He could have packed up all of his belongings and left them without saying anything at all. He didn’t have to fake his own death to “peace out”.
This. He could simply have said "we're done here" and moved out. He could have cut contact - its legal to do so, regardless of ethics/morals, so long as he fulfilled legal obligations such as child support, alimony, whatever else was required in his jurisdiction.
Its the going the extra step to fake his own death and run off to a country where he's essential unreachable that's the real sting.
That's awfully cold. For all we know, they weren't relieved. We don't know.
But we do know that kids can have lasting psychological repercussions from more "usual" losses of parental figures, particularly when it's time for them to have their own relationships. Things like divorces, even ones where the kids see both parents regularly; CPS situations where kids are removed from their homes; etc. Even if it resolves a bad situation, the change is still hard on young folks who are in the process of learning how to maintain mature relationships with others and forming their expectations, trust, and boundaries for those relationships.
So, yeah, I don't think it's unreasonable to assume that their dad choosing to abandon them out of nowhere, and making them think he was dead to avoid actually talking about his problems with his wife/family/others, might cause some issues for them regardless of what was going on at home.
The kids aren't really young children, so I'm hoping that they'll be resilient with some therapy that reassures them that this is external to them and makes them see that he's the one that's missing out, not them. He's the one who's going to miss out on all their milestones and achievements. It's his problem, and his fault, and his loss, and its not a reflection on them. Only him.
Sometimes people walk away from their family/lives because of severe depression, but I don't see that here.
If he was messaging a "woman" and transferring money into foreign accounts, in my opinion, it was a scam. Then when he landed, either the woman wouldn't show up, or she did, but with the goal of romancing him until she could get her hands on the bank account.
This is all just my speculation, and I hope he's okay. Because when you're being scammed, you kind of an lose touch with reality. And there could have been very dangerous people on the other side of the scam.
What is strange about this case is faking his death. Maybe the life insurance was for his family and was his way of leaving them without having to feel a lot of guilt.
All my opinions only.
Yeah I do wonder a bit just how much police are 100% sure this was actually by choice. I mean, I assume it was all by choice, but if not he could be in serious trouble? Human trafficking and scams do go together. While I think its more likely he's a deadbeat, I just hope police aren't jumping to conclusions and they know he's fine. That said if he is in Uzbekistan it sounds like there's not much they can do for him or about him either way.
You can divorce your partner, but can you legally give up your kids? At the moment I don't even mean the money (I guess you always have to pay), but the visitations and what not? Can you go no contact with your kids if you want to, legally fully give up your parental rights by yourself? Or is the only way to be deemed unfit for parenting (abusing kids or similar)? Similarly, can you legally move abroad if your kids stay in the country?
Of course. He'd have to pay, but of course you can go non contact with your kids - and they can do the same to you. You do not have to be found unfit by a court. You can't abandon your kids
literally without legal repercussions, but if someone else is looking after them then you're free. It's why I don't get why he bothered faking his own death. Men go deadbeat and stop seeing their kids all the time, to be frank.
As a parent he has a legal responsibility to financially support his children. So the 'method' he chose to leave his family not only left them in limbo psychologically but it also enabled him to avoid supporting his children financially (if he succeeded with his plan). Simply selfish. AND illegal since he was avoiding his responsibility to his children if they are under 18.
I wonder how he was planning on supporting himself in his new life?
This, its why I assume the choice is about money, not about the seeing the kids or not. He didn't want to pay child support. I guess its definitely better than murder, but then that just means the bar is in hell. JMO.