CA CA - Maya Millete, 39, missed daughter's birthday, Chula Vista, 7 Jan 2021

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Just catching up but the locked door (when she isn't in the bedroom) and the separate lives lead me to believe she did have an independent life apart from him, obviously I guess, and locking the bedroom door....hmmm, yes that is a "no snooping" sign. They appear to go about their day. Not a marriage really, which does coincide with him not really knowing where she might have gone. But wouldn't he have known if she left with someone? Walked away? If this has been mentioned I apologize and will go back to read more.

Did she work from home and homeschool? Did he leave for work outside the home? Covid has us all (well, most of us) very wary of leaving the house much. I have a very helpful husband and I do not do much outside of the house without my child, or him.
And yes sometimes it brings tension being together so much.

Where are all the friends she "wine tastes" and Jeeps with? Are they commenting?
 
legalmomma said:
So on the FB Find page
It states "Missing last contact Thursday 1/7/21 635p."

Precisely 6:35 pm. Was this a text so that the exact time is known?
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Yes, the sister reported there was a family group text and MM last texted them at that time and day. Also the sister stated that the brother went over Friday evening and knocked on MM’s door but she didn’t answer and he didn’t hear anyone in the room so he left in case she was just trying to sleep. The next morning (Saturday) the sister stated that the father went over to check on MM
 
I am open-minded, but I'm not on the fence. There are just too many things about (and revealed by) the phone interview that make me go hmmm.

I can't get over Larry not seeing Maya at all on Friday although he supposedly left the girls with her. He also fed the kids and says he heard her making her dinner. I understand the house may be large, but I can't imagine them both making dinner (or even scrounging up dinner) without seeing each other. (And I doubt there's a kitchen upstairs).

It bothers me how many times he casts subtle doubts on her character during the interview. I lost count how many times he mentioned her coming home between 2:30-3:30am lately. (Oh, and by the way, are the bars closing early in the area? We have a 10pm bar and restaurant curfew here.) I also *really* didn't like it when he said he thinks she "stepped up her game" by staying gone longer than usual this time.

I'm sure by now LE knows a lot they're not telling (like when the kids last saw Maya, which friends may have picked her up, does she really go wine tasting early in the morning, and so on). And, Larry apparently likes to talk, so he's probably said a lot more than we'll ever know.

Around the 9:20 mark in the interview, Larry says that Maya would not have gone hiking in a specific place (I can't catch what he's saying) because she would have driven there, although it's near their home. Maybe I'm misunderstanding something. If LE suspects what I suspect, I hope they focus a search in that area because it seems he is leading them away from that area. That's just my opinion of course. :-(

If you haven't listened to the interview, you really should IMHO. If it weren't for the interview, my first theory would be that someone she met has kidnapped her.

I will be thrilled if I'm completely wrong and she's off on an adventure with someone unknown because that will mean she could be alive.
 
BlkMtnGirl said:
I am open-minded, but I'm not on the fence. There are just too many things about (and revealed by) the phone interview that make me go hmmm.

I can't get over Larry not seeing Maya at all on Friday although he supposedly left the girls with her. He also fed the kids and says he heard her making her dinner. I understand the house may be large, but I can't imagine them both making dinner (or even scrounging up dinner) without seeing each other. (And I doubt there's a kitchen upstairs).

It bothers me how many times he casts subtle doubts on her character during the interview. I lost count how many times he mentioned her coming home between 2:30-3:30am lately. (Oh, and by the way, are the bars closing early in the area? We have a 10pm bar and restaurant curfew here.) I also *really* didn't like it when he said he thinks she "stepped up her game" by staying gone longer than usual this time.

I'm sure by now LE knows a lot they're not telling (like when the kids last saw Maya, which friends may have picked her up, does she really go wine tasting early in the morning, and so on). And, Larry apparently likes to talk, so he's probably said a lot more than we'll ever know.

Around the 9:20 mark in the interview, Larry says that Maya would not have gone hiking in a specific place (I can't catch what he's saying) because she would have driven there, although it's near their home. Maybe I'm misunderstanding something. If LE suspects what I suspect, I hope they focus a search in that area because it seems he is leading them away from that area. That's just my opinion of course. :-(

If you haven't listened to the interview, you really should IMHO. If it weren't for the interview, my first theory would be that someone she met has kidnapped her.

I will be thrilled if I'm completely wrong and she's off on an adventure with someone unknown because that will mean she could be alive.
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I live in San Diego and bars have pretty much been closed here since the Pandemic started. For the last two months even restaurants can't have outdoor dining - so he should be aware that she wouldn't be hanging out at any bars.

