"Who would leave children that young alone?"

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Overdosing your own children is illegal, especially if one of them dies. It will also ruin your high flying medical career in a heartbeat Sounds like a motive to me...remember, LE were supposed to be haring off across the countryside in search of random kidnappers, not looking at K & G.

IMO they believed their exalted professional lives would insulate them from suspicion.




It was just over fifty metres as the crow flies, and about 76 metres to walk directly. Look at google earth it shows it quite clearly. I have no idea why people have nearly doubled the distance.

The article with the nanny does not say that was what Kate ran out screaming. The nanny says she was not at the tapas bar, and heard of the missing child from someone else who told her a man was out shouting a childs name. She thinks she heard Kate say that when they were all in the flat. You also said that the Mccanns did not bother looking for madeleine, but in that same article the nanny describes how everyone, but her mother, was at that point out looking and shouting for her. the mother, she says, was shaking and crying and another woman was trying to comfort her. Other witnesses also say how Kate was later out looking. The nanny also claims that she saw Robert Murat there, yet both he and his mother say he was in their house all night.
And it would take quite a while to come up with a place to hide a body in an area you do not now. Besides why would their holiday companians hide a body for them. Imagine that conversation "oh by the way when we checked the children, the eldest was dead, anyone want to hide the body and cover up the death?". remember they did not know all of the "tapas 9" well, some were friends of friends, and at least one person they had not met before the holiday. I know I would not hide the body of a child and take part in faking an abduction for a couple I had only met five days ago, and who I had not spent much time with during those five days.
I think Gord is right, no-one has been able to say how this couple hid a body, they had no car for another three for weeks, they did not know the area. No-one has been able to come up with a motive for nine people with no criminal records, no history of abuse etc to suddenly decide to cover up a child's death. leaving the children was legal whatever anyone says, so they could not have been charged with neglect, besides they admitted leaving them so covering up leaving the children is not a motive. No-one has come up with a shred of evidence they drugged the children, no-one has come up with any evidence of a fall etc. We could all sit here and make up theories, but it does not mean they are true, and does not mean there is evidence.
 
Well I don't know what kind of evidence of drugging we could expect with Madeline not being found but it is just about the only thing that would make sense and explain how parents could even think of leaving their kids alone for another night even though they knew that the kids had woken up the previous night and cried for their parents and no one heard. "Oh well, it's ok, they won't wake up tonight, I've given them something."
 
But there has never been a shred of evidence they drugged their children,

There has never been a shred of evidence of an abuction, either.

not one. If one is going to come up with motives without any evidence we could claim anything, and say that is their motive.

Also Portugues laws make sit illegal for anyone involved in a case to talk about it, so the McCanns were told they could face prosecution if they taled to the media

Then why did Gerry have a blog from day one, and Kate wrote a book?

about what they had been asked, and told the police etc, yet at the same time someone in the police was passing on information to the press and did not face any sanctions.

Is there any evidence of this?

Further, the police have one goal...finding Madeleine and/or the person who caused her to be missing. They do not have the goal of performing for the media. If someone was leaking information, WHY? What is the motive? LE worked around the clock to find Madeline...Kate and Gerry didn't actually move from the sofa, nor call for their missing child, not once.


The secrecy only lasts a certain amount of time. Kate's book was published after, and Gerry's blog did not contain info covered by judicial secrecy.
The fact the child is gone, and ten people (Jane Tanner, and the smiths) saw a man carrying a child who despite appeals has never come forward is good evidence.
Gerry and Kate did look for their child, witnesses say they saw Gerry still walking the streets in the early morning crying and calling for madeleine. It is not true that they did not move from the sofa.
And someone leaked information to the press, although the press in the Uk have admitted they printed fake stories that made the Mccanns look guilty and printed a front page apology.
The police also made a mistake in allowing Amaral to lead the investiagtion. The police were facing a criminal trial for torturing a woman whose child had gone missing just seven miles away from where Madeleine disappeared, three years before. This meant that the investigation for madeleine was loaded from the start, if an abduction was found then it weakened the police's case against Cipriano, and strengthened her case for torture. Police not involved in this case should have been put in charge, as putting in people who would be seriously disadvantaged if an abductor was blamed, in charge meant the investigation could easily be accused of bias. I think for the Casa Pia investigation they ended up bringing invesigators from outside of the area, why not in this case. There were two girls missing and several other reports of an intrduer breaking into holiday flats and abusing children all within a three year period, and within one hour's distance (plus Yeremi Vagas disappeared in Gran Canaria just two months before madeleine, and although not close, there were reports that paedophiles known to be in the area at the time were also in Portugal and Spain). I believe it is worth getting police from outside the area to look at these cases together. This is missing and abused children we are talking about, why not look again, why stubbonly refuse?

