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What parts of the sexual abuse were lies?yes and sociopaths often make up lies and gaslight people into thinking they're the victims
What parts of the sexual abuse were lies?yes and sociopaths often make up lies and gaslight people into thinking they're the victims
That photo seems sad. That is not the one I'm talking about.Pornographic photos of Lyle and Erik Menendez?
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Menendez brothers burst into tears during emotional prison reunion after decades apart
Erik and Lyle Menendez are now both in the same San Diego prison.abcnews.go.com
EDITED TO ADD: We all know about the pin torture, right?If Lyle and Erik believe that they were mistreated during childhood,
All the trial evidence is available online, and posting a link to trial evidence shouldn't be a problem. The above photo is the only one I'm aware of that was argued to be pornographic. It isn't.That photo seems sad. That is not the one I'm talking about.
We cannot post the photo of the boys as children, naked.
<modsnip: Random youtube videos are not allowed>All the trial evidence is available online, and posting a link to trial evidence shouldn't be a problem. The above photo is the only one I'm aware of that was argued to be pornographic. It isn't.
What parts of the sexual abuse were lies?
I dont think you understand what happens to children who ate bullied and abused by both of their parents. And the deep long lasting trauma it causesThis isn't about children who are intimidated by authority. These two men, aged 18 and 21 at the time of the murders, had their entire lives ahead of them. They should have done what many people age 18-21 do: get a job, find a place to live, build a life and a future for themselves. I don't believe for a moment that two athletes with active social lives couldn't figure that out.
There's has long been a debate about whether murderers can blame an unfortunate childhood on their decision to kill people. Many have tried. The answer is no. Ted Bundy cannot blame his childhood family dysfunction for his decision to kidnap, torture, and murder young women.
If Lyle and Erik believe that they were mistreated during childhood, they should have reported their parents. They had options, they made choices, and they should live with the consequences.
Thank you for sharing that, suspicious. I'm glad you are here!I dont think you understand what happens to children who ate bullied and abused by both of their parents. And the deep long lasting trauma it causes
They also could have killed themselves.
Did they do the right thing? No…
Were they abused. Quite possibly.
My mum
Abused me for many years and ppl reported her and the school tried to help. But i was too scared to tell the truth. I had to to home to her every day. I was physically and verbally abused every day i was with her.
I havent murdered her. But i have so many issues. Even tho i deint live with my dad i had a loving father, who when found out took me out.
Maybe the parents were kind and loving. I highly doubt it. But if those boys were abused even 5% of what they have said, then i truly feel for them. No child should be abused ever.
But of course and that's why it's so hard to figure out in a 'he said, she said'. In this case, the two accused are dead and cannot defend themselves and our only way of establishing veracity of the allegation is the credibility of the alleged victims and any corroborating evidence such as complaints to others, other victims, letters, etc.Abusers often threaten their victims so the abuse remains a secret.
Leaving is not easy, nor is it a guarantee of safety. Jose Menendez was a Hollywood executive and was wealthy and powerful. It was 1989. The evidence at the first trial disproves the "cold-blooded murderers" argument. The money motive was also never proven. The fact that the majority of their family members believe and support them, and some testified in the brothers' behalf, speaks volumes. Abuse is a mitigating factorI don’t understand why both things can’t be true, I think they were abused by their parents. But I also think they are cold blooded murderers who belong in prison.
They could have moved away and had whatever lives they wanted, but they didn’t want to give up the money.
But Jose had already told Eric that he would not be allowed to live on campus, he was being forced to continue residing in Jose's home/bed. For the rest of his life.I don’t understand why both things can’t be true, I think they were abused by their parents. But I also think they are cold blooded murderers who belong in prison.
They could have moved away and had whatever lives they wanted, but they didn’t want to give up the money.
Their mother also sexually abused themMaybe we should give Kitty Menendez more respect and look at her murder separate from Jose. The argument seems to be that the murder of Jose was justified due to mitigating factors, and his wife is tossed in as an extension of Jose. I can believe that Kitty Menendez was given little attention during the 1990s trials because she was "the wife" (life was different 35 years ago), but she should be given a strong voice in 2024.
Kitty drank alcohol and was prescribed sleeping pills. Is murder justified when the murderers tell the court that she needed to be put out of her misery, that she wanted to commit suicide but was too weak, that she wanted to die, so the murder was a mercy killing? That's essentially the argument - Kitty's mercy killing required 10 bullets, because that was merciful in the minds of Lyle and Erik.
According to their own words, Kitty was the primary target, and Jose was collateral damage.
November 1993
"And while they complain on the tape about their dictatorial father, they never allege that he sexually molested them. His main transgression, as they described it, was being a terrible husband to their mother.Their father had been unfaithful for years, the brothers told Oziel, causing Kitty Menendez to seek refuge in liquor and pills. She finally became suicidal, Lyle Menendez said. By killing her, he said, the brothers “were doing her and us a favor . . . putting her out of her misery, really.”But it would be ridiculous to kill only their mother, Lyle Menendez said, and leave their father alive. “He was putting my mother through torture,” Erik Menendez said. So, Lyle Menendez said, “we thought that we would just kill Dad, and eliminate the problem.”...Lyle: . . . I still think Mom’s was a suicide. Because I, you know, I feel that in her letters to, to Erik and I, she gave me the permission . . . to, to, to please carry out her suicide, and that it was obvious that she had decided in her own mind, she wants to die. . . . What Erik and I did took courage beyond belief. Beyond, beyond strength. There was no way I was gonna make a decision to kill my mother without Erik’s consent. . . . I just let him sleep on it for a couple days. . . . It had to be his own personal issue. If he felt the same way I did about killing Mom. . . . I did what I thought my mother would want me to do. Which is, ‘Please kill me, and I can’t’ . . . in a way I’m happy that people say afterwards, ‘You know, there’s no way that your mom could have lived without your dad. I’m glad . . . ‘"LA Times
If a judge decides that the murder of Jose was manslaughter due to mitigating factors, how do we get around the murder of their mother? There are no mitigating factors for that cold-blooded murder. Should Kitty's murder be downplayed because her sons imagined that she preferred to die, or should Lyle and Erik be sentenced separately for unmitigated matricide? Should she be viewed as collateral damage for the alleged sins of Jose?
What ??? I have never heard that before ... or maybe I found it unbelievable.Their mother also sexually abused them
The quotes you used are from their meetings with Oziel. It was established in the first trial that these tapes/notes weren’t super credible because:
1) Oziel was essentially blackmailing them and looking to profit off of this
2) Oziel was speculating a lot and trying to come up with his own theories/conclusions as to why the murders happened. He himself had previously met one or both of the parents and had already formed his own impressions.
3) Lyle and Erik didn’t trust Oziel and didn’t want to reveal their abuse to him. They both have said that they let Oziel form his own conclusions, went along with whatever he said, didn’t correct him on things he got wrong. I believe even experts testified to this (that in a lot of parts in the tape, the brothers were just repeating Oziel’s words back to him)
Again, I would suggest watching the complete first trial. It’s easy to have no sympathy and just believe the narrative that the prosecution ran with. But once you listen to the testimony, witnesses, and the experts it’s clear that this wasn’t a case of greed and how a lifetime of severe, ongoing abuse affects the brain/development of a child. It doesn't justify what happened, but it explains why they were in fear of their lives and why they didn’t just leave as so many have argued. JMO