ExpectingUnicorns
. . . only the pure of heart can see.
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I full heartedly agree with your analysis that the officers could have done nothing to break them up! But I sure do wish they could have seen that BL was the offender rather than judging Gabby as being the aggressor. She was already so victimized, IMO, that she was automatically deflecting the blame on herself; she certainly didn't need to be pushed further down that rabbit hole.And I still firmly believe that NOTHING those LE officers could have done legally that day would have broken them up and sent them their separate ways. Either one arrested (Him based on the 911 call, her based on corroborating interviews on the scene where BOTH of them said she was hitting him), the other would have filed the paperwork the next day to waive the no contact order and they would have gone on their way. The bottom line is that no matter how we evaluate it, the outcome will not be different. Whatever happened, ~2 weeks later, Gabby died. We may learn the circumstances, or we may never know. I wish the focus was more on what we DO know, and evaluating what we DO instead of a broken record of what we don't know, and making up our own theories filling in those blanks.
PERHAPS it is an opportunity for those officers and many others to learn more about those narcissistic relationships and how to identify them. But, being a narcissist is not against the law. And it is REALLY DIFFICULT to convince people in the throws of relationships with them to see the problems.
Parents and loved ones have been, for generations, trying to thwart toxic romances to no avail. LE had no chance of succeeding in a one hour interview ~ But it doesn't mean they couldn't have done better. MOO (Edited for spello.)