(the trial decided the police had tortured her, but as they hooded her no individuels could be identified, but Amaral did receive a criminal conviction for falsifying evidence to claim she fell and was not tortured).
 
Well I don't know what kind of evidence of drugging we could expect with Madeline not being found but it is just about the only thing that would make sense and explain how parents could even think of leaving their kids alone for another night even though they knew that the kids had woken up the previous night and cried for their parents and no one heard. "Oh well, it's ok, they won't wake up tonight, I've given them something."

No drugs were found in the other children. But you bring us back to the point that thousands use listening services that mean the child is only listened to every thirty minutes. So why would the mccanns drug the children, do you think everyone who uses these services drug the children? Why would then then continue checking on the children?
If we follow the theory that the children were given something (something the police never found, something that does not show up in hair, and no-one remembers selling to the mccanns and yes doctors have to buy drugs from pharmacies like everyone else), and madeleine died then the following had to happen. Either Gerry or Kate found her dead and decided to not take her to the hospital, but in Gerry's case hide the body in the space of five minutes, and then go and chat to a tennis friend, whilst if kate discovered her dead she again had to, in the space of five minutes, decide not to go to the hospital, but to hide the body and run out screaming that madeleine was gone. Also remember that sedative drugs do not kill instantly it would take hours for a sedative to kill a child. The theory also presupposes that althought the parents thought the children would sleep through they still checked on them, and actually checked they were still breathing. It just does not fit any known facts about the Mccann case and sedatives themselves and it contradicts itself.
It is also worth noting that there are no reported cases of children dying from home administered sedatives in the UK in at least the last ten years.
 
Kate McCann doesn't seem to think that there was evidence that the other children hadn't been given anything:
Asked if the twins had been drugged, she said on BBC Radio 4's Woman's Hour today: 'On the night I just remember the twins lying in the cot and not moving - with lights going on and people moving around.

'There was a lot of noise and they just didn't move and I remember several times checking for chest movements. I did feel it was a bit strange that they were not moving let alone waking up.


'I did consider with Madeleine perhaps she had been given something too.'

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...wins-night-Madeleine-taken.html#ixzz1zSeEgcuV

Her saying that the other children appeared to be drugged certainly makes me wonder...
If they were drugged the parents would have the motive and opportunity imo. It makes less sense for an abductor to do so because he would have to administer the drugs and wait for them to take effect, risking that someone comes in and interrupts him. If I was planning to abduct a child I would just silence the child some faster way and get outta there as fast as I could.

Some of your other points don't make sense to me.

Yes, I totally think that it's possible and even probable that some of the thousands of uncaring parents who leave their kids alone when they go boozing drug them to keep them quiet. It fits the MO, and there are cases in the news every once in a while. It is possible that bad UK parents are the exception and they never do this but bad parents elsewhere certainly do.


If I've sedated one of my kids to death and want to cover it up I'm not going to leave the drugs in the room for the police to find.

