Do you get a petsitter for your cats when you go on vacation?
No offense meant but: I know where you are going with this and I am not taking any bait tonight. I have spoken my opinion and I am sticking to it.
Emotions can be strong but we must use care. Sometimes you have an unpleasant thing happen and you have to be able to not let the emotion you feel cause you to err.
Example: My wife has had AML (Leukemia) and after her bone marrow transplant she has had to undergo numerous bone marrow biopsies and still has to have them from time to time. Now in case you do not know what that entails let me tell you. It means they sedate her but not knock her clear out and they do use some shots to attempt to numb the area but the meds cant get deep enough to block everything. So she is awake when they use a tool similar to a tree core sampler, a long tool with a T handle that works like a cork screw to open a hole all the way to the bone in the back of her hip. She feels some of this and screams and hollers, especially when they get to the marrow of the bone and have to also draw off fluid because this negative pressure created by the suction of the fluid being removed is sensed as intense pain. (I am told the pain is more for some people and less for others, some people may not even feel pain.)
It is not unusual for my wife to holler and scream when this happens more than in other parts of the procedure. I am in the room while this is performed. Why? Because she requests it because it makes her feel better, more secure, if I am there.
They also have to get a small chunk of bone sample from deep inside the bone and so the doctor has to waggle that long tool back and forth fairly roughly, trying to get a piece of bone to snap off inside there. The snapping of a piece of bone has a distinct sound.
When I hear her cry from the pain and holler and moan it really gets to me but I have to refrain from allowing my emotion to cause me to stop the doctor from doing what he needs to do to get that marrow sample. It is not an easy thing for me to control but I manage it.
Fortunately for her, my wife only partly remembers what happened after the procedure. . . . . .but I always remember it all, every second of it.
So when I say emotions can be strong and can mislead us in some cases, I have some little experience in that.
Back to our case:
Do I understand people are upset at the parents seeming lack of watching over their children? Yes I get it. Do I think its possible that is a manipulation aspect of this case? Yes, it could be a tactic by the parents and if I am going to judge someones actions and understand those actions I want do it on my terms and not be manipulated by them.
If they are innocent then after the case is solved I will have time to worry about why they did or did not watch the children better and if they are guilty then we will all
know why they did not watch better.
For now my focus is the case of missing Madeleine and the parents actions only matter to me as they relate to their guilt or innocence in criminal actions in causing her disappearance.
