WA WA - Sky Metalwala, 2, Bellevue, 6 Nov 2011 - #16

[jash]

Latest article: http://www.kirklandreporter.com/news/136975233.html

"When M was picked up by the police, she looked gaunt and weighed only 29 pounds," Terry told the Reporter. "She went to a foster home with really nice people … She went from listless to active, and now she is doing great."

"We are talking about a life of a 2-year-old child, whose mother is so vindictive and hateful, probably due to mental illness to some degree, that she is obsessed with the thought that she must prevent Solomon from (having) their children," Terry told the Reporter. "She is not intelligent, and she definitely does not have what many would consider a creative side … I am not saying that to be mean, but we are in the trenches trying to come up with a way to circumvent Julia’s silence while her baby is missing."

 

[Rougelatete]

I think it is possible that JB might not celebrate his bday but how could her friends and family think that was ok?

In comparison, when my children were small, my friends and family would want to know WEEKS ahead of time what kind of party we were having and what we were going to do and how they could help....those were the most fun years!!

WHERE IS SKY???? :banghead:

I think she may have edged people out of her life. I do think SJ and SO would have done something if they'd seen M so emaciated and that leads me to think JB isolated herself to a very extreme extent in the weeks leading up to Sky's "disappearance" and that people who were normally in Sky's life weren't from at least September-November. I think it's possible she was still in contact with her brother and I suspect he's terrified of her and very much under her control. But, I don't think SJ and SO had seen either of the kids in quite a while, let alone Sky's birthday.

 

[Janeumayer]

She had 2 children, no job, so when her maintenance fee stopped, how was she going to pay rent? I don't know much about habits of sugar daddies, but I would guess the ones who actually want adult companionship aren't that interested in women with children. It seems likely she was very stressed due to lack of finances, which from what I read about OCD, aggravates OCD symptoms.

Does anybody know if aggravated OCD would cause her not to care about her appearance? I am asking because I would think that with her extreme OCD she wouldn't have dark roots showing and her hair all messed up into an untidy ponytail.

 

[Janeumayer]

Possibly the church member JD took the picture off of his FB profile at the request of LE. It could be that they noticed this picture when he posted it and asked for a copy. I really think and hope that LE is continually following up on leads. I think the fact that Solomon has an attorney involved, and they are talking to LE on a regular basis, I think that LE will not let Sky become a cold case.

raying:

I am lost. Can you explain what this info re. the pic. is about? TIA

 

[jjenny]

Does anybody know if aggravated OCD would cause her not to care about her appearance? I am asking because I would think that with her extreme OCD she wouldn't have dark roots showing and her hair all messed up into an untidy ponytail.

OCD has various manifestations (which in her case according to SM was the obsession with keeping the house very clean) that wouldn't have anything to do with her appearance. SM never claimed she was obsessed with keeping herself presentable. I am guessing if she were constantly cleaning the apartment she wasn't going to worry about keeping herself looking good.

 

[jjenny]

Latest article: http://www.kirklandreporter.com/news/136975233.html

Even though it's just now published, that interview must have been carried out some time back, because the lawyer now knows that Sky was seen in June, thus the child did not go to Ukraine with grandpa in April.

 

[Rougelatete]

Does anybody know if aggravated OCD would cause her not to care about her appearance? I am asking because I would think that with her extreme OCD she wouldn't have dark roots showing and her hair all messed up into an untidy ponytail.

Any mental illness -- especially when really exacerbated -- can cause what clinicians refer to as "compromised ADL's" (Activities of Daily Living). These include a decreased ability to do things like brush one's teeth, groom hair, bathe, shop for necessities, eat, etc. ADL's are the basic things one needs to do for self-care.

I imagine JB was extremely stressed out during this time and that her exacerbated mental illness (OCD and otherwise) -- combined with the fact that she was probably cleaning 10+ hours a day and didn't have time to tend to her ADL's -- caused the appearance you see in the surveillance shots.

 

[Rougelatete]

AFAIK, there are no photos of M taken after that date and posted to Flickr either. It's possible JB didn't always have access to a camera. In Solomon's declaration, he had stated that he had returned all personal property requested by JB with the exception of things that were his, like his camera. I recall there were at least two different cameras used for the bulk of the photos, based on Flickr data. I'm wondering if JB was relying on cameras borrowed from friends. On the other hand, she did have an iPhone at some point that she could have used.

