I find it really sad that so many people have dismissed Shauna's claim to have been in a controlling relationship by saying "but she was allowed to go to the shop!" or "how come she was allowed to go on Facebook then?". It's as if the only sort of control that some people are prepared to consider is one where the abused party has literally NO freedom whatsoever.
Assuming what SH says is true regarding their relationship, I am absolutely horrified to think that she lived in this way. Having to ask permission to smoke a cigarette or be allowed a treat? What is she, an animal? Not being allowed to leave the house alone without his permission? What a life for the child, let alone anyone else.
Obviously she may well be hamming some of this up to support her case, but we've heard that some of it is true according to other testimony. Innocent or guilty, I think it's yet another case of another tragic child floundering in the system, without any consistent parenting, leading to yet another cycle of children being taken into care and the cycle starting all over again.
All the families involved in this case are fractured and highly damaged. NM not brought up by his own mother, neither was SH. BW kicked out of the home for being an annoying teenager by her dad (at the age of 15/16 - shocking), and noone seeming to blink an eye. LD's children all being taken into care before she goes on to have 4 more children; how horrific and negligent is that?
I completely agree and I'm really pleased you mentioned all of this. I too was shocked when I heard BW had been thrown out of her home. How sad. And also to hear that her father cut her out of his will just before all of this happened. NM says she didn't know this, but what if she actually did - NM doesn't exactly tell the truth. Also, I hate the way BW has been spoken about, in terms of being rude, abusive and disrespectful, not only by NM and SH, but by her father too. The poor kid. She was just a kid, and by the sounds of it had a tough life. I have found that whole side of things really uncomfortable to be perfectly honest. And I also feel sad for all involved - I really understand about them being fractured and highly damaged.
As regards the case, there are some things we just don't know and probably never will. We DO know that NM took part is dismembering her, but who does the third unidentified DNA belong to? Also there's no actual evidence for 'who' killed her, just NM's word. We don't know the real time of death, again just NM's word. We don't even know if NM killed her because again, it's just his word. What if he's covering for someone? What if he never even killed her, but helped hide and dismember her? His bloody fingerprint would still be on the doorframe if that was the case. I even doubt the dismemberment took place in SH's house because surely there would have been blood in the bathroom somewhere, or sticky tape residue on the tiles had he used plastic sheeting? So again, that part of the story seems to be lies. What if NM has decided he's going to prison anyway for the dismemberment, so has decided to take the blame for the entire thing (using the kidnap story to try to get a lesser sentence), even if he himself didn't kill her? I'm not saying he didn't kill her, only that there's no 'proof' of WHO killed her, so that still remains a question. And what if something else completely different happened? I don't wish to speculate because there are numerous possibilities, and even then it probably wouldn't be the truth. What we DO know is that both NM and SH are lying, but we don't know exactly WHAT it is that they are covering.