wendybtn
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Wendy---was she always an unruly child? Did you always have difficulty with her when she was younger? Did she always challenge you on the issue of right vs wrong? Could you share more about your earlier failed attempts? I am just curious...
If there was a now & sudden change in personality with nothing exhibited before, my guess is the sudden change is related to her peers with drug experimentation.
I make no judgements--just would appreciate your insight & if you noticed a "turning point" incident that might help other parents here on WS!
She has always held things in. She was never a snuggly, hugger but she was affectionate and seemed like any other kid. I noticed what I thought were some small signs of depression around the time her periods started. But things were fairly typical until she started HS. In November of 9th grade, she sent a racy pic to a football player at school after he egged her on. She did not have a phone again until November 2014 (10th grade) which is the last Trac phone in the world that has no camera, as her brother was diagnosed with a brain tumor and I needed a way to get in touch with her. In Aug it st 2014, I put her in a psych/SA Treatment Center after the school brought to my attention she was taking phenergan and hydrocodone
that she was purchasing at school. She basically refused to cooperate with the treatment, individual and family counselling. I took her to a one on one therapist which helped none at all for 8 months. I home-tested her for drugs in February? or March? She was positive for cannabis. She was on a prescribed antidepressant which I thought helped a lot and she told the doc she felt better also and I informed the doc of the marijuana usage. I don't know how long the night sneaking out has been on going but I would say a few months, maybe? When it got warmer? We caught her completely on accident. I filed an unruly child petition two days later and told her that day she was being served with it, today, July 1. One week ago, she snuck out from us, then she and her friend snuck out from the other house and got arrested for underage drinking. She is also a straight A student, has a job where they love her and are always calling her to come in when they are short-handed. She is taking an excellent cosmetology course via the local HS & Votech, really loves it, has talent and passion for it. One other thing that occurred to me, is that her friends changed from starting in middle school to present. I always loved 99% of her friends, but now, just the way she talks about them and their home situations, I am constantly saying, why don't you have them over here, instead of spending the night there? We will get pizza and a movie. I think that pretty much covers it.