People working in hospitals may have to buy drugs to get them legally but there are illegal ways of getting your hands on them, and I don't honestly believe that they interviewed every pharmacy worker everywhere that the McCanns or the other Tapas people could have been to and could be sure that all of them absolutely remember every single customer that they've had and what they bought. Some of the stuff may seem pretty harmless and not deeply memorable, it's not like you have to administer intravenous morphine to get potentially harmful effects. Some cold and allergy medications or children's Benadryl will do the trick
http://www.cbsnews.com/2100-500166_162-571181.html
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...ICINE-taking-just-twice-recommended-dose.html
 
Yes, kate said she did after the fact wonder, but when they tested the children no traces were found. Sedatives take a long time to kill someone, they would not kill someone within an hour, unless perhaps they had taken gallons. And they had not gone out boozing, they had drank wine with dinner which is quite normal.
One cannot just say parents who use a listening service are bad in your opinion, so therefore they must use drugs to sedate their children as well, and therefore they must be capable of covering up a child's death and hiding their body, as are their friends and people they do not know that well (they did not know all of the tapas 9 well). Many people think those who let their children walk to school alone are bad parents, but thousands do it, and it does not mean if the child disappears on the way to school the parents must be involved because obviously anyone so irresponsible they do not bother to check their child gets to school safely must be capable of killing their child and covering it up. It's opinion on what constitutes good parenting or not, some people think listenign services are good, some people think it is good to let children walk to school alone, yet others think these are bad parenting practices. It is not hard and fast fact, and certainly making a parenting mistake does not make someone is capable of what people are accusing the mccanns of doing.

You claim they drugged their children so they did not have to bother with them waking, yet they checked on the child. At what point do you think she died. She was seen alive and well at six by a nanny, and at six thirty by David Payne, the McCanns went to dinner two hours later, Gerry was seen going to check on her at approx. nine, and chatted to someone in the street for a few minutes afterwards, Matt Oldfield checked but did not see madeleine at nine thirty, and at ten Kate went to check, and came running out to alert people. At what point did Madeleine die (bearing in mind sedatives take a while to kill someone, and if anyone was with them they would have chance to help them), and her parents hide her body, hide all evidence and hatch a plot with their friends to cover up the crime. No reports seeing them between six thirty and eight thirty, how were they hiding her body? No-one can come up with a theory that fits the facts and witness statements. No-one can come up with a good theory as to why they would not just have said she took the drugs herself thinking they were sweets or something. Also children who were sedated every night would show signs, yet no-one recalls seeing anything wrong with them.
 
I don't like to respond to comments that seem to imply I said something I didn'I did not make. I didn't say the McCanns went boozing, that word was used to refer to the thousands of parents who according to you use these services. I'm positive a lot of them go boozing. If they went to the church they could take the kids with them. But it is irrelevant, because boozing parents and parents who drink wine at dinner in a perfectly civilized manner that is well below the health recommendations of maximum daily intake are just about equally effective in protecting their children who are alone somewhere else.

Not knowing what, when and how much medication you have taken it is impossible to know how long it would take to kill you. Suffocation or an allergic reaction can kill in a matter of minutes.

One cannot just say parents who use a listening service are bad in your opinion, so therefore they must use drugs to sedate their children as well

Well, it is a good thing I didn't say so then.
What I may have said or implied is that parents who are willing to neglect their children by leaving them alone because it's more important to have adult fun probably are more likely in average to drug their kids to keep them quiet than responsible parents who can spare the time to be there for their children and comfort them back to sleep when necessary. Just common sense.

Anyway, the McCanns didn't use a listening service.

OK, I get it, I'm a bad parent because one of my children walks home from school and therefore I don't have the right to say that it's simply wrong to leave babies alone.

I don't know if she was drugged or what time she died or if she died but I am not ready to rule it out based on what I know.

If Matt Oldfield didn't see Madeleine his check up doesn't mean anything to me regarding whether or not Madeleine was alive or not and Gerry or Kate being seen doesn't mean anything in that respect either imo.

I don't see why it's a problem that parents would occasionally check up on their drugged children. You'd want to see that they're still drugged and breathing and if you don't care about that you'd want to look like you've not completely abandoned them because there are other people who know that you have kids and they're not with you and it is considered criminal child neglect in some circles.
 