As for Sky's birthday, I agree that is an important indicator. If JB had thrown him a party that was even half as well attended as the one she held for M, I would think someone would have come forward by now (although perhaps they have and LE isn't releasing that info...the only friend I know of who has been questioned by LE is SO and I believe that was because of her role on the day the disappearance was reported).

Maybe this is something M could be asked about. I'd think she would remember doing something fun for Sky's birthday, if anything was done at all.

BBM.

Search&Seek: Has LE spoken with SJ -- she was probably closest to these kids? Have they tried to speak with Julia's brother?

 

[jash]

I am lost. Can you explain what this info re. the pic. is about? TIA

It started here.

 

[Rougelatete]

Volunteers seek help from doctors in search for Sky

http://www.kirotv.com/news/news/volunteers-seek-help-doctors-search-sky/nGJnc/

 

[Janeumayer]

Can someone tell me which church Julia and Davis attended? TIA

 

[SmoothOperator]

I could totally see JB not celebrating Sky's birthday even if he was still alive.

JB was obviously drowning in stress during the time of his birthday in 2011. *If she wasn't particularly bonded with Sky (maybe even resented him?), was isolating in her home to a very extreme point, and was engaged in heavy-duty OCD behaviors so severe that we know she wasn't properly feeding at least one of her children....oh, yeah. *I can totally see her not celebrating his birthday and him still being alive. *I don't believe she had the impetus to even care about his birthday let alone create a celebration.

And, Julia posted on her facebook wall on Sky's birthday of this year. *Just sayin'....

I'll put it this way, Julia from what I have come to know and understand thus far I'll say that Julia not celebrating Sky's birthday is NOT what is any way "telling" for me.. IMO Julia was about as disconnected and NON-bonded with Sky as is humanly possible for a woman who carried him in her womb for nearly a year and then brought him forward through birthing this beautiful baby boy into this world can be.. She is as uncaring and unfeeling toward this little boy and in such a tragic way that my heart hurts everytime I look into the eyes of this beautiful, with rich features and everything good seems to eminate from him and his smile.. Our little dude, Sky!! So, for Julia not to want to celebrate, or actually not to celebrate this beautiful little boy's birthday is not shocking to me in even the slightest bit. Julia has done a helluva a bang up job on convincing everyone she doesn't give a damn about her only son, Sky Metalwala!!

But what Julia does care and does mean something to her is how she is perceived by those very few close to her(and I do not necessarily include her small, immediate family in this few I'm speaking of(namely mom&brother).. While I believe at times Julia cared what those two thought of her and that they perceived her as "good" and a "good" mom).. But during this time in question, the year 2011, and even more specifically end of summer/beginning autumn(Aug-Oct) I am not entirely sure that the relationship with mom/bro was altogether "on" but rather with Julia's deteriorating mental state I believe it's likely her relationship with those two was NOT stable in the least but rather "on" one day and then possibly "off" for days or weeks that followed..*

Now with SJ and SO I believe that Julia has always attempted to keep up appearances as best as possible with these two in making sure to show just how "stable" and what a "good" mom that she was TO BOTH OF HER KIDS.. And it is in these two that I feel some of the very clues and even answers lie as to actually "when" and possibly even "why" or "how"..(if u remember LE stated from the get-go that the answers to what happened to Sky lie within those closest to Julia and Sky.. IMO that's SJ and SO)..

So with all that said It is for those reasons with those 2 individuals that I believe that "if" Sky Metalwala were alive and well on September 2, 2011 that Julia(regardless whether she personally wanted to, cared to, etc,etc or NOT) Julia would have in some way acknowledged and "celebrated" Sky's birthday, if for no other reason but pure self gain on Julia's part of keeping up the "good" appearance of being a "good" mom to BOTH HER KIDS in the eyes of SJ and SO.. You better believe either or both of these women would have contacted Julia about Sky's birthday.. We don't know the answers from these two women, but it's my opinion that within them does lie certain details and therefor certain clues just like this of Sky's birthday..*

We don't know the answer of was it acknowledged or in any way celebrated, if even just with Pizza and gifts from SJ and SO.. Or if it was not celebrated or acknowledged what excuse that Julia made for not celebrating his bday for 2011(like excuses of sick, ailment, other plans, etc, etc)..

