No judgement here
just sharing
certainly not diagnosing anything - doing what we do throwing out food for thought in trying to put this tragedy tougher.
Fantasy bonding generally results in different response types by gender- generally speaking.
It a coping mechanism
For a woman attempts to deal with these intense feelings often result in formation of behaving and thinking that as a cluster the Borderline Personality Disorder.
It often becomes Narisstic in the male.
The worst combination (male N and female BPD) known on the planet!
There is often like a magnetic field (!) The female Borderline is wildly attracted to the Narcissist male, while the N male is often wildl
:y attracted to the B female.
The results are usually castasrophic
borderline personality disorder may experience mood swings and display uncertainty about how they see themselves and their role in the world. As a result, their interests and values can change quickly.
People with borderline personality disorder also tend to view things in extremes, such as all good or all bad.
An individual who is seen as a friend one day may be considered an enemy or traitor the next. These shifting feelings can lead to intense and unstable relationships.
- Efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment, such as rapidly initiating intimate (physical or emotional) relationships or cutting off communication with someone in anticipation of being abandoned
Impulsive and often dangerous behaviors, such as spending sprees,
some persons with BPD are high functioning in certain settings, their private lives may be in turmoil.
Loss, neglect and bullying
ntense and highly changeable moods, with each episode lasting from a few hours to a few days
People who have a close family member, such as a parent or sibling with the disorder may be at higher risk of developing borderline personality disorder.
Many people with borderline personality disorder report experiencing traumatic life events, such as abuse, abandonment, or adversity during childhood. Others may have been exposed to unstable, invalidating relationships, and hostile conflicts.
The relentless posts about how incredible he is (going to extreme measures to avoid abandonment. Nonstop sharing of how great he is --which we now know can be probably termed somewhat delusional moo )
Fear of abandonment. People with BPD are often terrified of being abandoned or left alone
impacts the way you think and feel about yourself and others, causing problems functioning in everyday life. It includes a pattern of unstable intense relationships, distorted self-image, extreme emotions and impulsiveness.
Imo his narcissistic traits are a bit muted and not glaring because he appeares to be covert introverted narcissist
NIMH » Borderline Personality Disorder
Borderline personality disorder - Symptoms and causes
BPD OVERVIEW - Borderline Personality Disorder