ozazure
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As unlikely as people find AR's allegations, I think it does young men a disservice to dismiss out of hand that a step-mother would have sex with her step-son. Because I read a lot about education and true crime, my Google news feed is constantly sending me a stream of news articles about female teachers being charged with sleeping with their mid-teen students. Women do this. Incest is one of the most popular *advertiser censored* categories. A lot of sexual abuse is committed without coercion, on both females and males. Personality disorders, bad boundaries, people have deep seated ego/emotional needs they are driven to have met and if they are unhealthy they do it in unhealthy, damaging ways. One instance of incestual abuse I know of had a very young teen actively responding/pursuing in ways that would be appropriate if they were same aged non-minor non-relatives - which is no excuse at all for it to occur, in fact, it is perhaps worse as it is evident the child is already grappling with some trauma. Very messy to untangle, a lot of shame involved. This stuff remains sealed in the vault of families. It is not unusual for the whistle-blower to be the one with nothing to lose.
Would we write off a drug addicted woman who claimed an emotional and sexual "affair" with a step-father because of her drug use? I think we would probably think that is the sort of chaotic and traumatic adolescence that contributes to people developing substance abuse issues.
It is tricky because Karen is a victim and who can stand up for what went on in that house? AR is making the allegation, BR says she isn't here to say, most likely because he killed her so he's hardly going to bat for her. But I don't think that what AR alleges is that out there crazy in the scheme of things that actually happen, even if you believe that it did not happen in this instance.
Would we write off a drug addicted woman who claimed an emotional and sexual "affair" with a step-father because of her drug use? I think we would probably think that is the sort of chaotic and traumatic adolescence that contributes to people developing substance abuse issues.
It is tricky because Karen is a victim and who can stand up for what went on in that house? AR is making the allegation, BR says she isn't here to say, most likely because he killed her so he's hardly going to bat for her. But I don't think that what AR alleges is that out there crazy in the scheme of things that actually happen, even if you believe that it did not happen in this instance.