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I agree that character speaks volumes. Toward the end of my marriage, my ex displayed some quite disturbing characteristics. I had what I considered a happy 10 year marriage only to discover that my ex suddenly seemed to want out. His solution? Try to convince our friends and family that I was unstable. I wanted a baby, he did not. So one morning he confronted me with a condom that he accused me of puncturing in an effort to get pregnant. This was a fabrication on his part and to this day I have not forgiven him for the distress this action caused me. It was a cruel and low act. Looking back, I now know that it was emotional abuse and a cowardly attempt to prompt me to end the relationship. He still attended counselling though (at his insistence) so he could "appear" to be saving his marriage whilst sabotaging it behind closed doors. This is a pattern of abuse from a coward. He eventually left, hooked up with someone else almost immediately and the next thing he's on page 3 of the CM charged with stalking a former work colleague! (BTW, I was still his wife and was also asked to attend court to give evidence). Incredibly, he also threw himself down stairs and gave himself bruises so that police would think the "stalker" wasn't him and was after him too!
So you see, I have learnt that a person that you think you know so well can in fact turn out to be someone so completely different that you have difficulty getting your head around it. I believe some people are capable of almost anything to get what they want, to protect themselves and their own and will cross any boundary to get it.
Did Allison unfortunatley discover this? Food for thought.
Wow, how awful for you!! Yes, men can be quite manipulative when they want and make us feel like it's our fault, no matter what it may be.