I'm so sorry for what you had to live as a child, and the fact that it will continue to affect you is heartbreaking. The people I've met who've most successfully dealt with their childhood abuse, and managed to process it best saw themselves as survivors. Some people do not deserve to have children.[/QUOTE
thank you. I appreciate that. Oh many survivors are very successful and happy, but the trauma never goes away. Many of us are proactive about therapy and healing. Not everyone ends up on drugs, I probably shouldn’t have stated Arthur would end up on drugs. Substance abuse is often a side effect or trauma but not always. The fact he had other family members who loved him probably would have done wonders for him. They would have believed him and validated him. In fact I’d like to think they may have eventually been the ones to save him from his environment.