My little guy was born addicted. His mother handed over custody to his grandmother and went beck to the streets. I believe he was her 4th som. I have no idea what happened to the others. Mom had a stroke when he was one and lost her eyesight, she moved back in with grandma. Grandma could not handle both, so my guy went into foster care. When I met him he was three, in his 10th foster home, had been thrown out of practically every preschool in 2 counties. He hit gold with his last foster family.
I was working for Head Start and had a reputation with the, well for lack of a better word, “terrifying” children. I got called in Friday that I was being pulled from my classroom and going to be one on one with this unknown child starting Monday.
Oh, hell no, I called his fosters and made an appointment with them to meet together before school Monday. I suggested a nearby park, it was gonna be a beautiful weekend and was told by his foster mom it would be better to meet in the safety of their home. First clue!
The next day I met him, and our own personal trail of tears and laughter started. He was one angry little boy. Lashed out at everything and everyone. Could not get him in a classroom, except for the times he would break away from me and charge into random ones to destroy them. And destroy them he did! We would just pace the hallways with him trying to attack anyone who came into sight. He broke my nose, my Head Start support team freaked, who was gonna keep him with me at emergency room? But other than my support team he had a great one with the PS.
It took 6 months to get him in the classroom, another month he had a friend. We were constantly twerking his IEP. He refused school food by throwing it across the room, every stinking time. So, because it’s HS, we had to have it in writing some thing as simple as bringing a lunch.
My guy successfully entered kindergarten 3 years ago. He plays soccer, and the other team isn’t wiped out or bloodied. So many other things, good, glorious, bad and horrific happened during our time together. But the best? He was adopted and then became a big brother!