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I just caught a clip of Grady Judd on Fox....I love his attitude!
I have loved Grady Judd for a very long time...I hope he is our sheriff for a VERY long time!
I just caught a clip of Grady Judd on Fox....I love his attitude!
DD forgot to take her phone to school this morning and left it in plain sight- albeit no charge, so guess who was late to my volunteer job at her school this morning so I could check her Instagram, KIk, and text messages???My DD stayed up until midnight the day before her 13th birthday to get on Facebook! (I wouldn't let her get it before then.) She is a year older on FB because apparently, they are on Pacific time. I stood my ground though!
She (now 15) calls me her 'stalker'. I say 'I'm parenting' - I think she appreciates this?!?
DD forgot to take her phone to school this morning and left it in plain sight- albeit no charge, so guess who was late to my volunteer job at her school this morning so I could check her Instagram, KIk, and text messages???
DD forgot to take her phone to school this morning and left it in plain sight- albeit no charge, so guess who was late to my volunteer job at her school this morning so I could check her Instagram, KIk, and text messages???
Grady is considering charging the parents if he finds they knowingly let the girls continue on social media......I hope he finds something.
I wish he would consider running for Govenor....!
Grandstanding for political brownie points.
There is no way he could charge the parents.
(Have to admit, I wish this thread was less about "Grady" and more about the bullied girl.)
(Have to admit, I wish this thread was less about "Grady" and more about the bullied girl.)
That's good what KR's father said, but it bothers me the "two sides to every story". That sounds like justification for her behavior, for which there is none.
Their pictures and names are out there because of the severity of the charges. I think they were old enough to understand what they were doing- goading someone into acting upon it, and they knew she could end up doing it. I don't see how you could enforce electronic banning from all social media- she'd find other apps, or use fake names. This girl is a bully and recruited others to bully Rebecca to the point where Rebecca's own friends were afraid to be friends with her for fear they'd be targeted. I experienced that in 4th-6th grades. My friends were also afraid to be seen with me for fear they'd be bullied like I was. Fortunately social media didn't exist back then, I wasn't taunted with suicide, only called mean names and pushed into a fight, and I valued myself.
Ok, wait. We are talking about kids here. Not stable, rational, adults who have years of life experiences to steer them in the right direction. As a teen, everything is a big deal and over dramatic and seem to go on forever and ever. It's just how kids think.
Also I have a huge issues with people being forced to take their kids out of school and etc cause their kid is being bullied. They shouldnt have to.
I understand there is always a huge story behind every case of bullying, but there is no way in the world anyone is gonna convince me that it is a FAIR fight when you have more than one person picking on one. This isnt a gang of girls versus another gang of girls. Its a pack mentality. Like the poor Irish girl that lived in MA that was hounded constantly by up to 12 people, you cant tell me that a teenage girl or boy could take that? I'm 37 and I couldnt take that!! Day in and day out and online?
Then what is the excuse for the horrible social media comments after the person being bullied is dead? That is not normal. No one is trying to make those who commit suicide due to bullying a matyr, but its seems that blaming them isnt gonna help. Somehow the person who commits suicide is mentally unstable, but taunting and wishing death upon another person is sane and rational behavior for a kid? HOw about the bullies be called to task and be labelled as mentally unstable as well? Lets reveal any underlying mental issues the bully has.
I just get sick when those who are kind hearted and sensative get served up like lambs to the slaughter. Somehow they are defective for not being tough enough or cowards for commiting suicide. When the bully at times is a budding psychopath.
Bullies have always existed but now its beyond teasing. Its mean spirited hatred and downright harrassment that no adult in this world wouldnt be prosecuted for. I cant harrass someone at work, but at school it seems to be o.k. or normal in some districts. I cant imagine wishing someone was dead or getting online and saying you dont give a ****.
Mark my words, there will come a point where instead of killing themselves the bullied will start arming themselves and killing others. Not just shooting up schools, but heading to homes and killing family members too.
That is because in most cases there are two sides. These sorts of situations generally don't just start for no reason, they are typically a continuation of conflict between two or more people, that one of them eventually loses and the winner doesn't know when it is time to stop (due to being a kid). You only hear about the last blow, not all the other stuff that happens before.
