I have been refraining from posting because I'm waiting to get verified so I'm not sure what I can say but since it's all out now DS was in confinement while all this happened with Shannon. He was confined before during and after his court martial. He was sentenced to confinement for two years, he was able to go to the funeral supervised. It was not possible to get a pass to leave or anything. Shannon was living with SR but it happened at a friends house where him or his dad were not. There was an investigation and it was found to caused by a fall in the bathroom because of the od. The Smith's did not kill this poor woman and it was an accident due to poor choices bein made .. Doing drugs.. In MY OPINION the family may be suspicious because they don't want to admit that their daughter was doing drugs.
Yes Dale has a violent past that is a fact but the media has gotten so much wrong in this case you can't seem to make a fair judgement. IMO! Just like the post he made about her dying during the twins birth when it was a comment to Star Wars. We don't know all that was said during the argument that lead to her trying to get the restraining order and we don't know IF the story is a bit embellished to make an impact. Now before I get any comments saying I'm blaming the victim because I AM NOT! But as I've said before its a terrible thing that this woman is missing possibly dead. No family should have to go through this type of situation but there were two people in this relationship and neither is perfect. With that being said after she tried to get the restraining order she then still went back and AGREED to MARRY him. Seeing as Michelle has known when to get out of a relationship and this is only an assumption because of her divorce with a child then she can't use the excuse of staying for the kids. SPARKY if I'm wrong then let me know. I'm just putting my opinions out there.
Also regarding the last text speaking from personal experience being an iPhone owner but mine has a lock. Nobody not even my husband has my passcode not sure if this is true for her phone just throwing it out there to be thought about..
Regarding the anger of his father I've never personally spent any amount of time with him but what I'm guessing is if it were me I would be angry too. The people getting in your business and in your face is terrible! They are relentless and yes it's their job but I can't imagine being in their situation 100% innocent and be pleasant. Didn't George Anthony flip out on the media too?
It's hard for me for personal reasons I feel he is not guilty but if it comes out that he did it and is found guilty I'll accept it but right now I'm on the side of the kids. They need their mother but they also need their father so if he's found guilty of this then it's the kids who lose. This man can be a bad example for a person but in my opinion he's trying to turn his past around become a better person and a good father for his children.
Thank you for your insight into what you know about your friend. I'd just like to comment on a few of your observations.
It came out pretty early through the rumour mill that DS was confined when his second wife died. I've never considered him to be directly responsible for that but I did have concerns with the fact that she was living with his parents at the time. I can imagine they were not impressed with their marine son being locked up and dishonorably discharged due to a domestic issue. Thank you for verifying that this incident did not occur at their home. It has been ruled an accident and likely it will remain that way.
What is disturbing to me is the other incident of domestic battery. The one that got him locked up in the first place. I find it hard to believe that this was the first and only incident of domestic battery in that relationship considering it's severity. The only reason this one was reported was because she suffered injuries that required her to be taken to the hospital. If that had not been the case, it's likely that she would not have pressed charges. Most women in abusive relationships do not. So of the few actual charges and convictions that are public record, there are likely many, many more that are never reported to the police. I'm sure there are statistics out there.
From the little we have seen of Michelle on the PC show, she appears to be a strong and proud woman. And I doubt that she would have reported all the incidents of abuse in their relationship either. She was probably embarrassed. And blamed herself for "pushing him too far", particularily if there was alcohol involved. In fact, it appears that she never reported even one with the exception of the incident at the convention which was started in public and eventually involved security guards at the hotel. Instead of telling them she was concerned for her safety and asking for him to be removed from the premises, she allowed herself to be put out of her room and have no way home rather than pursue a charge against him. And by her own admission, after all was said and done they cried and made up when they got home. A vicious cycle that repeats itself so often in abusive relationships. So when she tried to get a restraining order, she was unable to because there was no history of abuse on file. Always a big mistake that domestic abuse victims find out the hard way. I have no doubt that she had an attraction to him that she couldn't shake. But it's not her fault if that turns out to be a "fatal" attraction. In spite of it all, she had moved on. It's possible he hadn't.
Good point about the IPhone having a passcode lock. Never thought of that and I have an IPhone with a passcode. While I've never given it out to anyone including my DH, it's one of the few I use for everything else. So I'm sure my DH could easily figure it out. I guess we don't know if hers was on lock and if DS might have known the code or had an idea of codes she used so it's hard to say whether he could have been able to get into it.
DS Sr seems like a man who is willing to protect and cover for his only son, his namesake, to me. But that's just my own personal observation from watching that news video. Since neither of us know the man personally, I guess we can only speculate.
Since you know DS personally, perhaps you can tell me where he plans to raise these children? He has his own place but it appears that he is content to leave them with his parents. Is he officially moving out of the condo and moving in with the parents to be a hands on Dad? Or are the twins going to be going from one home to the other with no real stability? Wouldn't it be better for them to go back to the home they knew and continue to have visitation with their father, just like before? TIA if you can answer this.
MOO
