AA came here and attempted to adapt into a new culture at the age of 21. I am not finding any mention of his family outside of Janet Farashkin and a man, Dill, who described AA as “Joy” when he took AA under his wing when he first joined the church in Utah. So, what I am seeing is you have this 21 year old, who comes over here as a student, marries a pregnant woman with children but never consummated the marriage yet sends her money (so he paid for his green card), fails out of college, steals an iPad, it’s discovered he is living homeless on the college campus, joins the Utah National Guard, doesn’t pass the medical, rapes a woman but is not charged, goes back to college but doesn’t get a degree, then suddenly has low level computer jobs, is able to buy a house, camera equipment, computer equipment and establish an Airbnb. Who helped this guy?
One of my friends, who grew up in a war torn country, told me, he is like a bridge between his parents, from his native country, and his children, who grew up here. My friend feels like he belongs and fits in nowhere. He can’t go back to his country he was raised in, yet he never fit in here. Looking at AA’s Facebook posts and responses, I see some of that. I think he desperately wanted to fit in, but just didn’t.
AA was doing ok on the surface. He had turned his life around. I wonder what it is we are not seeing. How was he able to go from barely making it, just holding on homeless to homeowner? No one has ever mentioned his family. This guy is a true loner. We don’t even know if he comes from a middle class background in Nigeria.