The absolute saddest thing about abused, controlled people is that they sort of forget how to think for themselves. They are so accustomed to having their every move decided for them (.... or else!), that they forget that if they can't get their passport - that's okay - go to the Canadian Embassy and apply for a replacement one with current visa attached (people lose their passports every day). If they can't get into their apartment - that's okay too - ask the police to accompany them to get their personal belongings out, the police will do that.
Nothing is insurmountable ... it just seems that way when they have been completely robbed of independent thinking.
Grrr! This makes me so mad! I was once married to what I now I recognize as a Narcissist. (Not a malignant Narcissist. Just a spoiled male child that happened to be Narcissistic)
He led me to believe I was such a hopeless case, that I actually believed him. Even forgot I knew how to drive a car despite I had a Queensland drivers licence. (He never had a licence at all.)
Sure, I had a career before meeting him, but he pursued the line, that my Nursing work was worth, worse than nothing. (I was a Registered Nurse, aspiring for a second certificate). He pursued the line, it was close to prostitution, due to the fact Nurses view naked bodies.
Strangely enough I believed him regarding the useless bit.
Escaped home to Queensland, where I lived without a car for a few years.
Was a big leap forward to remember I had a drivers licence, could actually drive a car, and (God help everyone else); Drove a car!
(That as a long time ago, but I remember all)
Moral to this story: Despite how beautiful or how intelligent or educated, or how successful or how whatever a girl is: She can be taken in by a Narcissist.
And God help her, she cannot see that.
Must be wearing some sort of rose tinted glasses or something at that extremely vulnerable time in her life. Between the age of say 18 and 30.
Please take care in judging others!