Well, for lack of a better phrase, "birds of a feather flock together." Reality is that rich people are friends with other rich people. Poor people are usually friends with other poor people. Poor kid gets lost and poor family's friends donate $5 or $10 to help. Rich kid gets lost and family's friends donate $500 or $1000 to help. I don't think there's any crime or scheme in that....just the reality of the situation.
We are not rich by any means, compared to famous people, etc... but in our little community in rural Alabama, we are definitely more blessed than most. I would hate to think that if something happened to one of my children that people around me would say, "well, they don't need my help. Look at that big ole house and those new cars."
I also like to think that I wouldn't ask for money, though. However, I've never been in the situation of needed help searching the ocean for my child. As far as burial, being out of work during the tragic time, etc goes, that would be why we have what other people consider "large" life insurance policies on our children.
Everything in my being tells me these boys have been gone. BUT.... they are not my babies...my flesh and blood. If they were, I don't know if I could ever stop looking. Honestly, you'd probably find me at 80 years old, standing at that inlet in a lacy nightgown blowing in the salty breeze, begging the waves to bring my baby back.