WildcatRunner
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I began dating my now-husband soon after he gained custody of his son, aged 6.
I moved in eventually and was the girlfriend for about 10 years, before I eventually convinced him to marry me. (Not really the exact sequence of events, but we joke about it.)
Anyway, I was the one that took him to school, picked him up, signed reading logs, cheered him on at wrestling tournaments, took away his cell phone/grounded him when he messed up, helped him through girl issues, etc. Everything his mother wasn't there to do because she moved out of state. My husband's job didn't always afford him the ability to do everything. When my husband finally gave in to my pressure to marry me (lol), this kid actually was the minister of our ceremony. (We had an actual ordained minister sign off.)
Anyway, this case has been hard for me personally because I always joked that I was the "step-monster" and now I realize how much I detest E.G...
She is a HORRIBLE example of what can happen with live-in GF.
My step-son never lost contact with his mother. There was even a time when she flew in to see him and had trouble with her rental car reservation when she arrived at the airport. I/We rented a car for her so she could still come and see him.
I'm not asking for accolades. I'm just completely floored that a person that is in charge of another woman's child could possibly act the way I've read that E.G. has behaved.
If you love a man with a child, you accept their whole life.
This case hurts me. Why/How could a female have so much evil in her heart to hurt the flesh and blood of the man she's in love with?
Sorry for such a long post that might appear to be about ME. That's not my point.
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I understand your sentiments completely. I am I'm a relationship with a man with a now 4 year old. Mom is present, and an amazing mother. But early on, he would tell me how he wouldn't think twice about leaving me alone with his child. I said *I* wasn't comfortable with it. Stories of horrible step"things" (I refuse to give them the title of parent) make honest people like me worried. What if an accident happens and it's questionable? I would never want either parent to think I harmed their child intentionally. I did not have any alone time with the child until BOTH parents felt comfortable. Today, I love this child like my own, and would do anything for her, giving my life included, and hate people like EG even get involved in the lives of people with previous children.