I am not saying you are a bad parent, just as I am not saying the McCanns are bad parents. Every person has a different opinion on what is good parenting or not. Some people have no problems being fifty metres away and checking on the children every half an hour, some people have no problems letting children walk to school, some have no problems leaving them with teenage babysitters etc, whereas others would consider these to be examples of bad parenting yet should we say these parents are more likely to drug their children just because we may not agree with one or other of these practices.
Anaphylaxis can kill within minutes, but this is incredibly rare and would result in panic in most parents who would go to get help be heard screaming, and if it occured with a OTC drug then why not admit it. We know madeleine was alive and well at six thirty, we know the mccanns are accounted for from eight thirty except for periods of about five minutes, we now the alarm was raised at ten. so between six thirty and eight thirty the following had to happen.
1) Madeleine had to be given the drug
2) madeleine had to become ill from it, and her parents make the choice not to go for help or take her to hospital
3)madeleine had to die, and her parents make the decision to hide the body and claim she was abducted.
4) the parents had to hide the body. They did not have a car, they did not know the area, and the police searched their apartment, and the resort. The staff also searched the resort too. No-one reports seeing them during this time.
5) the parents had to change, and get ready for dinner, then appear at dinner acting perfectly normally and chatty.
6) they also had to throw away any drugs they had given the children, and make sure the twins did not mention it.
No-one has come up with a theory as to how this happend, its all just very vague "oh, she must have died and they hid the body somehow, maybe it is a conspiracy and all their friends are in on it too, and the staff are mistaken or lying too"
 
Are you of the opinion that there is nothing we can say that is objectively bad parenting, based on what is known of children's developmental needs? That, say, leaving babies alone is just a matter of personal taste and it's all just relative to personal opinion, with no objective consequences whatsoever?

No, I never said that we should say that people who let their children walk to school or hire teenage babysitters are more likely to drug their children. However, I am pretty positive that parents who leave their babies alone are more likely to do so. It's just logical. These people have a motive. They need to have their night out without being bothered by the kids. If the brats yell all night the neighbors may call the police. The obvious solution: let's make sure they sleep.

Parents who let their children walk to school have no need to drug them for that, kids don't walk too well when they're unconscious, and parents who could afford a babysitter also have no need to bring the child to an unconscious state since they have hired the teenager to deal with it.

How do we know that they don't know the area? Wasn't it their last night? Did the sit at the tapas bar all the time?
 
http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/parents/yourchildshealthandsafety/yourchildssafetyinthehome/dg_070594
The National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children (NSPCC) advises that:
children under the age of about 12 are rarely mature enough to be left alone for a long period of time
children under the age of 16 should not be left alone overnight
babies, toddlers and very young children should never be left alone


Their things to do list, in case parents do leave their children alone, includes leaving contact numbers and instructions in case of fire or other emergency, telling them what time you'll be back and teaching them first aid which all presuppose that the child is old enough to deal with the information. Most toddlers are too young to call through an emergency phone number list, to understand the clock, to administer first aid and to respond to emergencies.
 
The secrecy only lasts a certain amount of time. Kate's book was published after, and Gerry's blog did not contain info covered by judicial secrecy.
The fact the child is gone, and ten people (Jane Tanner, and the smiths) saw a man carrying a child who despite appeals has never come forward is good evidence.
But wasn't it Mr. Smith who later was so certain that the man carrying the child had looked very much like G. McCann? (see Amaral's book, chapter 21).

Gerry and Kate did look for their child, witnesses say they saw Gerry still walking the streets in the early morning crying and calling for madeleine. It is not true that they did not move from the sofa.
Where does ist say that these witnesses who saw Gerry in the early morning hours heard him crying and calling for Madeleine?
 
Yes, kate said she did after the fact wonder, but when they tested the children no traces were found. Sedatives take a long time to kill someone, they would not kill someone within an hour,

The time frame is 4.5 hours
unless perhaps they had taken gallons. And they had not gone out boozing, they had drank wine with dinner which is quite normal.

Also before dinner, while still in the apartment...but who's counting drinks when you're away on holidays and have no responsibilities? On previous evenings the tapas party had continued revelling until nearly midnight.

