Seriously???
Sorry ... my opinion only ... but I come from a family of screw ups and parents who are enablers ... I have spent my life hearing how it's my parents fault for my siblings mistakes ... the real mistake was my parents and others allowing my siblings to blame other people for their actions ... I am proof that coming out of a family like that ... it is possible to be a very well adjusted, productive member of society ... it just takes a people who are willing to take charge of their own personal development by ...
...acknowledging that they are the only ones responsible for the choices in their lives
... accepting that only they are responsible for what they choose to feel or think
... accepting that they alone choose the direction for their lives
... accepting that they cannot blame others for the choices they have made
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I agree you can't blame your parents or upbringing for everything in your life as an adult. And, the way you speak, I can't help but think, despite your dysfunctional upbringing, you've come out very well....l don't think Casey came out of it so well and can't help but think her family was far worse than yours. I'm no psychiatrist, but Casey is still quite young, and I do think her parents have some responsibility in this re the way they brought her up. Cindy's attitudes towards things like lying to police are bizaare and I think it was Cindy who taught her to do things like pretend she had a good job etc. Cindy really wanted everyone to believe Casey had graduated high school, was a good mom etc. But of course, thats IMOO.