Via Marple
Biased against secretive mass killings
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Long but great! I think you come very close to what had happened.I have a background as a social worker and as DOCS worker, now retired. Just taking away for a moment the issues of Tegan etc. we are left with an intelligent woman who has had 5 pregnancies. So she knew how it happened and the results of what happened. She has 2 terminations early in her career. She knew what to do. Then she indulges in high risk behaviour by carrying to full term, which no-one apparently notices. (ahem)
Why did she not opt for contraception or termination as a sensible person with career aspirations might do?
I can't get my head around why she chose to risk exposure and her career ending over other more protective means. 5 pregnancies astounds me, it's not like contraception was unavailable. I heard her say she compartmentalizes incidents in her life, I imagine that is common among elite athletes, helping them to focus fully on what they are doing. That's where baby Tegan is. She shows an amazing
proclivity for denial which clearly runs in the family. She actually believes what she says is true. She isn't lying in a pathological way she has just put it in the compartment and left it there. It seems that is the way she coped, it's like a kind of disassociation she may or may not have a memory of.
The denial helps her to disassociate.
I have a feeling she does not know what she did with Tegan, it's locked away with other stuff. But she does believe her own lies because they are protection for her psychological frailty. I would have been just as concerned as the other SW, especially as she went on to have more child/ren. I don't judge her to be risky towards her other child/ren because it's overt and everyone knows about it. The timing was right.
The other children were not in the right place at the right time, so they were shrouded in a secrecy aided and abetted by insane levels of denial. Her first thought during her exposure was how her parents would react, not for the babies and not for Tegan. I don't know what is wrong with her other than these observations. Sorry it's so long.
I guess social workers like you, with experience with people "on the ground", actually have a better understanding of Keli, than those experts who study and analyse... For some reason they tend to be taken by her charm/charisma, not really seeing through that imo.