IMO this is exactly what LE was speaking of in their saying that those close to Julia:. In them lies answers.. They do.. We just don't know what those answers are to questions like I just posed regarding Sky's bday..

Please know it is not Julia's cold, callous, distance that she so obviously felt towards our beautiful Sky that is "telling" to me in that she didnt want, Or even actually didn't even celebrate or acknowledge this big boy's bday.. None of that is "telling" to me.. What's "telling" is what I described above and what it "tells" is totally dependant upon the answers that either or both SJ or SO possess..

**that may or may not have cleared up my opinion of the importance of Sky's bday as I often tend to talk(or write) myself in circles never clearly getting to my point**:crazy:

 

[jjenny]

I personally believe he went missing during the end of October. It fits with the neighbor seeing him on Oct 15-16. I think what's telling is that JB, according to SM, was willing to give up child support if he allowed her to move the child elsewhere. That only happened in the end of Oct, and there is about a week window when the neighbor saw Sky and JB willing to give up child support (which considering her presumed financial state, why would she ?). It appears she became very isolated, stopped taking children to a doctor, so her potentially not celebrating Sky's birthday fits with the idea that she became more reclusive, and not necessarily that he has already gone missing.

 

[gitana1]

I'll put it this way, Julia from what I have come to know and understand thus far I'll say that Julia not celebrating Sky's birthday is NOT what is any way "telling" for me.. IMO Julia was about as disconnected and NON-bonded with Sky as is humanly possible for a woman who carried him in her womb for nearly a year and then brought him forward through birthing this beautiful baby boy into this world can be.. She is as uncaring and unfeeling toward this little boy and in such a tragic way that my heart hurts everytime I look into the eyes of this beautiful, with rich features and everything good seems to eminate from him and his smile.. Our little dude, Sky!! So, for Julia not to want to celebrate, or actually not to celebrate this beautiful little boy's birthday is not shocking to me in even the slightest bit. Julia has done a helluva a bang up job on convincing everyone she doesn't give a damn about her only son, Sky Metalwala!!

But what Julia does care and does mean something to her is how she is perceived by those very few close to her(and I do not necessarily include her small, immediate family in this few I'm speaking of(namely mom&brother).. While I believe at times Julia cared what those two thought of her and that they perceived her as "good" and a "good" mom).. But during this time in question, the year 2011, and even more specifically end of summer/beginning autumn(Aug-Oct) I am not entirely sure that the relationship with mom/bro was altogether "on" but rather with Julia's deteriorating mental state I believe it's likely her relationship with those two was NOT stable in the least but rather "on" one day and then possibly "off" for days or weeks that followed..*

Now with SJ and SO I believe that Julia has always attempted to keep up appearances as best as possible with these two in making sure to show just how "stable" and what a "good" mom that she was TO BOTH OF HER KIDS.. And it is in these two that I feel some of the very clues and even answers lie as to actually "when" and possibly even "why" or "how"..(if u remember LE stated from the get-go that the answers to what happened to Sky lie within those closest to Julia and Sky.. IMO that's SJ and SO)..

So with all that said It is for those reasons with those 2 individuals that I believe that "if" Sky Metalwala were alive and well on September 2, 2011 that Julia(regardless whether she personally wanted to, cared to, etc,etc or NOT) Julia would have in some way acknowledged and "celebrated" Sky's birthday, if for no other reason but pure self gain on Julia's part of keeping up the "good" appearance of being a "good" mom to BOTH HER KIDS in the eyes of SJ and SO.. You better believe either or both of these women would have contacted Julia about Sky's birthday.. We don't know the answers from these two women, but it's my opinion that within them does lie certain details and therefor certain clues just like this of Sky's birthday..*

We don't know the answer of was it acknowledged or in any way celebrated, if even just with Pizza and gifts from SJ and SO.. Or if it was not celebrated or acknowledged what excuse that Julia made for not celebrating his bday for 2011(like excuses of sick, ailment, other plans, etc, etc)..

IMO this is exactly what LE was speaking of in their saying that those close to Julia:. In them lies answers.. They do.. We just don't know what those answers are to questions like I just posed regarding Sky's bday..

