I love reading your posts because you organize and validate with precise details and evidence the reasons I am upset and I am sure lots of other readers are upset about what is happening with this case. I so agree with all your posts from today and yesterday concerning MT. It’s sad that MT’s family must be paying her atty a lot of money for him to continue to represent and protect her and advise them. Or maybe to do as mama A directs. I think everyone has felt something was really wrong when no useful information that we know of was obtained after MT’s first big meeting with LE and the state atty and you have described so well all that has followed. It worries me about what kind of dangerous connections these people might have. I think Jennifer became aware of the increased danger MT brought into their lives and was determined to not let the fd/mt team influence or harm her children. To me MT seems cold and manipulative and used to having her way no matter what she has to do to get it. Thank you again for keeping us so well informed and on the right path for justice for Jennifer, GF and the children. MOO
I think you have made the connection between JFd and MT that hasn't been discussed very much but I totally agree with you is absolutely critical to understanding what might have been growing anger between Fd/MT on the one hand and JFd on the other hand.
JFd fought hard and consistently in Family Court to MAKE SURE that FD AND MT did not together spend time with the 5 Dulos children. JFd DID NOT want MT and her daughter to spend time with the 5 Dulos children. We saw that Fd asked his sons (and possible the other children as well) to lie about the MT and daughter presence at 4Jx when the Dulos children were visiting. The truth about this situation was uncovered, Fd was called out for the huge psychological damage that this entire process was causing the children and in particular his one son. Fd AND MT didn't really seem to care to much about all of this and it was during this period that we saw Fd lose access to his children.
Most recently in the Civil Case we saw Fd on the stand confronted by Atty Weinstein about these issues and I believe the Fd quote was along the lines that he or we "respectfully disagreed with Judge Heller".
Who would "respectfully disagree with Judge Heller" and then lose contact with your 5 children for nearly 10 months. The psychologist charged with working with the son clearly indicated the enormous damage inflicted by the choices of MT and Fd and neither of these 2 individuals cared much or changed their behaviour.
We then see Fd voluntarily stepping away from access to his children for roughly 10 months. IMO, in a childs life and in the context of a parents relationship THIS IS IMO A HUGE DEAL and with long term consequences. Yet, FD + MT did this because they "respectfully disagreed".... AND THEY KNEW BEST!
Flipping back to MT. You really have to wonder IMO about MT, her moral compass, her level of education and general knowledge about psychology and children as well as who she is as a human being that she might possibly stand by as a father voluntarily rejects access to his children to prove to the Judge that 'he and MT are entitled to spend time with the 5 Dulos children' (AND all this happened after the Dulos children were lying to their mother for a period of time about MT and her daughter).
Sure you could argue that this decision was made by Fd and that MT herself was a possible non factor in this decision, but I'm not sure this would be fully accurate as during this period Fd was making a huge point to JFd that he and MT 'were a couple' and deserved respect. Mmmmm. Sure Fd also wanted what he wanted in terms of the 5 children having access to MT and her daughter and there were no doubt control issues present as well IMO. But I'm not so sure that the situation would have gone on for so long without MT knowledge and consent. IMO MT and Fd were deeply offended and angry and effectively threw a tantrum which was pathetically IMO at the expense of the children YET AGAIN. IMO it was this aspect of the overall situation, that inability to focus on what was important in this case which was the children, that showed Fd and MT as the absolutely self involved, uncaring and shallow people that they appear to be. I think its important to realise that during this time there were multiple mental health professionals associated with the case and the children were in treatment too. MT and Fd disregarded the professional recommendations of these mental health professionals because 'they knew best'! Really?
How did Fd respond also to all this by way of protest? He continued and to this day has the FB drone shot with MT, himself and the 5 Dulos children in the driveway on their way to/from a ski day. It was telling that there were more children in that driveway shot than available seats in the Suburban too but my guess is that this is simply how MT and Fd always roll! Its all about what feels good and right to them in the moment and what is the right or safe thing never enters the calculus of ANY of their decisions. No wonder JFd wanted the children to have zero to do with MT when should couldn't even keep the children safe by making sure how many children legally could fit into the Suburban?
What parent that was focused on teaching children 'right' from 'wrong' or old style biblical values would do anything other than run for the hills fast when confronted with MT and her family and Fd decisions regarding his new 'relationship' and mistress?