Houses aren't *that* big in Chula Vista, maybe 2000sqft is considered a bigger house. Real estate is expensive here, so they weren't living in a mansion by any means. Even if they were largely estranged I'd assume they still coordinated child care. I'm growing more suspicious of him tbh.
 
SluethMan said:
I live in San Diego and bars have pretty much been closed here since the Pandemic started. For the last two months even restaurants can't have outdoor dining - so he should be aware that she wouldn't be hanging out at any bars.

Houses aren't *that* big in Chula Vista, maybe 2000sqft is considered a bigger house. Real estate is expensive here, so they weren't living in a mansion by any means. Even if they were largely estranged I'd assume they still coordinated child care. I'm growing more suspicious of him tbh.
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The house is nice, they probably even did some updates on it. No pool though, which I think would be nice in Chula Vista. I think it's a 5 bedroom house, plenty of space for them.
 
Curious Me said:
Maya and Larry Millete have three young children — ages 4, 9, and 11 — and she missed her eldest daughter's birthday which was on Sunday.

The daughters are at an age now that they must sense something. The eldest looks a lot like her mother. We've seen news videos and pics where we've seen the children doing so many fun things with their mother and family. Those children need their mother.

Maya locked her bedroom door for some reason, and sure, it perfectly understandable if she wanted to keep the kids out of her space for safety reasons or personal reasons.

Believe me, I'm all for the husband not being inv0lved, but there's a need for further, verified details and a better timeline. What time was the argument with the husband? Was it dark outside? Did she lock her bedroom and go for a hike to blow off steam? Reports say last seen (with actual eyes) on Thursday. Husband says Maya was there with the girls when he left with his son... what time was that? Is husband's story being disregarded by LE even though they must have questioned the girls. Reported last seen Thursday, so is the Friday story true?
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I've been following this since the beginning because I live in San Diego and the whole timeline doesn't make a lot of sense.

For instance, how did the son and husband leave the house Friday and return and go upstairs without seeing Mom. Didn't the son say hello to his mother when he returned? Strange....I definitely agree that more information about the Friday time would be helpful to understanding what happened.

A couple of things that stuck out to me in the phone interview:
  • The bars, wineries, and restaurants in San Diego County have been closed since December 7th. I imagine she could have gone into Tijuana, but I don't know their closure regulations. It would be dangerous to be going to Tijuana on a Friday night without a friend or group.
  • If Maya was at home with the girls on Friday, why was her phone off?
  • Certainly hiking trials are open, but again she would have needed to go with someone.
  • The husband did not answer the interviewer's question about whether or not Maya had a boyfriend.
Wonder if the police have gained access to her phone account? Has her cloud account been checked?

What are the 'red flags' her sister mentioned? Have the police talked with the children independently?

FWIW, if the couple had a reached the point where divorce was unavoidable, I understand the courts are facing a huge backlog in divorces involving children. That may be one of the reasons they are/were cohabiting.

Regardless, this must be incredibly traumatizing for the children, especially the 11-year-old whose birthday was missed. :(

Adding: Only article I could find about Tijuana bars, etc. Not too informative.
Tijuana’s ‘restaurant-bars’ ordered to shut down as pandemic drags on | FOX 5 San Diego
 
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BlkMtnGirl said:
I am open-minded, but I'm not on the fence. There are just too many things about (and revealed by) the phone interview that make me go hmmm.
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Phone call with husband of missing Chula Vista mom, Maya Millete - ABC 10NEWS San Diego - Omny.fm

I really appreciate your concise post sharing your thoughts and considerations about that phone call interview. As you all know, it has bothered me too. I'm trying to stay open-minded, but I've been stuck on the husband's interview. You've given this a lot of thought and you see what may be behind some of the husband's interview as I do.

I so agree with what you said at the end of your post:
"I will be thrilled if I'm completely wrong and she's off on an adventure with someone unknown because that will mean she could be alive."

However, we both know the worse needs to be considered. The investigation needs to move forward to determine what really happened to Maya. She needs to be found.

Regardless of what they say, LE needs to consider him a possible suspect. The argument and then her instant disappearance after that is hinky. LE can't leave the children in his care if they suspect him in MOO. I consider it a lie to say she was there Friday if she wasn't. I've struggled with it.

Yes, they need to look where he said she wouldn't go. I hate to broach this subject, but they need to find her. Did he leave the house Thursday night and leave the kids alone sleeping? Was he loading anything in the car on Friday when he took his son someplace? Will his phone that he turned over to LE reveal anything? LE needs to act quickly, IMO, and find out what happened to Maya.
 