Please know it is not Julia's cold, callous, distance that she so obviously felt towards our beautiful Sky that is "telling" to me in that she didnt want, Or even actually didn't even celebrate or acknowledge this big boy's bday.. None of that is "telling" to me.. What's "telling" is what I described above and what it "tells" is totally dependant upon the answers that either or both SJ or SO possess..

**that may or may not have cleared up my opinion of the importance of Sky's bday as I often tend to talk(or write) myself in circles never clearly getting to my point**:crazy:

No, I got it. Good post.

You talking about Sky reminds me of what I have been thinking about the past few days. he just doesn't look like a happy little child to me, in most of his photos. Most people try to get their kids to smile for photos. He just looks there. I think Sky suffered with inattention. How can a mother be a mother to a toddler if she is in a cleaning frenzy all the time? I mena, even if she didn't resent Sky, if her OCD continued on, unabated, untreated, what would be left for him?

His daddy was gone and all he had was his small sister to care for him. Poor baby. One of the worst things in the world to me is death while imprisoned, before rescue from a long-term, horrible experience.

 

[gitana1]

One other thing. Didn't we predict Julia would not visit M? Her OCD would probably make that difficult, in a supervised setting, as would what I believe is her desire to be in control.

In addition, I think she would fear what M would say or what would be revealed in her interactions with her daughter.

You know, I wonder why Solomon didn't at least have supervised visits himself. Was something about that mentioned at some point? Something about cost? Or did that just apply to what he had to do before he could see them.

If he had supervised visits, at least he could monitor how the kids were doing, that they were alive. Oh boy.

 

[jjenny]

I think he couldn't see the kids because there was a protection order against him. Judge had to lift it in order to allow him to see M after Sky went missing.

"In June 2010, Biryukova filed for a protection order on behalf of herself and their two children, saying Solomon Metalwala had a severe anger problem, was verbally abusive and that he had beat her for the first time the previous Christmas. The reason was that she had allowed Sky - just 4 months old at the time - to sleep later than expected, she said."

http://www.komonews.com/news/local/...-fight-for-custody-of-daughter-135038493.html

 

[Adrienne37]

There definitely were very few photos in which Sky looked like a bubbly little toddler. I just can't imagine what life must have been like after Solomon was taken out of their daily lives. It had to be a living hell. I try not to think about it.

 

[Rougelatete]

I'll put it this way, Julia from what I have come to know and understand thus far I'll say that Julia not celebrating Sky's birthday is NOT what is any way "telling" for me.. IMO Julia was about as disconnected and NON-bonded with Sky as is humanly possible for a woman who carried him in her womb for nearly a year and then brought him forward through birthing this beautiful baby boy into this world can be.. She is as uncaring and unfeeling toward this little boy and in such a tragic way that my heart hurts everytime I look into the eyes of this beautiful, with rich features and everything good seems to eminate from him and his smile.. Our little dude, Sky!! So, for Julia not to want to celebrate, or actually not to celebrate this beautiful little boy's birthday is not shocking to me in even the slightest bit. Julia has done a helluva a bang up job on convincing everyone she doesn't give a damn about her only son, Sky Metalwala!!

But what Julia does care and does mean something to her is how she is perceived by those very few close to her(and I do not necessarily include her small, immediate family in this few I'm speaking of(namely mom&brother).. While I believe at times Julia cared what those two thought of her and that they perceived her as "good" and a "good" mom).. But during this time in question, the year 2011, and even more specifically end of summer/beginning autumn(Aug-Oct) I am not entirely sure that the relationship with mom/bro was altogether "on" but rather with Julia's deteriorating mental state I believe it's likely her relationship with those two was NOT stable in the least but rather "on" one day and then possibly "off" for days or weeks that followed..*

Now with SJ and SO I believe that Julia has always attempted to keep up appearances as best as possible with these two in making sure to show just how "stable" and what a "good" mom that she was TO BOTH OF HER KIDS.. And it is in these two that I feel some of the very clues and even answers lie as to actually "when" and possibly even "why" or "how"..(if u remember LE stated from the get-go that the answers to what happened to Sky lie within those closest to Julia and Sky.. IMO that's SJ and SO)..

