Reading over this again (see, I regularly reread things to check my wording!), this bit clicked in my brain as to why I'm more stuck on the fence, and disagree with many of the points people make about her behaviour; so much of what gets raised negatively on this thread is fairly innocuous to me.
I'm not suggesting LL is on the spectrum, the choice of a nursing job seems very incongruous with poor social skills (I'd be completely incapable of it!), so it's not very likely, but so much of it seems just like things I could/would do, that it's hard for me to find them sinister, which then removes some weight from the guilty side of the scale which many of you I think are adding (quite possibly correctly).
I don't tend to throw things out (or I have a clearout and things get missed); granted I never acquire large amounts of papers that shouldn't be in my possession but the collecting papers and documenting stuff in the diary, I can see. I'm poor at reading the room to realise when people want me to go away or shut up; I'd fail to realise Dr Choc's intentions and brush him off in a similar way; I mess up my wording at times and come off abrupt or even rude.
I get overly emotionally involved with things at times, and I struggle to cope with being prevented from doing something I wanted/expected, so can understand the agitation over being kept out of room 1 and even the just plain ignoring instructions to leave (I wouldn't go that far but would likely make my feelings known - when out of the moment I realise I was unreasonable, but I can't flip a switch and instantly see sense). I'd care far more about my personal life than about people I barely knew who are long since past any help, so the reactions to her room and not to the evidence about the babies make perfect sense to me.
Basically most of the things people are pointing to to say "it's all about her" are just "normal" to me. I'm a bit self-centered, yes, but I don't believe I'm a bad person. Manifestly unsuited to nursing, definitely, and LL clearly was too.
(This is not any reflection of my opinions of the medical evidence; only the behavioural side of things)
I 'liked' your post earlier without commenting further on it.
I'm now, having has a read back, wanting to really applaud you for giving such a detailed and incredibly helpful insight into what might be.
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