not. If I did something to warrant a ticket then give me the ticket. I refuse to cry and beg for a warning or give a false excuse as to why I did x,y or z. I've only been pulled over for speeding over the past 20 years. When I am pulled over and I am asked "do you know why you're being pulled over?" I say "Probably because I was going too fast. Here is my license, registration and insurance card." I always have it ready to go. The LEO usually looks at me waiting for me to continue to explain why I was speeding. If they ask I'll answer. But if they're waiting on me to tremble and cry they'll be waiting forever. Go run my stuff. Make your decision. Warning or ticket. I'll take care of it and let's be on our way. I have not been treated badly by any LEO but I can speculate as to why and I believe there are many factors - one being the kind of car I drive.
Once when I was pulled over for speeding the LEO went into a conversation with me about how fast my car can go and specs on the engine, etc. My co-worker and good friend at the time was black and when we pulled away she was in serious disbelief of the traffic stop she had just experienced. She said she could not believe her ears. I could.
Rant Over.:shame:
BBM: Is that from Game of Thrones????
Anyway, don't even know where to start with all this! Anybody can ask all the questions they want of LE when pulled over. Who cares what the answer is? Be pleasant, comply and let you and the LE go your separate ways. She wasn't mentally stable or she wouldn't have killed herself. I can only imagine how crazy she must have seemed to the officer. It's not his problem though once it gets to the jail. But LE/jail personnel are supposed to judge her state of mind better than family?