Darryl quit the Supervisor position . . .we went to a San Francisco 49rs game . . . toured the city, got a good rate on a room , met his son age 4 or so
Darryl's interaction with other women didn't get jealous . .
Go on dates . . .bought house in June 2005 . . prior to buying the home . . . . 2002 to 2005 . . did not live together . . he had moved back to Monterray . . . we had separate jobs . . . . in Monteray . . . don't remember exact point in time - either in San Francisco . . . we celebrated Supervisory role - we celebrated - he was very clear he didn't want to give married . . . he liked me, attracted to me, don't see myself getting married . . . JA was young @ the time so it didn't bother her . . . .fell in love with Darryl . . .
I don't remember the exact moment . . . a gradual process. . . crush became more and more - I got to know his son . . .
what were you overlooking?
I discovered after I developed deep feelings for him that he was a smoker . . . I didn't like that . . . never knew it . . he never smelled like smoke - I never knew it . . . .he had very good hygiene . . . . he then admitted to me he was an alcoholic . . .. I worried it would affect his health
I didn't want to be around a smoker - didn't like it . . .
I would notice after dinner - he would take some Stoli out of the freezer . . . there was entire 6 pak of Sierra Nevada - I didn't see him drink it - he was trying to overcome it . . .
Before you bought the house . . .
Darryl working @ a resort in Pebble Beach and JA was bartending . . .
JA saw self eventually becoming a real estate investor . . .what I wanted to do career wise - I wanted to buy a home - I had good credit but didn't have quite the income . . . . (strange sound in courtroom)
He stopped drinking he has been sober since 2004 . . . .we decided to talk about buying a house together - his ex wife was moving to LaQuinta . . . we wanted to stay near to Monteray and not come all the way down to the desert . .. JA took real estate classes @ Monteray Peninsula College - she was taking more semesters of Spanish . .. paying more attention to Real Estate Market trends . . .
In high school - had interest in Art . . . a business that she saw self developing - at that point in her life she was trying to start real estate business. . . . it takes a long time to do art - for Father's Day I gave Darryl a portrait of his son.
Home purchase $350K . . . sizeable downpayment? One of those . . . . 100% financed interest only . . . . I was pretty solid financial position about 10K or 12K - at that point in my life that was a lot of money saved . . . Darryl was saving for retirement and he was invested as well . . . June 2005 closed . . .
We were going to move to Sacremento . .. made an offer on a house - the day after our offer was accepted - the plan for the child to live with Darryl and visit his mother - at that time Darryl's ex didn't want to change the custody - I wasn't able to afford the home by myself .
Jodi . . . why don't we (speed this up?)