Cindy may be a little hyper, but I think George shows many more signs of problems than Cindy. He also seems to have lots of Casey's traits, or vice versa.
Hyper isn't the word I'd use to describe her (She is like a bump on a log, IMO) but ITA that
Poor George seems to have some major issues as well. Which is actually quite typical in a home like this. Women like Cindy seek out (not always knowingly, most times not, actually) men like George.. and men like George seek out (usually knowingly) women like Cindy.
Certainly Casey has picked up traits from both of her parents (don't we all?) and seeing as they are both quite dysfunctional it's only natural the traits she picked up are dysfunctional.
I have more concern for Lee's ability to act like a real person with "normal" emotions and proper reactions to life events than I do Casey's.
He is out there and seems to have to pretend his feelings (mimicing what he's seen others do in similar situations) and still often acts plain wrong yet seems to have no clue it is wrong (the laughing while speaking of the decomp smell in the garage, etc). Casey on the other hand picked up her mom's coping tools. Dissassociate, create a false reality, lie, deny, play the victim, attack the character of people who do not do as you wish..
I find this a good example of the behaviors...
More here
http://samvak.tripod.com/8.html
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The Hated-Hating Personality Disordered"
Personality disordered people are usually hated. One needs only to read professional texts to see how despised, derided, hated and avoided the personality disordered are even by the therapeutic professions. Because many people don't even realize that they suffer from a personality disorder they feel victimized, wronged, discriminated against and hopeless. They don't understand why they are so hated, avoided and abandoned. They define themselves as victims and attribute mental disorders to others ("pathologizing").
They employ the primitive defence mechanisms of splitting and projection augmented by the more sophisticated mechanism of projective identification.
In other words:
They "split off" from their personality the bad feelings of hating and being hated because they cannot cope with negative feelings.
Then, they project these feelings unto others ("He hates me, I don't hate anyone", "I am a good soul, but he is a psychopath", "He is stalking me, I just want to stay away from him", "He is a con-artist, I am the innocent victim").
Then they FORCE others to behave in a way that JUSTIFIES their projections and models (projective identification followed by counter projective identification).
Some narcissists, for instance, firmly "believe" that women are evil predators, out to suck their lifeblood and then abandon them. So, they try and make them fulfill the prophecy. They try and make sure that women behave exactly in this manner, that they do not abnegate and ruin the model that the narcissist so craftily, so elaborately and so studiously designed.
Such narcissists tease women and betray them and bad mouth them and taunt them and torment them and stalk them and haunt them and pursue them and subjugate them and frustrate them until they do abandon them.
At this stage the narcissist feels vindicated not realizing HIS contribution to this recurrent pattern.
The personality disordered are full of negative emotions. They are filled to the brim with aggression and its transmutations, hatred and pathological envy. They are constantly seething with rage, repressed anger, jealousy and other corroding emotions. Unable to release these emotions (personality disorders are defence mechanisms against "forbidden" emotions) they split them, project them and force others to behave in a way which LEGITIMIZES and EXPLAINS these negative emotions. "No wonder I hate him so look what he did to me." The personality disordered are doomed to inhabit the land of self inflicted injuries. They generate the very hate that legitimizes their hate, which generated the hate in the first place....."
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