I wasnt referring to you... IIRC I was referring to a post(s) made by eyes as most ws members would know. I appreciate your input from a new perspective and I mean no disrespect.. but I would appreciate it if anyone who reads my posts takes the time to read all the threads and all the posts that the rest of us have. Its not easy keeping up here. We have all put in hours and days and almost 2 months looking at the whole picture, disecting the whole picture, and we all know that we arent certain of much, especially not that it was someone she knew and went willingly with. Are you certain.. like in a fact certain... are do you feel certain? there is a huge difference.
Sadnpod - thank you for your very respectful post. I realize I seem to have popped up out of nowhere. But I have been following this case for a long, long time. I have been reading everyone's posts here and decided that this was the most trustworthy and sincere (and respectful) forum of caring people who TRY to put aside personal biases and pray that the killer be found.
You have shared your connection with the tragedy and I will try to share mine, if anyone wants to take the time at this late hour to bother to read it.
30 years exp. in healthcare field particularly with persons who confused, distressed, manipulative, have various psychiatric disorders, unable to communicate effectively, personality disorders, attention-seeking, innocent, agitated, depressed, have faced terrible losses (a woman who was formerly very beautiful had half her face removed from cancer, husband died and that very weekend her family dumped her because they didn't want to take care of her and you should see her wedding photo you would bawl your eyes out); also working with young children (I still help my son who is a special ed. teacher) and have experience in the legal field. Please, don't ask my age, lol.
I am right brained, global, big picture, out of necessity have to deal with the bottom line every day or I would die a slow death in the quicksand of people's "intentions" vs. actions, their devious ways of getting attention, their entitlement, their grief, their suffering. It's a very fine line to walk and emotionally draining. I am mother of two grown sons ages 31 and 28. The older one was tortured by other kids at school (he is now teaching the children of the people who made fun of him); twice I almost tackled kids who I caught picking on my younger son. I was a single mom and also made 2 bad marriages with "nice" guys in "professional" fields who were "likeable" but were downright mean to my boys. I always hope my boys will forgive those bad choices. I LEFT BECAUSE NOBODY WAS GOING TO TREAT MY BOYS BADLY THEY WERE GOOD AND DID NOT DESERVE IT and most of it was jealousy, pure and simple. I bring this insight to this situation as I am well aware of how jealous boyfriends/husbands act when they want to be #1.
I was an entertainer and did my share of partying (but as a musician I was too busy for the drug scene). Once I had my kids, I decided that anything I did from then on would reflect on them. I realize I am lucky to have had that insight.
I have called DCF at one job on my boss who was mentally abusive to a client who was schizophrenic and had been raped because she innocently trusted another client and the boss accused her of "asking for it". Lost my job, didn't care.
I called DCF at the bowling alley when 2 kids on my sons' team let loose that their little 3 year old brother was riding his bike wearing a diaper on a major street. My call was not confidential. Their alcoholic mother came in the next day, grabbed me by the throat and told me she would ">>>>>>" to which I replied, you are drunk, and you can threaten me all you want, because if you do it again, I will call again, and I drove her home.
I found a 2 year old wandering in and out of parked cars in a park and the little one put up her arms to be picked up and I searched all over for her parents, was just ready to put her in my car and take her to the police when mom showed up...what I said I won't repeat...
I saw DT on the news. Something did not seem right. I started following the case. I read the police report. SP's statement and her statement about him did not seem right. I watched subsequent interviews where she subtly but convincingly passed blame onto others and claimed innocence so much it became the whole point of her appearance, IMO. This really aggravated me. I wanted somebody to ask her some point blank questions about discrepancies, but I guess that's not politically correct unless she goes on a 48 hours hot seat and that won't happen with the lawyer. Nothing has come forward to give me any reason to change my mind. I do not trust CPC, I think he is a bad person who has taken her over like other men have and probably will. I do not understand SP's part in this but feel it is bad.
Short answer to your question: My "certainty" is based on a few facts, that )1) LE made a point early on to say RSO's were ruled out (sending a message to somebody); (2) DT has changed her story about so many things; (3) I've heard a lot of bad things circulated and not all by people who want to bash her but who are concerned about the lifestyle she was leading; (4) the media-crazy behavior, getting up on the stages, the money, the sudden disappearance off the radar, and (5) nobody having any credible theories as to who other than those mentioned here would have the motive or opportunity to do this crime. (6) SP took a long time off work that day and it is not proven that CPC was at work when she called.
I am sorry if this, and other posts are so lengthy. Because I know I must annoy some people and also I am very tired of repeating myself. I'd like to sit back and watch it all unfold if people would quit trying to convince everybody that Somer's life was o-k and that she was well cared for.
Thanks for your patience if you were able to stay awake. Good Night. God Bless all of you.