I really think that if you are open, you will get insight into matters that need help. If a person crosses over and needs to get a message to someone it is very hard to find a way to communicate with the living. I think of it as being in a room with a two way mirror, the living on one side the dead on another. They can see you and hear you, but can't touch you to make you understand what they want to tell you. When you sleep you are open and they can use dreams and memories to get a message across, but I think they can only use what you have available in your memory to get the message to you. So much of it is symbolism and things that will lead you to what they want you know.
SS, I'm not sure of the intention of your post, if you were upset that we think others would use our ideas and thoughts about the case, but I is my opinion that they do. Not trying to offend you again. I was just seeing some things that seem similar to posts here and pointed it out.
Our thread to say the least if very interesting and I love hearing all of your thoughts and reading what you get. I spend hours looking at locations and possible connections to your dreams. You never know, maybe we hit a nerve here.
Elle, thanks for the reply, I don't feel so crazy...