One cannot just say parents who use a listening service are bad in your opinion, so therefore they must use drugs to sedate their children as well, and therefore they must be capable of covering up a child's death and hiding their body, as are their friends

Yes one can.

and people they do not know that well (they did not know all of the tapas 9 well).

Many people think those who let their children walk to school alone

Again, toddlers and babies ARE NOT school age children, and a foreign hotel room at night IS NOT comparable to walking a public path in the light of day- this argument is irrelevant.

are bad parents, but thousands do it, and it does not mean if the child disappears on the way to school the parents must be involved because obviously anyone so irresponsible they do not bother to check their child gets to school safely must be capable of killing their child and covering it up. It's opinion on what constitutes good parenting or not, some people think listenign services are good, some people think it is good to let children walk to school alone, yet others think these are bad parenting practices.
It is not hard and fast fact, and certainly making a parenting mistake

Oops! Just a little oversight...three babies alone...


does not make someone is capable of what people are accusing the mccanns of doing.

What does make someone capable then? Fangs and horns growing out of their heads? Over and over we see "normal" parents neglecting/abusing/killing their children with no outward signs of anything amiss.

You claim they drugged their children so they did not have to bother with them waking, yet they checked on the child.

The evening before, NO checking went on. Why was this evening different?

At what point do you think she died. She was seen alive and well at six by a nanny, and at six thirty by David Payne, the McCanns went to dinner two hours later, Gerry was seen going to check on her at approx. nine, and chatted to someone in the street for a few minutes afterwards, Matt Oldfield checked but did not see madeleine at nine thirty, and at ten Kate went to check, and came running out to alert people. At what point did Madeleine die (bearing in mind sedatives take a while to kill someone, and if anyone was with them they would have chance to help them),

Madeline was last seen alive at 5.30pm.


and her parents hide her body, hide all evidence and hatch a plot with their friends to cover up the crime. No reports seeing them between six thirty and eight thirty, how were they hiding her body?

No-one can come up with a theory that fits the facts and witness statements.

No one can come up with anything, mainly because K&G refused to co-operate and basic facts are still unclear. Amaral requested a reconstruction and this was never done.

No-one can come up with a good theory as to why they would not just have said she took the drugs herself thinking they were sweets or something. Also children who were sedated every night would show signs, yet no-one recalls seeing anything wrong with them.

If they had confessed that their daughter died not only because of their own negligence, but also because they had physically harmed her they may well have both lost their careers. If Madeline had been subjected to an autopsy they may well have found evidence that the drugging had been going on for a long, long period of time, not just one or two bad evenings. This may have cost them their freedom. Certainly a motive IMO, and a strong one.

The twins slept through everything, including being hovered over by an abductor, their parents, policemen, staff, visitors, whoever took them to another room and put them back to bed. KM was also witnessed holding her hand in front of their faces as one would to check if a person was breathing or not. Further, the twins bed sheets had vanished.
 
But wasn't it Mr. Smith who later was so certain that the man carrying the child had looked very much like G. McCann? (see Amaral's book, chapter 21).


Where does ist say that these witnesses who saw Gerry in the early morning hours heard him crying and calling for Madeleine?

As Amaral has a criminal conviction for falsifying evidence in a criminal trial relating to a missing child (he even gets a mention in amnesty international 2012 report) and has claimed a body was found in the Jersey care home fiasco, I am not inclined to trust what he writes. But no PJ file makes a claim that Smith saw Gerry McCann, and whenever the Smiths have talked about it they have never said this. Also at the time of the sighting lots of people, inlcuding Mark Warner staff put Gerry on the resort. The sighting also matches very closely Tanner's sighting and neither the Smith's or Tanner were aware of the other ones report at the time they made their reports.
Several newspapers report people saying they saw Gerry looking - they were saying how sad it was that the police were not looking, but the father was out crying and sobbing and calling for his daughter. No-one who was there has ever said the parents did not look.
 
