I hear you. I just wish this was never even a conversation that came up on a victim friendly forum. There is zero reason to ever even speculate on Websleuths as to whether an alleged victim of rape was lying.
This is exponentially more important given the fact that the alleged perpetrator is being held for several alleged murders and violent rapes. Imagine if ANY of his past victims are on this forum? IMO, it is against TOS to do this, and provides no gain.
To say that perhaps he was angry that he got kicked out for an alleged rape is one thing. To have ANY discussion about the veracity of a victim's claim is inappropriate.
I was uncomfortable with this from the start, but the words "Rape is all too often used as a cry wolf in the girl's case" really sent me over the edge, even though I know that poster had good intentions and was trying to give good insight in to Liberty's culture.
And congratulations for being a survivor--I wish nothing but the best for you, and glad that you are okay.
This is exponentially more important given the fact that the alleged perpetrator is being held for several alleged murders and violent rapes. Imagine if ANY of his past victims are on this forum? IMO, it is against TOS to do this, and provides no gain.
To say that perhaps he was angry that he got kicked out for an alleged rape is one thing. To have ANY discussion about the veracity of a victim's claim is inappropriate.
I was uncomfortable with this from the start, but the words "Rape is all too often used as a cry wolf in the girl's case" really sent me over the edge, even though I know that poster had good intentions and was trying to give good insight in to Liberty's culture.
And congratulations for being a survivor--I wish nothing but the best for you, and glad that you are okay.
You are absolutely correct. Unfortunately, it being at Liberty makes everyone a bit more suspect on the "truth," but that's not the victim's fault at all. Either way (whether through consensual sex or rape), I think the point that was trying to be made was whether this was a "turning point" in JM's violence, which proceeded to escalate over the years to, possibly, murder. At no point did anyone say, "It was HER fault that he turned out like this." I think what people were trying to say (myself included) was that JM may have PERCEIVED it to be her fault...and he was the one that placed blame and acted out that blame throughout the years.
I can only speak for myself, but I apologize if anything I said was interpreted as blaming the victim. As a survivor of domestic violence myself, I'm well aware of how important it is for victims and perps of violence to understand that it's NEVER the victims' fault.