Yeah, I'm pretty sure he raped her at the end. This run of AA quotes may be uncomfortable to read.
Libler said that so long as Suzanne gratified Barry sexually, it was fine. He added, “I don’t think she was deriving a lot of pleasure out of things.” When Agents asked Libler if he thought that, or knew it, he said, “I know. She said it’s not pleasurable.” Suzanne told Libler that she would not completely starve Barry of sex.
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Barry explained that on Saturday evening they had dinner together, had sexual intercourse, and went to bed. Barry could not specify a time but believed it was around or after 8:00PM. Barry stated neither he nor Suzanne left the residence again.
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He stated, “We (men) need sex. That’s all we need and we’ll be good.”
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When Agents asked Barry if he and Suzanne went to bed together, he replied, “I’m pretty sure we do,” and later, “I’m pretty sure we went to sleep together that night.” Suzanne did not leave the house after they had sex and went to sleep.
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CBI Agents asked Barry why he answered, “Sex,” as the number one reason why someone might be motivated to cause Suzanne to disappear on the BAU questionnaire. He answered, “Because my wife is beautiful.” He added, “And that’s my nightmare right now, like if somebody’s got her and sexually abusing her right now as we speak.”
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SA Grusing noted Barry listed “Sex” as the top motivation someone might have had for Suzanne’s disappearance. Barry said he listed that because of how attractive Suzanne was.
SA Grusing asked Barry why he only wrote “Convict” for his response on what should happen to the person responsible for Suzanne’s disappearance. He replied, “It should be ‘convicted and held responsible.’ I mean that’s not what I wanted to write but, I mean I, inside me, I feel like I would like to physically harm them if they did this to my wife, that’s, but.”
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Barry said that Suzanne had the body of a thirty-year-old and that “they (women) give us sex. That’s all we ever want or need.”
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Barry: “Well, I’ll tell you right now we had sex that night and she was naked when I went to sleep. So, she obviously got up and put her pajamas on and when I left in th-, the next morning she was laying right there in bed. I didn’t pull up the covers and look what she was wearing, if that’s what you’re asking me?”
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SA Grusing reminded Barry that it was Wednesday when Suzanne said she “was done.”
Barry said, “Ok, then that was Wednesday, not Friday. Friday- she would go through these times where we would fight like that and then everything would be back to normal. And it was like nothing ever happened. And we’d go eat dinner. We’d go have, home. We’d have sex. Everything would be fine.”
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Barry said, “I’m telling you right now there was nothing out of the normal Saturday afternoon. Nothing. It was almost like … it’s almost like, that evening, nothing ever happened to us that week. She’s like one person one day, another person the other day. And when she acts like that, I’m going to accept it and take it all in, because when she’s distant and cold, I don’t get any affection. And Saturday, there was no problems. None. And, I don’t understand, that you’re telling me that she’s communicating with this guy Saturday all day. I’m working till noon. Come home, eat lunch with her. Leave again and come home and then spend the evening with her. Eat supper with her. Have sex with her. I can assure you that Saturday night was a good night for us. And I can assure you that we made love that night. And there’s no way that she would have done that to me if she’s got this head on about this other guy.”
SA Grusing said that Suzanne was disclosing things about their love life to the other guy.
Barry said, “Well, I’m sure if she’s not, disclosing things- our having sex with ‘her lover’ (Barry made air quotes with his hand while saying this), because that would upset him. So, she’s probably lying to him if she’s saying we’re not having sex, ’cause we do. And we did. And I can assure you that that night
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we did. One hundred percent. And February when I went to meet her in Florida, that’s all it was, was sex.” I mean why would she do that to me if she’s got this other guy that she’s leaving me for? This is not, none of this is making sense.”
SA Grusing asked what does not make sense to Barry, adding that Barry said earlier things were making sense.
Barry said, “Making sense in God’s eyes … Why someone like me, someone like us? Well, now that you told me that she was having an affair- maybe, I don’t know, maybe in God’s eyes this was his way of resolving something. I don’t know.”
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Barry stated, “Did she leave that night? Because I told Joe and Derek that we had sex and went to bed and I went to sleep, and I work so hard that when I go to sleep, I’m out until three o’clock.”
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Barry said he did not want to fight with Suzanne because of her cancer. He added, “The next night it would be like nothing ever happened. And she’d be wonderful, she’d make love.”
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Barry added, “We had a great night that Saturday before. We made love that night. There, there was nothing that happened at 2:30. I mean, I looked back. Nothing. We grilled, I grilled steak at probably five, six. We ate dinner. Went to bed. We made love.”
He added, “I always fall asleep right away because I’m dead-tired from, from work. Surely, she stayed up, but I don’t know (shaking his head). I don’t know if she stayed up or went somewhere, and texted, or did something.” SA Grusing asked where they had sex and Barry answered, “In the bed, in the master
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bedroom.”
Barry then referenced the second Valentine’s Day in a row when Suzanne “met this guy,” when she said she was meeting her dad. Barry said he told Suzanne, “Honey, (unintelligible) I’m comin’ to Florida. Let’s just spend a few days.” He said he went and they had an “unbelievable time. We had sex three times a day. She was incredibly romantic with me. She gave me the most beautiful card that was heartfelt.”
Barry said Suzanne must not have been in her right mind to be in love with another man and treat Barry like she still loves him.
SA Harris told Barry that Suzanne’s life with her lover appears to be more her true life than her life with Barry and that Agents did not doubt they still had sex, but she was placating Barry.
Barry was told Suzanne felt like she had to have sex with him at times.
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Barry was asked the last time he saw or heard Suzanne prior to that, and he said, “Just probably before we went to sleep. After we had sex.” SA Grusing asked what happened before that, and Barry said, “Before that we had dinner.” When asked where he sat, Barry said, “At the bar.”
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While Barry was reviewing the telematic times, SA Grusing asked, “You were guessing sex happened what, do you know when?”
Barry stated, “I know it was after the steaks and before I went to sleep.”
SA Grusing asked if there was a gap, possibly an hour or two in between, and Barry said, “I don’t remember.”
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SA Grusing asked Barry when that last time he saw Suzanne was that night, since he only heard her snoring Sunday morning. He replied, “I would say, between eight, eight and nine. If I was guessing.”
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SA Grusing asked if she went to bed nude or with pajamas and Barry stated, “No, she never sleeps in the nude. I don’t know if she was nude, after, when we had sex, but I don’t know if she, what she put on when she it on, but she a stuff on. She doesn’t sleep in the nude.”
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SA Grusing asked Barry when he last saw her and he answered, “Probably during sex.” He added,
“Cause like most men, I probably fell asleep. Pretty soon after that.”
SA Grusing said that from the truck activity, sex must have happened after 9:25PM.
Barry said, “And it could’ve been, depending on the, the light of day, then. It was May, so, it’s still, I mean right now I see it’s getting lighter and lighter, so, I’m just kinda basing off light instead of clocks not (UI) clocks.”
SA Grusing asked if Suzanne seemed out of the normal regarding their sex that night, considering the affair and fights that week.
Barry said, ”No, I’ve never had a, had a feeling that anything was different in our sex life. Never.”
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Barry was told that Suzanne confided in friends that sex with him was not pleasurable, then reminded that he put “Sex” as the top reason on his victimology questionnaire for someone’s motive for her disappearance. Barry refuted that by saying, “She had an orgasm every time, so I don’t understand that.”
Barry said he should have listed “rape” instead of “sex” on the questionnaire as a motivator for her disappearance because he thought of “some creep trying to rape her.”
