I’m fascinated by the “grieving” issue. I work in a psychology practice, & we use the word grieving pretty liberally, the vast majority of times to do with abrupt life changes, trauma exposures, etc, definitely not exclusively to do with a death.
Why I’m fascinated is because SB walked that word back so fully—it was the wrong word, he said, & he had said it because he was tired. Ok, that could be true. However, he could have so easily said something like, “everyone wants to take it the wrong way, BL was obviously grieving that they broke up in Wyoming.” But instead, he says BL actually wasn’t grieving, like at all, for anything.
The idea that he so fully backed away from that word suggests to me that there had only been one connotation in mind when he used that word—that of a death. The other possible interpretations for “grieving” weren’t in his mind both at the time he used it, or after, when asked about its possible implications.
And of course, as you mentioned too, anyone grieving the death of Gabby on Sept 13 was the killer, because only the killer knew she was dead then.
JMO