Yes, kate said she did after the fact wonder, but when they tested the children no traces were found. Sedatives take a long time to kill someone, they would not kill someone within an hour,

The time frame is 4.5 hours


unless perhaps they had taken gallons. And they had not gone out boozing, they had drank wine with dinner which is quite normal.

Also before dinner, while still in the apartment...but who's counting drinks when you're away on holidays and have no responsibilities? On previous evenings the tapas party had continued revelling until nearly midnight.

One cannot just say parents who use a listening service are bad in your opinion, so therefore they must use drugs to sedate their children as well, and therefore they must be capable of covering up a child's death and hiding their body, as are their friends

Yes one can.

and people they do not know that well (they did not know all of the tapas 9 well).

Many people think those who let their children walk to school alone

Again, toddlers and babies ARE NOT school age children, and a foreign hotel room at night IS NOT comparable to walking a public path in the light of day- this argument is irrelevant.

are bad parents, but thousands do it, and it does not mean if the child disappears on the way to school the parents must be involved because obviously anyone so irresponsible they do not bother to check their child gets to school safely must be capable of killing their child and covering it up. It's opinion on what constitutes good parenting or not, some people think listenign services are good, some people think it is good to let children walk to school alone, yet others think these are bad parenting practices.
It is not hard and fast fact, and certainly making a parenting mistake

Oops! Just a little oversight...three babies alone...


does not make someone is capable of what people are accusing the mccanns of doing.

What does make someone capable then? Fangs and horns growing out of their heads? Over and over we see "normal" parents neglecting/abusing/killing their children with no outward signs of anything amiss.

You claim they drugged their children so they did not have to bother with them waking, yet they checked on the child.

The evening before, NO checking went on. Why was this evening different?

At what point do you think she died. She was seen alive and well at six by a nanny, and at six thirty by David Payne, the McCanns went to dinner two hours later, Gerry was seen going to check on her at approx. nine, and chatted to someone in the street for a few minutes afterwards, Matt Oldfield checked but did not see madeleine at nine thirty, and at ten Kate went to check, and came running out to alert people. At what point did Madeleine die (bearing in mind sedatives take a while to kill someone, and if anyone was with them they would have chance to help them),

Madeline was last seen alive at 5.30pm.


and her parents hide her body, hide all evidence and hatch a plot with their friends to cover up the crime. No reports seeing them between six thirty and eight thirty, how were they hiding her body?

No-one can come up with a theory that fits the facts and witness statements.

No one can come up with anything, mainly because K&G refused to co-operate and basic facts are still unclear. Amaral requested a reconstruction and this was never done.

No-one can come up with a good theory as to why they would not just have said she took the drugs herself thinking they were sweets or something. Also children who were sedated every night would show signs, yet no-one recalls seeing anything wrong with them.

If they had confessed that their daughter died not only because of their own negligence, but also because they had physically harmed her they may well have both lost their careers. If Madeline had been subjected to an autopsy they may well have found evidence that the drugging had been going on for a long, long period of time, not just one or two bad evenings. This may have cost them their freedom. Certainly a motive IMO, and a strong one.

The twins slept through everything, including being hovered over by an abductor, their parents, policemen, staff, visitors, whoever took them to another room and put them back to bed. KM was also witnessed holding her hand in front of their faces as one would to check if a person was breathing or not. Further, the twins bed sheets had vanished.

No the time frame is two hours. Madeleine was seen alive and well at six by a nanny, she was then seen alive and well by Payne at six thirty. Between eight thirty and ten Kate and gerry never left the table together and each are only unaccounted for for five minutes.

No report states the childrens bed sheets had vanished. This sort of rumour has been put about by people like the "madeleine mccann research group" which is not really a research group and just spreads misinformation. Hence they can be banned from printing them.

All the group said they checked the children every night (apart from the couple that had a monitor), staff in the tapas bar say this too. that si why they went to the tapas bar, it was close (fifty metres directly, 76 to walk) so the bar allowed them to boo it up for the week and actually wrote in their reservations book that they needed to book so they were close to the children to check on them.