I always love to watch the hypocrisy of folks that behave in one way and then when they are called on their behaviour get annoyed and angry and expect treatment and respect. Fd did this IMO on behalf of MT and then MT seemed to try and demand respect and totally missed the point that respect is earned and there was zero in the MT behaviour that was deserving of respect from anyone. Even as I type this I very much wonder if MT has any level of self respect or pride in her decisions and I do also wonder if she see any responsibility in the issues faced by Fd regarding the 5 Dulos children? I do very much wonder how the local folks in Farmington/Avon and the EW school community of MT daughter treated MT? My guess is not too well and we saw this play out in the NYP reporting on MT being 'disinvited' from her daughters graduation.
But even with everything that happened with the 5 Dulos children, MT still brings her daughter back into that environment and does not appear in any way to safeguard her daughter from the situation in CT. Nope, we don't see this at all. We simply saw MT dragging her daughter through a group of press during the time she was staying at the motel in Avon. I guess I just wonder what responsible parent would subject a child to this treatment and scrutiny when other options were available? We now know the answer to this and its MT and she has done it I believe yet again with the latest airport pickup and return to CT. What kind of messages are all of these choices sending to MT daughter? Does MT or her family even care? I just scratch my head and wonder where is the bio dad and will we have to wait for further charges in order to see any changes to the MT custody arrangements as I would be surprised that Family Court or CPS would think highly of her choices on behalf of even her own child. This poor child will only have childhood recollections of her mother being arrested, watching her mother live for years as a mistress in a house paid for by the family of Fd wife. Self esteem is a fragile issue and any basic knowledge of psychology would appreciate this fact. Nope, not Mama A (former licensed psychologist) and Nope not MT (former student of psychology) to say nothing of Dr. Papa T who no doubt had a passing experience with psychology in his medical school training. IMO all this medical training just makes the decision making from MT even more deplorable and frankly despicable.
Does MT deserve any level of respect or consideration from JFd or Judge Heller as it appears she and her daughter were actively involved in the entire process of having the Dulos children lie of behalf of their father and MT and flaunting Judge Hellers orders? IMO, no.
Does MT deserve any level of respect or consideration from JFd or Judge Heller for her demonstrated maturity and parenting skills in terms of dealing with the overall situation? IMO, no.
Its hard to NOT put labels on MT and her behaviour because of how she came into the life of Fd (she was married at the time as was Fd) in 2015, shows her over and over to be an immature, morally bankrupt, self centred thrill seeker who seemed more concerned about the Fd/Farber wealth and rent free life of a mistress than anything else IMO. We learned in the Civil trial that MT took trip into NY in order to gain information about the Farber trusts and this IMO implies curiosity about the wealth and how it could somehow be 'hers'.
If I were an artist I'd simply put MT in her pink muppet eyelash sweater and just draw a bit huge "A" on the front and then slap a dunce cap on her head as that is who MT is in this case IMO. JFd knew who she was dealing with in terms of MT and JFd acted in court accordingly as she wanted her children to have zero to do with the morally reprehensible MT and the entire Arrezzea/Troconis clan of folks led by the medicare fraud dodging Mama A IMO! How many parents would want their 5 children to have anything to do with the likes of MT and Mama A and the rest of the SA clan? Not many is my bet!
JFd saw MT with crystal clarity as did Judge Heller and ditto for Fd. JFd cared deeply about the people in the children's lives and so she fought long and hard and to the mat to insure that the children had zero to do with MT, her daughter and Fd, so long as he wouldn't comply with the Judge Heller order.
To me, this issue of MT and her daughter having access to the 5 Dulos children has to fit in some way into the puzzle of motive in this sad and tragic case. I can easily see MT whining about having to leave 4Jx with her daughter and saying that she hadn't done anything to be deserve the treatment she was receiving etc. I don't see MT caring about the emotional well being of the 5 Dulos children and its because of this that I believe JFd sought to keep the children far far away from the 'whatever works' morally bankrupt MT!
IMO MT was wrong in her thinking about how she was being treated by JFd and Family Court as IMO it was her behaviour and choices that determined her treatment. MT was a longish term disposable mistress that was shouting to be respected but that was simply a fantasy as there was zero about her that was deserving of any such respect and JFd IMO knew this absolutely. JFd believed MT to simply be 'irrelevant' and 'not a factor' and this no doubt resulted in rage and great anger from Fd and MT.
MOO
