Found Deceased VA - Noah Tomlin, 2, Hampton, 24 June 2019 *ARREST*

[borndem]

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[Ksprincess2]

I would love to see her disability application the misuse of disability and the ease with which some people are approved is one of the many things that makes me ragey! There are people who are truly disabled that get screwed around for years trying to get approved while totally capable people get disability benefits. Also another thing I've seen is people getting disability for their perfectly normal child just for money. Somehow Mom's who can't take their kids to a dentist appt. or manage to show up for parent-teacher conferences can take themselves and their kids Dr. hopping all over until they get what they want.

 

[mpnola]

Noah Tomlin: Mother charged with felonies while police turn search for 2-year-old tot to incinerator

Incinerator?!?! Sick b. Evil.

 

[MsGazette]

After viewing today’s hearing, I don’t know that I could sit there without sobbing if my little boy was missing. I would be terrified that I could not leave to try to find him. All I see is someone trying to protect herself with whatever manipulation she can. And I don’t say these things lightly. I try to be open-minded most of the time, because we never really know the kind of battle each of us face. But after today’s viewing...I’m angry. My heart goes out to the men and women out there searching with sweat and tears for a boy they have never met. IMO

 

[helpfulcharlie]

Incinerator?!?! Sick b. Evil.

To be fair, I don't think PEOPLE take garbage to the incinerator. I think municipal garbage collection vehicles do. Not that it's somehow better that she may have disposed of her child in a garbage dumpster, but...

 

[borndem]

IMOO, I dont like this woman at all. But in all fairness I've bathed my infant in a tub (except I put a towel under him for comfort & rolled 1 to head prop)Why you ask? I was an 18 year old recently divorced mother. A baby tub was not on the necessity list. Personally, I preferred him n the tub with me but then I'd have to transfer him to a bouncy seat, wrapped in a towel, so I could get out, so I often used very clean kitchen sink and held him in the crook of my elbow & graduated to a rolled up towel for a head prop to bathe him many times (we had baby towels & baby clothes. All washed in Dreft) IMOO, The child screaming in the background is typical for a mother with more than 1 child, not everybody can be happy when a mother's attention is divided. But the man yelling..clearly wasn't soothing at all m, I wonder if he is next? All IMHO. It's easy to view everything as heinous under the circumstances. I was more bothered by the video of the infant's visible genitalia than the bare hand bathing that was going on in such a big tub. Side note: my 2nd born had the non-essentials. Half of it went unused.
IMHO I dislike this woman bc she of all people knew how to contact DFCS. Why didnt she reach out to her old caseworker or just call the office? Did DFCS NOT keep an eye out for this woman?
Sometimes we have to love our kids enough to let somebody else, that's better situated financially & emotionally, care for them. I'm sure it would be humiliating and painful but what? She chose to Snap? Abuse? Neglect? Disregard? What did she do? Do we know?

 

[borndem]

IMOO, I dont like this woman at all. But in all fairness I've bathed my infant in a tub (except I put a towel under him for comfort & rolled 1 to head prop)Why you ask? I was an 18 year old recently divorced mother. A baby tub was not on the necessity list. Personally, I preferred him n the tub with me but then I'd have to transfer him to a bouncy seat, wrapped in a towel, so I could get out, so I often used very clean kitchen sink and held him in the crook of my elbow & graduated to a rolled up towel for a head prop to bathe him many times (we had baby towels & baby clothes. All washed in Dreft) IMOO, The child screaming in the background is typical for a mother with more than 1 child, not everybody can be happy when a mother's attention is divided. But the man yelling..clearly wasn't soothing at all m, I wonder if he is next? All IMHO. It's easy to view everything as heinous under the circumstances. I was more bothered by the video of the infant's visible genitalia than the bare hand bathing that was going on in such a big tub. Side note: my 2nd born had the non-essentials. Half of it went unused.
IMHO I dislike this woman bc she of all people knew how to contact DFCS. Why didnt she reach out to her old caseworker or just call the office? Did DFCS NOT keep an eye out for this woman?
Sometimes we have to love our kids enough to let somebody else, that's better situated financially & emotionally, care for them. I'm sure it would be humiliating and painful but what? She chose to Snap? Abuse? Neglect? Disregard? What did she do? Do we know?

The things that you said about bathing your baby all sound familiar to me! I assume we have all seen baby showers where some of the gifts are more conversation pieces than useful objects for mom or baby. Certainly baby tubs are great, but for me, they weren't all that convenient. (That's just me.)
I remember being bathed in my grandmother's kitchen sink! I thought it was great fun! They only had a shower, so the sink was perfect! And I would often get in the tub with my son to bathe him -- he could sit up, etc., and we had a good time.

The bath "mom" gave that itty-bitty infant was scary, especially when she turned away from him/her, and more than onece. That little one was so tiny. But apparently s/he survived for more probable horror.

Just saying that we all get creative with babies, within reason, especially when it's our first one! And your post brought back good memories!

 

[MsMarple]

JMO....It appears to me her appearance has declined from the mug shot and today's court appearance.

