The ones who lost the most, YingYing Zhang, her family, and her loved ones and friends have set an example to be respected and considered. Their strength of character and composure as well as their bravery in continuing to commit to their love for a gifted young woman at all costs speaks for itself. But anyone touched by this case has experienced loss, including people who are likely to be stigmatized by the actions of an individual they may know personally. Even after the arrest of the man eventually convicted, I was publicly scrutinized online. Though I remained silent of my own volition, I was watching and taking note with the hope that one day, I could speak out to encourage people to not make assumptions about those associated with criminals. I have no case-related information to provide that is not public knowledge, but I do plead that people consider the impact their words may have on those who found themselves entangled with a criminal. I assure you, it is not something I would wish upon anyone.
I understand hunger for more information, for pieces to fit together, for things to make sense. But with hunger comes responsibility to choose actions and words that reflect something more than instinct. Our human ability to choose to act and speak in a way that is contrary to our primal instincts is part of our humanity that is too precious to lose. I hope these words do not seem harsh or judge mental.
The kind welcome and words of affirmation are greatly appreciated, more than words can adequately express. Please forgive me if there are questions I cannot answer or if I don’t post frequently. I did not post for recognition, though you have my heartfelt thanks for it should you choose to offer it. Instead, I posted to express my own gratitude and, hopefully, to make a meaningful contribution.
WE WANT TO FIND YING YING.
More than anything .
And we do not know what is required to fulfil that want so she can be given back to her family.
They want that more than anything.
We want that for them too.
Some of us are prepared to do whatever-it-takes to locate her remains.
Her mum needs this.
We must find her.
That's all that's left to do. Nothing else matters.
I know you didn't post for recognition.
I was re-reading texts last night and I was startled at your honesty in them. You were feeling bad at the time but you never allowed it become an excuse for any of your behaviour.
That was evidence of an awful lot of work on yourself and great strength too.
I sincerely hope you stick around, I know that being close to somebody who engages in criminality does not give one psychic or other instincts, quite the opposite is my own experience.
But if you get any idea of a place worth searching I reckon the UofI police are still pretty open to ideas and they would take a look...
I'd like to see a whole new search starting at his apartment and branching out in all directions within walking distance first, then a wider search as resources become available.
We're grasping at straws here, I know, I do but we must give it one more shot, I believe.
As you said they have shown themselves to be true humans.
They deserve this.
I'm not clear on how this notion is perceived in general.
