i guess my psychological make-up makes it physically impossible for me to feel empathy for a person i am also enraged with on behalf of the child.
I can feel great empathy for a mother who loses a child through no fault of her own. I can feel empathy for a mother who made a simple 'human' mistake (thought the fire was banked for the night, didn't know the curtains were too close, was wrong, house burns down killing children.)
when i find that a mother was knowingly exposing a child to unlawful, dangerous, risky circumstances, criminals and criminal behavior, when i see a parent can't be bothered to get off the couch and go physically look for their 6 year old when they haven't seen them for hours, when i see a mother put her children in the back of a seatless van of a strange man, allow the strange man to escort their little girl to the 'changing room' in exchange for the promise of a wal-mart gift card...when cps has stepped in before, given them a chance to straighten up, and they don't. When they clearly value their drug of choice, their grifter ways, their partying lifestyle, their rotation of boyfriends.....i just can not feel empathy. I can't feel it for the parent who doesn't value their child and empathize with their own child until they are dead.
Not all mothers are created equal. Some are sociopaths, narcissists, addicts. They themselves could not empathize with their own child. When i see that, i can not physiologically/psychologically empathize with that mother. I just can't. And i don't personally believe they automatically deserve compassion because they happened to have brought a human life into this world. That's not what makes a mother with a capital m, due all honors, respect, and compassion, in my opinion. What makes a mother is what you do when the child is here.
this!!