And why is it ok that a school age child walks alone. School age children get abducted all the time, so whilst they may be safer left in a flat they are not safe left walking to school. So a parent who lets their child walk to school knowing abduction is a risk, is just as bad or as good a parent as one who leaves them alone for half an hour. The fact is that it is legal in most of Europe to leave children asleep and check on them every half an hour, hence listening services are commonly used. If it was illegal listening services would also be illegal.
And plenty of people have come up with theories as to what happened. The british police believe she was abducted as that fits the facts, and fits in with the other attacks on tourist children in the area. But some people decide to ignore the facts, claim anyone who states something that means the mccanns could not do it is obviously part of a conspiracy. I have heard people say the British government, police, FSS, the portuguese prosecution service, all witnesses etc must be "in on it". It would be comical if it were not so serious.
making up ideas such as "well if they had drugged her" and then adjusting the facts to fit in with it to claim that was a really good motive, means nothing. We could claim that they covered it up because they did not want not be caught running an international drug cartel, that they did not want their real identities as russian spies or former IRA terrorists exposed etc and therefore that would be a good motive. The fact is the children were tested a few weeks later (and the drugs would stay in their hairs for more than this time), and nothing was found. It is also a fact that three years before Joana Cipriano disappeared just seven miles away and was never found (and courts rules her mother was tortured by police), yeremi Vargos disappeared two months before Madeleine McCann in Gran Canaria (and two suspects were known to have posed as holiday flat cleaners there, and were also known to travel in Portugal around the same time Madeleine McCann disappeared), and several other British children were abused by an intruder who broke into holiday flats all within an hour of PDL. these facts are much more relevant to madeleine mccans disappearence, than made up stories that always begin with "well, maybe if they had been doing such and such that would be good motive for the parents).
 
Are you of the opinion that there is nothing we can say that is objectively bad parenting, based on what is known of children's developmental needs? That, say, leaving babies alone is just a matter of personal taste and it's all just relative to personal opinion, with no objective consequences whatsoever?

No, I never said that we should say that people who let their children walk to school or hire teenage babysitters are more likely to drug their children. However, I am pretty positive that parents who leave their babies alone are more likely to do so. It's just logical. These people have a motive. They need to have their night out without being bothered by the kids. If the brats yell all night the neighbors may call the police. The obvious solution: let's make sure they sleep.

Parents who let their children walk to school have no need to drug them for that, kids don't walk too well when they're unconscious, and parents who could afford a babysitter also have no need to bring the child to an unconscious state since they have hired the teenager to deal with it.

How do we know that they don't know the area? Wasn't it their last night? Did the sit at the tapas bar all the time?

No you do not think people who leave their school age children to make their own way to school are more likely to drug children, but neither do I think that about people who use listening services. But personally I see no difference between leaving a sleeping toddler and checking on them every half an hour, and leaving a school age children to make their own way to school. Everyone knows abduction is a risk for children to walking to school, but parents who let them walk to school have acknowledged the risk, but decided they do not regard it as a big risk, or the benefits of not having to take the child to school outweigh any risk of the child being abducted. They are just as responsible as people who only check on their children every half an hour. So if I thought people who just checked every half an hour were likely to drug children, I would think those who let school age children who walked to school alone were just as capable of child abuse. Listening every half an hour and letting your children to walk to school alone, are both legal, so it is just down to a parent's opinion.

Well witness put them in the resort for nearly all the time, going out maybe once or twice. You would have to now an area well to be able to put a body in a public place no-one, not even the locals, could find it. especially as you did not have long, and had to walk there.

on the differing parents ideas. Here is an article about two women arguing about whether its OK to have sex when your baby is in the bed. My own view is that this is revolting, but apparently lots of people do. It just shows what is Ok to one person, can be considered to border on abuse by another.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/a...s-tells-This-Morning-verging-child-abuse.html
 
But no PJ file makes a claim that Smith saw Gerry McCann, and whenever the Smiths have talked about it they have never said this.
Smith did contact the police again after seeing Gerry in Sept 2007 step down the plane carrying one of the twins.