So with all that said It is for those reasons with those 2 individuals that I believe that "if" Sky Metalwala were alive and well on September 2, 2011 that Julia(regardless whether she personally wanted to, cared to, etc,etc or NOT) Julia would have in some way acknowledged and "celebrated" Sky's birthday, if for no other reason but pure self gain on Julia's part of keeping up the "good" appearance of being a "good" mom to BOTH HER KIDS in the eyes of SJ and SO.. You better believe either or both of these women would have contacted Julia about Sky's birthday.. We don't know the answers from these two women, but it's my opinion that within them does lie certain details and therefor certain clues just like this of Sky's birthday..*

We don't know the answer of was it acknowledged or in any way celebrated, if even just with Pizza and gifts from SJ and SO.. Or if it was not celebrated or acknowledged what excuse that Julia made for not celebrating his bday for 2011(like excuses of sick, ailment, other plans, etc, etc)..

IMO this is exactly what LE was speaking of in their saying that those close to Julia:. In them lies answers.. They do.. We just don't know what those answers are to questions like I just posed regarding Sky's bday..

Please know it is not Julia's cold, callous, distance that she so obviously felt towards our beautiful Sky that is "telling" to me in that she didnt want, Or even actually didn't even celebrate or acknowledge this big boy's bday.. None of that is "telling" to me.. What's "telling" is what I described above and what it "tells" is totally dependant upon the answers that either or both SJ or SO possess..

**that may or may not have cleared up my opinion of the importance of Sky's bday as I often tend to talk(or write) myself in circles never clearly getting to my point**:crazy:

Makes sense to me! I believe Sky might have been alive on his birthday but that no one was there to verify it. IIRC, it was CT who said that, other than the neighbor, no one had seen Sky since June 15th. I imagine certain people in JB's life are not cooperating with LE, and we, therefore, do not know if they saw Sky during the summer or fall (her mom, brother, etc). But, we do know that one of JB's friends (I think it was SO) has spoken with LE and, since CT said no one has come forward to say they've seen Sky in months, it follows that the friend did not see Sky on his birthday. Hopefully, I'm wrong, but, it's what info available right now.

 

[princesspjs]

I've noticed something about JB's facebook page: she tends to post during times of high stress. Here we go:

March 10, 2010: thanks people on facebook for her birthday wishes
March 11, 2010: JB sends the suicidal text message and is involuntarily hospitalized

*There is a long facebook hiatus while JB is hospitalized and then getting a battery of tests and treatment at Navos Institution; 3 weeks after her discharge, the custody battle ensues and the facebook posts pick up again

September 27, 2010: thanks SO for some facebook pics
September 27, 2010: SM and JB appear before the courts and shared custody is rendered
September 28, 2010: JB rejoices on facebook that she was deemed "the primary parent" by the courts

August 28, 2011: facebook post
August 29, 2011: facebook post
August 31, 2011: I can't understand all the lingo in the court record, but JB is listed as a defendent in a complaint filed on this day in King County Superior Court; it refers to an unlawful detainer

September 21, 2011: another notice of unlawful detainer in the court records
September 22, 2011: facebook post

October 19, 2011: SVU "Missing Pieces" airs
October 19, 2011: JB posts on facebook

October 23, 2011: JB posts on facebook twice
October 24, 2011: JB offers to forego child support and move with the children

November 2, 2011: 12-hour mediation (children reportedly left unattended at home)
November 4, 2011 (at 1:28am): JB's last public facebook wall posting
November 4, 2011: JB backs out of custody agreement
November 5, 2011: REPEAT of SVU's "Missing Pieces"
November 6, 2011: Sky reported missing by JB

*It could all be coincidence, but if JB does post on facebook during times of high stress, then it is possible that the October dates she posted on facebook could be one of the days Sky actually went missing. Those dates are: October, 13, 19, 21, 23 (twice) and November 4th. It also narrows down the days LE would want to check the landfills to October 14, 21, 28 and November 4th.

That is great work!

I am pretty sure that LE can order facebook to release every post and email that she sent and received that she made private or only available to specific people, as well as anything that she deleted and put all of that data into all of the dates in question.

They might find a ton of clues if they checked the deleted posts and communication! Something tells me that JB thought if you delete something on the www that no one would ever see it.

 

[Tricia]

Sky's father Solomon was a guest last night on Websleuths radio.

Marc Klaas joined us as well as Isabelle Zehnder from the Examiner.com

Mr. Metalwalla joined us about 40 minutes into the show.

Here is your to listen:

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/websleuths/2012/01/09/websleuths-radio

The show will automatically start after you click on the link.