I suspect it's part of her "poor me" ploy. Stringy, unbrushed hair, the little limp, the oh so sad face. IMO that won't get her too far since she doesn't seem interested in sharing Noah's location.

It's interesting how many FB profile pics in these cases are 180 degrees from reality. I first saw that with what's her name Moore in Heather Elvis' case. I guess I'm not making the best use of PhotoShop with my pics.

 

[borndem]

Apparently it was normal for her tobask her to come over to help get rid of trash prior to a visit .. ..ugh

And just how did she know about a visit? No freakin' wonder that she got to keep those babies/children. Even a slob can clean up reasonably well if she knows "they" are coming in two days, or two weeks or whatever -- especially with help -- which we've said we don't understand. If knowing in advance that AFDC, CPS, or whatever is coming, no wonder some children are allowed to stay, or come back, to the hell that is home. SMH.

 

[borndem]

I suspect it's part of her "poor me" ploy. Stringy, unbrushed hair, the little limp, the oh so sad face. IMO that won't get her too far since she doesn't seem interested in sharing Noah's location.

It's interesting how many FB profile pics in these cases are 180 degrees from reality. I first saw that with what's her name Moore in Heather Elvis' case. I guess I'm not making the best use of PhotoShop with my pics.

Don't even think it, MsMarple -- your work with PShop and all the rest are great!

 

[borndem]

lonetraveler said: ↑
Maybe they are just as bad as she is? Birds of a feather flock together, kind of thing.

Birds of a feather flock together.

People tend to surround themselves with people who are most like themselves. That or they were simply enablers. Their fondness for mom blinded them to mom's parental inabilities.

Wow, you two!!

But the thing about what you both have said makes a lot of sense and scares the hell outta me. It will never stop, will it?
Heaven help us all.

 

[borndem]

After viewing today’s hearing, I don’t know that I could sit there without sobbing if my little boy was missing. I would be terrified that I could not leave to try to find him. All I see is someone trying to protect herself with whatever manipulation she can. And I don’t say these things lightly. I try to be open-minded most of the time, because we never really know the kind of battle each of us face. But after today’s viewing...I’m angry. My heart goes out to the men and women out there searching with sweat and tears for a boy they have never met. IMO

Beautiful tribute to both the searchers and the sweet little boy lost. Thanks.

 

[mpnola]

To be fair, I don't think PEOPLE take garbage to the incinerator. I think municipal garbage collection vehicles do. Not that it's somehow better that she may have disposed of her child in a garbage dumpster, but...

Oh, ok. The sign saying they weren't accepting trash made me think that people could bring stuff to incinerate.

 

[borndem]

Just saw this -- not much is new:

Va. Mom Who Reported 2-Year-Old Son Missing Is Now Charged, and Police Believe Boy Is Dead

"We all pray that we still find him safe but that’s just not the way it’s pointing at this point,” Hampton Police Chief Terry Sult said

By Harriet Sokmensuer
July 01, 2019 12:24 PM
A Virginia mother has been charged in connection with the disappearance of her toddler son, who vanished last Monday and who police believe is now dead.
[...]
It is unclear how many children were at home the night of Noah’s disappearance. However, Sult said the children are being taken care of by family members and child protective services.

Attorney information for Tomlin was unavailable Monday and it wasn’t clear if she has yet entered a plea.

 

[perfectingpink]

Noah Tomlin: Mother charged with felonies while police turn search for 2-year-old tot to incinerator

How does the incinerator facility work? Can anyone enter and dispose of their trash or does the trash go to the landfill first and then they sort what is to be incinerated?

 

[MsMarple]

Don't even think it, MsMarple -- your work with PShop and all the rest are great!

Thanks! I meant that I've been too honest and haven't photoshopped my FB pics to make me lool like a rock star. Probably better that way since none of my friends would believe it anyway.

Which makes me wonder just who the people in the cases here think they're actually fooling? Did you see JT's FB pic? Nothing like what we saw today.

 

[TristanP]

Honestly I wonder if he hadn't ingested something he shouldn't have two days prior and maybe they took him to the hospital then... And the hospital was able to pump his stomach.. but I suppose if this was the case he would never have returned home.. seems like they would have stepped in at this point.. but idk.. I wish I did. Something happened at that time. And then obviously something else happened after that which lead to his demise. That's what it seems to me anyway. Just my opinion.

One thing I’ve learned following these cases is that it’s never the case that the child ingested the parents’ drugs. Or at least I’m not aware of any cases where that has actually occurred.

The reason for this, sadly, is that the addict will put in effort to protect their precious drugs. They just can’t put the same amount of effort into protecting their precious children.

 

[wgram]

Are there any updates?

 

[borndem]

dbm

 

[cass523]

This tragedy has inspired a woman to create change. J.B. is petitioning the White House with new protections for kids. Its called NOAH: No Other Angels Hurt

Stop placing children back in homes with abusive, neglectful, drug addict parents

It calls on Congress to create stricter guidelines and criteria for parents to meet before they can get a child back in their custody

Julia Tomlin appears in court; Noah still missing