In some cases a kid gets bullied because they are outsiders (due to their appearance, attitude or heritage), but in this particular case it started over a romantic dispute, and those sorts of things cause heated emotions even in adults. Kids behaviour in that scenario will be way worse, this sort of thing happens all the time.
There is an old saying, it takes two to tango. When it comes to bullying, especially the long term sustained kind, there is pretty much always a history behind it. Usually one or both parties can walk away. In this case, the girl was taken out of school and home schooled, so there is no question that the option of stepping away from the conflict was open to her. She chose not to do that, to stay, reinsert herself, and eventually to kill herself. Essentially what she is doing is deliberately making a martyr of herself. It is the ultimate revenge against the person you have a conflict with. This is something we have seen in many of these cases.
IMO this is a serious issue, especially afterwards when these girls (and it usually girls) get all sorts of positive glowing attention heaped on them posthumously. They become role models as it were for the next generation of girls with no real life experience who feel alienated among their peers and suffer from mental stability issues, who in turn see their own departure from this world as a heroic act.
And so the cycle goes on. Bullying is bad, but at the same time I think that burying one's head in the sand about the underlying mental issues these girls probably have is not particularly constructive. And before anyone gets up in arms about that last statement let me be clear: Stable, rational people do NOT kill themselves.
If we pretend that these things don't exist we ensure that we will not be able to effectively intervene the next time around. You can't simply address the bully without addressing the issues the bullied have. If you just deal with one half of that equation all that will happen is that the bullied will just end up with a new, different bully.
You should read "Odd Girl Out" by Rachel Simmons.
Odd Girl Out, Revised and Updated: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls: Rachel Simmons: 9780547520193: Amazon.com: Books
The author did numerous case studies in elementary, middle and high schools and found that most times, the victim of the bullying was chosen at random by a particular girl who then got other girls to pick on the victim.
Often, the victim was totally blindsided.
The scariest part about female bullying is that it is sneaky, passive-aggressive and usually way more psychologically damaging than the more physical bullying favored by males. Teachers and parents are often clueless that it is happening. Especially when the bully is a good student and popular.
It's a heartbreaking and eye-opening read.
I strongly disagree with you. I was bullied in elementary school for 3 straight years. It was NOT deserved. There is no other side to a bullies' story that deserves justification.That is because in most cases there are two sides. These sorts of situations generally don't just start for no reason, they are typically a continuation of conflict between two or more people, that one of them eventually loses and the winner doesn't know when it is time to stop (due to being a kid). You only hear about the last blow, not all the other stuff that happens before.
In some cases a kid gets bullied because they are outsiders (due to their appearance, attitude or heritage), but in this particular case it started over a romantic dispute, and those sorts of things cause heated emotions even in adults. Kids behaviour in that scenario will be way worse, this sort of thing happens all the time.
There is an old saying, it takes two to tango. When it comes to bullying, especially the long term sustained kind, there is pretty much always a history behind it. Usually one or both parties can walk away. In this case, the girl was taken out of school and home schooled, so there is no question that the option of stepping away from the conflict was open to her. She chose not to do that, to stay, reinsert herself, and eventually to kill herself. Essentially what she is doing is deliberately making a martyr of herself. It is the ultimate revenge against the person you have a conflict with. This is something we have seen in many of these cases.
IMO this is a serious issue, especially afterwards when these girls (and it usually girls) get all sorts of positive glowing attention heaped on them posthumously. They become role models as it were for the next generation of girls with no real life experience who feel alienated among their peers and suffer from mental stability issues, who in turn see their own departure from this world as a heroic act.
And so the cycle goes on. Bullying is bad, but at the same time I think that burying one's head in the sand about the underlying mental issues these girls probably have is not particularly constructive. And before anyone gets up in arms about that last statement let me be clear: Stable, rational people do NOT kill themselves.
If we pretend that these things don't exist we ensure that we will not be able to effectively intervene the next time around. You can't simply address the bully without addressing the issues the bullied have. If you just deal with one half of that equation all that will happen is that the bullied will just end up with a new, different bully.