icu nurse -- You rock. Thanks heaps for the timeline.. It gutted me, though, to read how much fear, no -
terror- is evident between the lines of all of that.
I am, and no kidding here, quite often a sociopath magnet. For some reason that afik has NOTHING to do with who I am, they LOVE me (well, they don't.. I am speaking figuratively, as they cannot actually love anyone...) like I have a sign over my head. It's insane. Mainly as I do not put up with their crap- the minute I identify the traits, they are g-o-n-e (this is why I never bring men I haven't known -forever- near my home or my child, you never know who the hell people are until they show their colours).
Anyhow, point being -- through these experiences, I have come to recognise certain things. And as someone upthread was saying about having Lisa at home while he played the field - yep, a lot of men cheat. But not like this. It's like they NEED an 'anchor' - someone to control and pretend to love (but really, just an extension of themselves they can control, while being out of control), while they go about collecting less important 'satellite' women. But whatever 'love' they imagine they have isn't a real emotion, and the --minute- the 'anchor' leaves or becomes undesirable, she is replaced. Hello, RL!!
Sorry if that was TMI, it just struck me as maybe being relevant to Lisa's situation. I've seen it several times, in emotionally retarded men I have had a 'relationship' with, and men I have simply known -- they love having me for just a "friend" also, wtf is up with that.. I wish I knew.
Probably working off some karma for being Atilla the Hun in a past life, or some crap.