Him leaving the daughters and taking the son doesn’t raise a red flag for me. The 11 year old was probably used to being with her younger sister most of the time anyway. They may have still been asleep too. They’re close in age, same gender, likely the same interests. I can remember 11 or 12 was the age I started letting my oldest stay home but only for short periods. I’d take my youngest with me.

I do think the 11 year old can provide info even without realizing what she is saying. The truth always comes out. Kids generally don’t have a reason to hide things. You just don’t want to pump them for info or put ideas in their head to taint their true memories.
 
PayrollNerd said:
Him leaving the daughters and taking the son doesn’t raise a red flag for me. The 11 year old was probably used to being with her younger sister most of the time anyway. They may have still been asleep too. They’re close in age, same gender, likely the same interests. I can remember 11 or 12 was the age I started letting my oldest stay home but only for short periods. I’d take my youngest with me.

I do think the 11 year old can provide info even without realizing what she is saying. The truth always comes out. Kids generally don’t have a reason to hide things. You just don’t want to pump them for info or put ideas in their head to taint their true memories.
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I agree with you that 11 is old enough to stay at home with the 9 year old. But respectfully, my point is that his wording was that he left Maya with his girls Friday. And also that he never saw Maya on Friday. It’s just weird to me. I am treading as lightly as I can.
 
PayrollNerd said:
Him leaving the daughters and taking the son doesn’t raise a red flag for me. The 11 year old was probably used to being with her younger sister most of the time anyway...
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BlkMtnGirl said:
I agree with you that 11 is old enough to stay at home with the 9 year old. But respectfully, my point is that his wording was that he left Maya with his girls Friday. And also that he never saw Maya on Friday. It’s just weird to me. I am treading as lightly as I can...
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Yes, the point wasn't about whether girls that age could be left home alone for a short period of time. I agree those girls look perfectly capable of taking care of themselves for awhile. That was not why we were discussing it though.

Initially it was brought up that the husband said he left the girls with Maya that Friday to be homeschooled, and we questioned if he actually saw Maya before he left or when he got back home that Friday when he said he took his son someplace. Did he actually lay eyes on Maya at all on Friday?

Also, did he tell the girls to say she was there that Friday? Or to not tell LE they were left alone? That would place them in a terrible position.

It's a big house, he thought he heard her rustling in the kitchen, he didn't know she was missing until her family showed up. All a mistake on his part? It is such an important detail. His wife is missing! IMO, to say she was there, to report it to LE that she was there, and she wasn't is... a LIE. Sorry, I'm trying to tread lightly too, but... What would others call it?
 
Curious Me said:
Yes, the point wasn't about whether girls that age could be left home alone for a short period of time. I agree those girls look perfectly capable of taking care of themselves for awhile. That was not why we were discussing it though.

Initially it was brought up that the husband said he left the girls with Maya that Friday to be homeschooled, and we questioned if he actually saw Maya before he left or when he got back home that Friday when he said he took his son someplace. Did he actually lay eyes on Maya at all on Friday?

Also, did he tell the girls to say she was there that Friday? Or to not tell LE they were left alone? That would place them in a terrible position.

To say she was there, to report it to LE that she was there, and she wasn't is... a LIE. Sorry, I'm trying to tread lightly too, but... What would others call it?
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In the interview, he says the last time he physically and visually saw her was Thursday. He says “we” heard her downstairs Friday night getting herself dinner. As an aside, he says he “left Maya with his girls,” not that he “left his girls with Maya.” I get it. He’s exhausted. I’m sure I’d sound worse. I tried to transcribe the interview, but gave up.
 
BlkMtnGirl said:
...He says “we” heard her downstairs Friday night getting herself dinner. As an aside, he says he “left Maya with his girls,” not that he “left his girls with Maya.”...
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However, she wasn't downstairs that Friday night, so I don't know what he was hearing in that rather big house. Well, I guess he did admit he didn't actually see her that day, but he implied she was there. Left Maya with the girls makes it sound like she was there that Friday.

Okay, they lived like roommates, so maybe he really did think she was walking around the house and sleeping behind that locked door.

You've been doing fine, and I've appreciated your posts.
 
Curious Me said:
However, she wasn't downstairs that Friday night, so I don't know what he was hearing in that rather big house. Well, I guess he did admit he didn't actually see her that day, but he implied she was there. Left Maya with the girls makes it sound like she was there that Friday.

Okay, they lived like roommates, so maybe he really did think she was walking around the house and sleeping behind that locked door.

You've been doing fine, and I've appreciated your posts.
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I agree. He implied she was there. I keep imagining that if the kids don’t corroborate hearing her, suddenly he’s going to mention a huge rodent problem making crazy noises in the kitchen downstairs. Sorry. I’m going to zip it for now. I promise. I really want to be wrong.
 
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