Bohemian
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Thank you for saying this, LozDa! :loveyou:
This is somewhat O/T, and I hesitate to share this lest someone decide I deserve to be chucked off a balcony, but I have BPD. I'm grateful that public perception of this disease (which is closely related to PTSD and strongly linked to childhood sexual abuse) has improved leaps and bounds in my lifetime. While ignorant stereotypes about manipulation and abusiveness still abound, these damaging prejudices are being challenged and slowly dismantled, thanks in large part to the work of Marsha Linehan.
It pains me to see these outmoded stereotypes promoted here, so I felt it would be the responsible thing to challenge them.
As LozDa said, it's far from the truth to say that people with BPD are all abusers. In fact, it's more likely to be the other way around. Victims of childhood abuse are especially prone to re-victimization later in life.
While my husband and I have had our share of turbulence in our relationship (which is characteristic of interpersonal dynamics for BPD sufferers), I know he would attest that I've never been abusive to him.
There's nothing to indicate that Rrie suffered from BPD, but I am troubled by the implication that somehow, if she had, her death might have been deserved. No one deserves to die the way she did, to have her most vulnerable and private moments laid bare for the world to pick apart and judge in the service of enabling a predator.
Thank you for your candour and courage in disclosing that you live with BPD. I salute you, The One and Only Unique and Precious Christina.