The police were called and they refused to look at him. Jonathan caught wind that he was covered in bruises and Emily was being blamed so he sent Emily to pick him up before he could be taken to the ER.
I will personally live the rest of my life regretting not doing more. And I deserve to live with this guilt. Because I failed him. He needed me and I failed him. So, yes, "hindsight" I guess.
Thank you... I think we're going to have to do that.
I do want to say that I'm definitely not the glue. That would be my mother in law. She's amazing.
We had it planned out that when Lucas was found she would come get my husband and me and we would be the ones to tell Jamie (that didn't happen.. Jamie found out through the media). When she called to tell me he had been found, she was the one who had to tell me "just breathe... just breathe". She's our rock.
I understand how you feel that way. Still they can also only do so much, because they are bound by the law,not above it. They are not the judge,or DCF, who have the ultimate power. Still if they had called DCF right then,(not that it would have done any good) We already know that,and maybe that is why they didn't take further action.Yeah I’m trying to tread lightly.
Oh, Bethany! You do not deserve to live with guilt. You are one of his heroes! You are one who raised the alarm. Outside of committing felonies, which would do no one any good, what could you possibly do? I hope you are able to find your way past the guilt, this guilt is NOT yours to bear, sweet lady.
The people who deserve to live with guilt for this are named by you in your first paragraph. One chose not to. The other... I honestly cannot believe what you just told us about his actions on that day. I'm not suggesting you are lying... I just freaking can't wrap my head around it. That action... that is the guilty action of that day. My god.
This isn't directed at you, FLA, unless you can confirm the answers to a couple questions?The police were called and they refused to look at him. Jonathan caught wind that he was covered in bruises and Emily was being blamed so he sent Emily to pick him up before he could be taken to the ER.
I will personally live the rest of my life regretting not doing more. And I deserve to live with this guilt. Because I failed him. He needed me and I failed him. So, yes, "hindsight" I guess.
Is there anything going on for Emily? Her family has been so silent, even her cousin.
I understand how you feel that way. Still they can also only do so much, because they are bound by the law,not above it. They are not the judge,or DCF, who have the ultimate power. Still if they had called DCF right then,(not that it would have done any good) We already know that,and maybe that is why they didn't take further action.
I'm sure they feel just as powerless,and guilty,heartbroken
I hope Things really change now not just talk,and paper, so no more children,or people who love,and care for them have to go through this.
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As far as EG living was the hard part, dying was easy. The destruction she left behind for your family (FLA) and hers is beyond belief.
I'm not giving EG a pass but why didn't her family take her in when she was homeless? I went thru hard times in my life and my family was always there for me.
As far as EG living was the hard part, dying was easy. The destruction she left behind for your family (FLA) and hers is beyond belief.
I'm not giving EG a pass but why didn't her family take her in when she was homeless? I went thru hard times in my life and my family was always there for me.
I don't doubt what you are saying is accurate, but it's the first time I have heard it. Where was this stated that her sister took her in, or that drug use and crime were the cause of her homelessness?Her sister took her in for a while but EG burned that bridge. EG was using (if not consistently, at least off & on), she was in trouble with the law for auto theft and vandalism at minimum.
As a general statement, I think families often try, but there is only so much one can take before losing their sanity or sacrificing their health and finances. I don't think EG wanted anyone to cramp her style in any way, shape, or form -- IMO.
They may have been hoping a loss of resources would help her find her way out of some darkness. It seems like it may have, as she met JH, and Lucas seemed to imply she was nice at first, if he later said "she doesn't like me anymore." I think maybe for awhile EG was on a good path, but somehow she let herself self destruct again, this time with the worst effect of all.As far as EG living was the hard part, dying was easy. The destruction she left behind for your family (FLA) and hers is beyond belief.
I'm not giving EG a pass but why didn't her family take her in when she was homeless? I went thru hard times in my life and my family was always there for me.
They may have been hoping a loss of resources would help her find her way out of some darkness. It seems like it may have, as she met JH, and Lucas seemed to imply she was nice at first, if he later said "she doesn't like me anymore." I think maybe for awhile EG was on a good path, but somehow she let herself self destruct again, this time with the worst effect of all.
Sorry to quote my own post but it occurred to me after the fact I should find the link--underline & bolding by me. Sounds like she brought a whirlwind of chaos with her. If she assaulted the ex while he was holding her children, I imagine other family with children in the home might be afraid for them. I feel bad for EG's family -- I'm sure none of what has happened lately has come as too much of a surprise. They've probably felt like witnesses to an inevitable train wreck for several years and just wondered if they would end up as bystanders or victims. JO stated one of the DCF reports came from EG family member.Her sister took her in for a while but EG burned that bridge. EG was using (if not consistently, at least off & on), she was in trouble with the law for auto theft and vandalism at minimum.
As a general statement, I think families often try, but there is only so much one can take before losing their sanity or sacrificing their health and finances. I don't think EG wanted anyone to cramp her style in any way, shape, or form -- IMO.
Lucas' father saw the bruises as well.......I haven't changed my thoughts that JH put some of those bruises on Lucas and that is why he was so adamant about not discussing them or willing to discuss EG abusing Lucas. IMO they both abused him. JMOWhen Lucas returned from EG and JH for a funeral, covered in bruises, how many people at that funeral called DCS THAT DAY and reported it? Why wasn't he taken to the ER to document it? So much I guess is hindsight now, but so many missed opportunities to save him. Heartbreaking.
BBM: This is just one of the reasons I don't give JH a pass at all, none, nada, zilch. At this time we don't have a cause of death for Lucas. If he died from an internal injury, either one of them could be responsible for his death. JMOThe police were called and they refused to look at him. Jonathan caught wind that he was covered in bruises and Emily was being blamed so he sent Emily to pick him up before he could be taken to the ER.
I will personally live the rest of my life regretting not doing more. And I deserve to live with this guilt. Because I failed him. He needed me and I failed him. So, yes, "hindsight" I guess.