The only thing I hated about the early church was i couldn't understand a dang thing they were saying..it was all in Latin! how was a I supposed to be moved when I didn't know what they were saying?
Of course we should all ask questions of religion and about religion. I am not afraid to nor do I agree with everything in the Catholic Church.
I never felt that I had to do it one way without injecting my own thoughts into the process. Maybe I wasn't paying attention.

I was never once told I would burn in hell. Even when I ditched Catechism.
I attended Catechism every Sunday and hated every minute of it. All my friends were Jewish and I had nothing that I could relate to them with. I still received all my Sacraments but my heart wasn't in it.
Consequently, when my children were born I did not baptize them nor did I take them to church.
When my kids were about oh say between say 9 and 15, they asked me why I never took them to church. I didn't have an answer. So I started taking them. They all asked why they weren't baptized or hadn't reveived any of the other scaraments. I didn't have an answer, so i enrolled them all in Catechism (RCIA) and they were baptized, received First Communion and were confirmed at the most awesome Easter Vigil Mass. It was so moving because they chose it.
When my kids chose Catholicism it brought me back to the church. It was really neat to see them choose to be baptized as opposed to being baptized as babies. It had so much meaning it was powerful. Brought me back to the church and I am glad it did.
If they leave this Church and go to another, i have no problem with that as long as they keep religion in their life. Any religion provides the framework we need to add real purpose and meaning to our lives.