as i sit here reading all the posts about whether or not CS is taking illegal medications, the drug problems RC and MC are facing and all the other hosts of dysfunctionalities going on in these families, i can't help but think that the people on this board (for the most part) just dont' get it. hold on, before you all jump on me. 22 years ago i was married to a man that reminds me so much of this family. in his mind, it didn't matter if he was drinking or drugging and our daughter was around because he would never do anything to hurt her. he never understood that accidents happen and especially when you're under the influence of something not to mention what it was teaching her. it was a lifestyle he had grown up in and was just the norm for him. it was so totally foreign to me that i could not even begin to grasp how somebody could think like that. yes i knew he had these issues before we were married but i assumed it was just being at teenager and doing teen stuff that you grow out of when you get married and have a family. he didn't. anyway, my point is that i keep reading about how everybody is hoping CS will get therapy for her and Jr. but the truth is that in most cases like this, the people don't think they need therapy. It's almost like Jr. has to come out and say take me to a therapist and even then, they probably won't listen. These types of people live for the next dramatic event to give them something to talk about and somehow make them feel better about what they are doing. Unfortunately, I don't see Jr's life being any better now than it was before. If these people haven't grown up by now, I dont' think anything will get to them. If I were in CS's shoes, I would have cleaned up my act, gotten a job even if I had to walk to it, begged, borrowed and whatever it took to get the means to be able to visit my kids. In my opinion, if losing her kids (whether it was done in a sneaky manner or she outright didn't deserve them is beside the point) didn't give her the incentive and motivation to grow up and take responsibility, then having Jr. with her only because of a twist of fate, is not going to change anything. I took my daughter to a therapist and was told that the absence of her father in her life was her major problem. When I told her father this, he said that was the most idiotic thing he had ever heard because if he wasn't here, how could he cause problems for her? Therefore, anything she did wrong or had problems with was because she learned it from me. That is the way these people think. It's always the other person's fault, always has been and always will be. And psychiatrists and therapists are just idiots that got a degree for no reason other than to find someone to place blame on. So I really don't see CS doing much better than RC did. Let's just hope I'm wrong and her problems were her way of dealing with not having her kids and now she will turn her life around. It happens, but not very often.