The sighting also matches very closely Tanner's sighting and neither the Smith's or Tanner were aware of the other ones report at the time they made their reports.
But the man Tanner claims to have seen walked in the opposite direction than the man the Smith family saw.
 
I give up.

Mountains and mountains of circumstantial evidence, and still some keep throwing out irrelevant arguments and statistics as some sort of defence for two incredibly selfish people who left their tiny babies alone in a dark strange room to cry alone with fear, KNEW ABOUT THEIR FEAR, and still put their own desire for tapas with their mates first.

Words fail me, that anyone could think that this doesn't display a deeply unnatural psyche. The apartment was NOT 50m away, easily watched, or walked to. K&G could not even SEE the apartment from where they sat - the seating plan shows both K&G sat with their backs to the apartment at dinner!

On and on it goes, the list of examples of controlling, unnatural, selfish parents who put themselves first at all times.

One of the reasons these paragons of parental virtue even chose this holiday spot in the first place was because it came equipped with a creche. This enabled them to free themselves of their tiresome children for approximately 10 hours a day.

Instead of having drinks and tapas with their friends oh, say, at lunch or in the afternoon, these wonders of parenthood decided instead to just desert their children, AGAIN, this time without the benefit of a paid carer that they could well afford.

This sort of behaviour cannot be disputed. It is acknowleged public fact. Who in their right minds call these people GOOD PARENTS?

The psychology behind a mother who can put her slap on, have a nice relaxing wine, and swan off leaving her babies to wake up crying and frightened AGAIN, reveals completely unnatural parental behaviour and CANNOT be defended no matter how you look at it, by any parent who loves their children.

Once you take away that essential and most natural instinct, eg to make sure your children are safe, warm, and happy, IMO you have the sort of personality who is completely capable of lying about it to cover up their failing.

Every half fact that is being used here to defend the McCanns has been roundly discredited. The fact is, due to those involved lawyering up and refusing to cooperate, the basic events of that night remain contradictory and in dispute. To this day there has been continued refusal to cooperate in a reconstruction which would aid enormously in proving fact from fiction, and therefore, presumably, aid the search for one little blonde girl who has apparently been less important, from day one.
 
The risk of an abduction is not the primary reason not to leave little children alone. It is not a matter of mere parental opinion imo. If parental instincts differ, there is science behind it. Developmental psychology has shown that it is not good for babies and very young children to be left alone. They tend to be scared if they wake up alone and no one answers their crying in a shortish amount of time and repeated experiences of abandonment are harmful for the development of attachment, trust and self-worth. Parents are of course free to ignore that if they don't mind potentially scarring their children for life.
 
The laws in Ontario, Canada, where I live, are pretty clear about what is acceptable parenting and what is not.

It is acceptable for a child who is six or older to walk to school alone. For one thing, the child is unlikely to actually be "alone" - there will be other children and often parents also walking to school. If the child becomes frightened or hurt, there are likely to be other, older children and parents who can help. A child this age is also more able to handle unexpected situations.

Leaving a toddler or preschooler alone is NOT legal where I live. Even checking back every 30 minutes doesn't make it legal. The risks are not just physical (the child could get hurt) but emotional (the child could be frightened, feel abandoned, be traumatized by not being able to find the parent). In fact, we know that Madeleine did feel frightened and abandoned, because she told her mother that.

I don't know what happened to Madeleine. But the callous behaviour of her parents makes me unable to rule them out. First, they chose to leave the children alone even though caregivers were available. Then, even after Madeleine woke up and was scared and distressed that no parent came when she cried, the parents again left them alone. I find that appalling, and it would be illegal here, as it should be.

I haven't heard or seen all the times the parents were on TV, but I have heard them say on at least one occasion that they didn't feel badly about having left the children alone, that they still felt it was a reasonable thing to have done. I think that is horrifying, especially in the context of what happened.

Tink
 
My sense of parenting is so acute that when I even put myself in Kates place (ie. going off night after night to party) my stomach actually rolls over.

I literally have a physical reaction to merely the thought of these children alone and frightened, and I am on the other side of the planet.

Anyone else feel this?
 
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