CathyinTexas
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And I am sure that many of their supporters live a similar lifestyle in Arkansas.
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Um, that's a video, not the entire big picture of this family's life. You can't seriously look at a video that was posted for the world to see and determine that represents an accurate depiction of the family's every day life. Abuse is rarely videotaped and shared to the world. What a naive outlook.This is a video of the family when the older ones were home. The oldest was 16. This is not a family that others have described here. These children are full of delight, able to express themselves. There is no abuse here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jOA5l7A-rVs
This was recorded a day or so after the children were removed. I saw a picture of him with the family at one of the visits shortly after this started. Of all the faces, his seemed to be the most solemn and distressed. I suspect he had no idea what would really happen. He probably didn't know his siblings would be in foster care for over a year. I suspect he is disillusioned with all of this. Time will tell.Thank you for this post! I went searching and found it - I have not seen this previously. All I can say is thank goodness he has a level head! I am so impressed with this man and I applaud his courage and honesty! (the video takes quite awhile to load - at least it did for me).
http://www.arkansasmatters.com/stor...e-son-of-stanley/21953/Bx31OC_C3kSuX3jK2uw4wA
Purely from the son's statements, HS sermon re: loving rod of guidance/beat or hell, and the videotapes of the parents - I can only imagine what it might be like to be a child growing up in this household.
What happens if a child has a bad day? What happens if you are crabby, or not feeling well, or wanting to play outside when you can't, or daydreaming? What happens if you cry or are hurt? What happens if you get in trouble or have a fight with your sibling? Who do you talk to when your heart is heavy or you are fearful?
Do you get comfort (or sermons) from your parents? Do you speak up for yourself? Do you dare? Can you write down something you are thinking about and not be challenged/in trouble for thinking outside of the box?
Are you happy? What would make you more happy? What do you like best about your life? What do you not like so much? What would be great if it could change? What should stay the same?
I think the older son who spoke out would have much to say that would be so enlightening for the parents to hear - if he could be recorded and the parents watched the playback so he could freely speak. I believe him when he said it was better to remove the children until the case is fully investigated. He did not minimize the children's experience in any way (which these parents have continually done IMO).
This is a video of the family when the older ones were home. The oldest was 16. This is not a family that others have described here. These children are full of delight, able to express themselves. There is no abuse here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jOA5l7A-rVs
I don't think a random five years old clip showing a minute and a half of no abuse happening proves anything really. Even abused kids could be happy when they get Christmas presents, and a lot of things could also change in five years. Say, little kids who think mom and dad are the best thing since sliced bread might not get abused but they could grow up to become teenagers who have independent thoughts and then if mom and dad think they need to beat the devil out of them...
JMO I think that the teenager blaming is a warning sign that I wouldn't discount too easily. If the family is saying that the teenagers are lying it sounds like the teenagers said something they don't like to hear and if the teenagers said something to get out of there it is very likely it is not a happy home. Foster care is usually not such a joyride that teenagers frequently prefer it if they could also choose to continue living in their own loving and happy family with no abuse.
And what do you think a family with abuse looks like?
Exactly, it is a process that the state will stick to. Once children are in custody there are very few who are returned immediately. If they are returned it would be in the 72 hour time frame. The process is so many hearings over a period of a year to 18 months. At the end of that time the parents rights have to be severed and the children put up for adoption or the children returned to the parents. It is a time frame tied to the federal mandates regarding the funding. I am concerned for the children to be in foster care for that length of time and hope that the court will decide on kinship care, so at least they can be with family who loves them.
This young man who is so articulate and a critical thinker was raised solely in the home of these two parents. He wasn't influenced by any others. So it is a positive testimony to their parenting, imo.
I doubt these kids had any idea what they would be getting into as far as foster care.
I doubt these kids had any idea what they would be getting into as far as foster care.
This young man who is so articulate and a critical thinker was raised solely in the home of these two parents. He wasn't influenced by any others. So it is a positive testimony to their parenting, imo.
I doubt these kids had any idea what they would be getting into as far as foster care.
This was recorded a day or so after the children were removed. I saw a picture of him with the family at one of the visits shortly after this started. Of all the faces, his seemed to be the most solemn and distressed. I suspect he had no idea what would really happen. He probably didn't know his siblings would be in foster care for over a year. I suspect he is disillusioned with all of this. Time will tell.
Just jumping off your post...I've been following this case closely. I was unaware that the decision had been made that foster care would last for a year. Could someone fill me in please? When was this decision made? TIA