I’ve had horses all my life. We have a site we drag all the horses that pass. Burying is not an option for us but we revere that area as ‘The Horse Graveyard”. Any farrier that hits, pushes or is ugly to my horses would leave immediately. Used to do it myself but now I’m too old. I have a gentle farrier that can calm even my most difficult horse. It’s possible to trim and shoe without significant aggression.
I so agree....some require a little more patience than others. I’ve had a few of those myself and you certainly can be firm with them without being aggressive! That would be a red flag for me personally and speak to someone’s character.