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:tantrum: is my guess.
From Bryce or his ex girlfriend?
:tantrum: is my guess.
Getting to the bottom of this incident is important. But I wonder if the way it played out has a simple explanation. Pure speculation on my part from a mother's point of view - when it's your own kid's word vs. that of his or her friend(s), some mothers have a very hard time believing the friends. They'll believe their own child over anyone else, even when the "evidence" should be crystal clear to them.
Not trying to blame anyone here, just looking to make some sense of this.
From Bryce or his ex girlfriend?
Getting to the bottom of this incident is important. But I wonder if the way it played out has a simple explanation. Pure speculation on my part from a mother's point of view - when it's your own kid's word vs. that of his or her friend(s), some mothers have a very hard time believing the friends. They'll believe their own child over anyone else, even when the "evidence" should be crystal clear to them.
Not trying to blame anyone here, just looking to make some sense of this.
I don't think anyone is really second-guessing his mom...just wondering about what else there is to the story about the keys. It may not be our business, but it does not stop one wondering. Generally if young people are inclined to take keys from a friend, there is a very good reason, not done lightly. JMO
I'm a mother and I'd definitely be second guessing myself. As it is, I do so often. Kids don't come with a playbook.
All comments aren't meant to crucify; trying to get to some truth here is all (my perspective on questioning mom's decisions).
From Bryce or his ex girlfriend?
Big mistake imo.
Some of my best leveling info (getting a gage on how my kid is perceived) has come from his peers, especially the girls. They are the talkers. Sometimes I find out good things! Trying to get info out of the boys, when asked directly, is akin to breaking into Fort Knox. Loyalty seems to be key these days.
Regarding if something serious happened, I hope they'd spill details but who knows?
Since no crime has been committed, why would anyone have to take a polygraph?
Maybe yes mistake, maybe no mistake. I can guarantee you my daughter speaks the truth (or will stand on her 5th amendment rights) and many of her friends do not. I've watched them do something while they were alone (they did not know I was there) then lie about it when the rest of the group returns. They are all looking to appear in their best light. My daughter, on the other hand, does not give a rip about what anyone thinks as long as she is on her own moral compass (right, wrong or indifferent).Big mistake imo.
Some of my best leveling info (getting a gage on how my kid is perceived) has come from his peers, especially the girls. They are the talkers. Sometimes I find out good things! Trying to get info out of the boys, when asked directly, is akin to breaking into Fort Knox. Loyalty seems to be key these days.
Regarding if something serious happened, I hope they'd spill details but who knows?
We would probably be surprised how many have phones, but I am sure they have access to one. Also he could have called anonymously. Not sure but is there a reward being offered?
He apparently offered the information willingly so I just find it strange. I don't believe just because they are homeless they are not concerned citizens. jmo
Are we sure his keys were taken from him.
have polygraphs been given to the ppl that last were with him?
Or is everyone taking their word for it?
I think its time go back to the beginning!
There is something really strange about the "key" incident. Since we know the Mom seemed to be very concerned about him based on her calling the Service Man and calling LE to check on him, then why in the world would she actually want the friends to give him his keys back if the friends felt he was not fit to drive?
The only reason the friends would take away his keys is if they felt he was not fit to drive, so why would his mom make them give him back his keys?
I am not sure we have enough details to fully understand this. I do think it may help if we had more details about that incident.
Thank you for the explanation. Now I understand the reason why there's confusion over whether B's parents knew or didn't know B was driving down to see them.
Can you explain more about the survey and why it took Bryce three hours to get gas. Where was he located then? Do we know his exact location?
Also I wonder where he went after leaving Rocklin at around 11:30 p.m. He must have spent time somewhere else, after his keys were returned, if he didn't arrive in Buttonwillow (name cracks me up) until 9:00 a.m.
I go back to what I said in my first post ... I just wonder if she felt that giving him back his keys would calm him down. I can understand that and actually think I might have done the same thing. He's already "acting weird" (I'm going to go with agitated here) and now, the people he sees as friends are turning on him (this is all just my own theory, but trying to think of how it could have gone down), and he gets more agitated. Mom, not being there, gets the call and figures in order to calm him down, tells them to give him the keys, she tells him to go home (to his apartment) and they will talk in the morning.
At the time, she figures it diffuses the immediate situation and buys some time. She knows something is going on and offers to come up there to talk and help him through it.
In all honesty, I can see this as a caring, loving mom, who was just trying to do the best she could and not being there, seeing it all, it's what made the most sense to her. I don't think there's a right or wrong here, you do what you think is best given the information you have at the time.
This is all just my opinion and theory ... no real basis for any of it to be truth, but it does make sense in my own head.
Maybe yes mistake, maybe no mistake. I can guarantee you my daughter speaks the truth (or will stand on her 5th amendment rights) and many of her friends do not. I've watched them do something while they were alone (they did not know I was there) then lie about it when the rest of the group returns. They are all looking to appear in their best light. My daughter, on the other hand, does not give a rip about what anyone thinks as long as she is on her own moral compass (right, wrong or indifferent).
And while I agree that getting information out of boys is akin to breaking Fort Knox, most parents who know their kids know which questions to ask to get an accurate reading of the truth of the matter (with the exception of the classic "I dunno" as an answer).
I'm just saying that a girl who was just broken up with (and her friends) may or may not have had a good take on the situation, and Bryce's mother did the best she could with the information given over the phone. Maybe Bryce even said something to that effect (as an example: "She's just angry because I broke up with her and she doesn't like my reason why.")
YW. I think it was a survey about the kind of service they were given in Buttonwillow when they delivered gasoline. Wanting to know if the customer was satisfied, etc. Yes, he was at a rest area when he ran out of gas and Christian the roadside service guy delivered gas to him there.
That's one of the big questions, as to where he was and why it took him until 9 am to get to Buttonwillow if he left at 11:30 that night for a 6 hour drive. He should have been there 3 hours earlier. No one knows where he went. HTH
YW. I think it was a survey about the kind of service they were given in Buttonwillow when they delivered gasoline. Wanting to know if the customer was satisfied, etc. Yes, he was at a rest area when he ran out of gas and Christian the roadside service guy delivered gas to him there.
That's one of the big questions, as to where he was and why it took him until 9 am to get to Buttonwillow if he left at 11:30 that night for a 6 hour drive. He should have been there 3 hours earlier. No one knows where he went. HTH
A survey was put out that quickly? To someone other than the driver?
I'm confused. Anyway I hope they got a 'C' grade at best considering it took them three hours to deliver the gas. Seems like a long time to have to wait.
YW. I think it was a survey about the kind of service they were given in Buttonwillow when they delivered gasoline. Wanting to know if the customer was satisfied, etc. Yes, he was at a rest area when he ran out of gas and Christian the roadside service guy delivered gas to him there.
That's one of the big questions, as to where he was and why it took him until 9 am to get to Buttonwillow if he left at 11:30 that night for a 6 hour drive. He should have been there 3 hours earlier. No one knows where he went. HTH