Seahorseladydi, I wasn't around when you lost your son so let me express my condolences now. Time helps, but I know it doesn't make things better.
You talked early on about wanting to start a group for grieving parents and I thought I would let you know about Compassionate Friends. They are a group of parents who have lost children, children of any age. They come to get help and stay to help others get through it. If there isn't a group in your area, they will help you to start a group.
When we lost my brother at the age of 20 years in a car accident, our whole family was devastated. The group helped my parents, by discussions, by information, and by understanding of what they were going through. So if you are still interested in a group for grieving parents, you might want to check it out.
The Compassionate Friends is about transforming the pain of grief into the elixir of hope. It takes people out of the isolation society imposes on the bereaved and lets them express their grief naturally. With the shedding of tears, healing comes. And the newly bereaved get to see people who have survived and are learning to live and love again.
Simon Stephens, founder of The Compassionate Friends
http://www.compassionatefriends.org/