Found Deceased KS - Marilane Carter, 36, Overland Park, enroute to Birmingham, 1 Aug, call from Memphis, 2 Aug 2020

[cluciano63]

I have known a Marilane, same spelling, all my life; and Carter being very common, I never thought of her name as being very unusual.

I looked at a website where you can see how many people share a name...could not find more than one with her name, which must be her, imo...

 

[janbolt]

This a truly respectful question. What is the Southern Baptist Church's teachings on divorce? Is it allowed, frowned on or is there a sort of ex-communication involved?

My dad is a Southern Baptist pastor and my parents are divorced. My mom had an affair, so it was a "Biblical" divorce, but he could only keep his job as pastor of the church he built for 20 years if he remained unmarried. There's no way my dad could ever be single (he needs a woman to take care of him), so he resigned. He remarried a church member (his secretary) and went on to pastor other churches. My parents divorce was certainly a painful hiccup in his career, but in no way did it end it.

This situation w/ MC eerily reminds me of when my parents were first splitting. My dad kicked my mom out of the house when he discovered her affair, so she had to drive to her sister's house by herself 10 hours away. She made it safely, thank god, but she did contemplate suicide while staying there. Being in a pastor's family is psychologically difficult in many, many ways and my heart goes out to her.

 

[bestill]

Happy to try to answer any questions about the family/dynamics that might help the discussion

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[Help-find]

Below is an article about Marilanes family and an online prayer network they began. Appears as if she comes from a large family herself.

At the Fairhope-based online National Prayer Bank, people pray for each other

 

[SB205sleuth]

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[rainynights]

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[girlhasnoname]

Holding out hope that Marilane is somewhere safe and getting some help if she needs it. She has a beautiful family waiting for her.

 

[SassynOz]

I am a notary and notarize many DPOA's a week. The ones I sign are for financial purposes so I can't speak to the medical DPOAs but they have to be notarized by both parties in person. However after some research it appears Kansas allows for electronic notarization with special executive orders, which I'm linking below. There are also medical exemptions you wouldn't need a signature but Marilane would not qualify for them so it doesn't matter. I'd be interested to know when these papers were notarized, drawn up and signed. If it was right after they had a child, 100% understandable, if it was last week I have some questions.

KS Governor Executive Orders (2020)

I’m in Kansas and we had to get one simply so I could do things like tag both our cars since one was just in his name. He works out of town is never here during day hours. I had to just have him sign then I signed it at the tag place they noterized it there . It’s a POA which is odd that it didn’t need to be done with both signing at same time but it is in fact that simple now anyway.

 

[oviedo]

I’m in Kansas and we had to get one simply so I could do things like tag both our cars since one was just in his name. He works out of town is never here during day hours. I had to just have him sign then I signed it at the tag place they noterized it there . It’s a POA which is odd that it didn’t need to be done with both signing at same time but it is in fact that simple now anyway.

Our DPOA's and medical only are only signed by the person granting power to _______ - usually a spouse if married. The person receiving this power does not sign. It is witnessed and notarized (and they can't be a witness either) It's a powerful document IMO.

 

[bestill]

I’m in Kansas and we had to get one simply so I could do things like tag both our cars since one was just in his name. He works out of town is never here during day hours. I had to just have him sign then I signed it at the tag place they noterized it there . It’s a POA which is odd that it didn’t need to be done with both signing at same time but it is in fact that simple now anyway.

Surprised that his signature that was signed outside of the presence of the notary was notorized...thought that was the purpose of a notorized signature. Interesting.

 

[oviedo]

Surprised that his signature that was signed outside of the presence of the notary ...thought that was the purpose of a notorized signature. Interesting.

it sounds like they just notarized her signature? because if they notarized his, without him being present, and it's not through some new statute that allows remote notarization - this is a violation IMO.

 

[jmisha]

New user here.

 

[bestill]

New user here.

Welcome!

 

[jmisha]

What if she is "hiding out" at a convent? I know she couldn't join one as a married woman with dependent children, but people are able to stay at monasteries and convents for a time of reflection/healing. This would possibly explain no credit card use, phone use, and no vehicle sightings. They are typically cheaper than a hostel, if not free for members of the church, and most are unplugged from the news. Just a thought. IMO

 

[Help-find]

What if she is "hiding out" at a convent? I know she couldn't join one as a married woman with dependent children, but people are able to stay at monasteries and convents for a time of reflection/healing. This would possibly explain no credit card use, phone use, and no vehicle sightings. They are typically cheaper than a hostel, if not free for members of the church, and most are unplugged from the news. Just a thought. IMO

There is a monastery in north mississippi.
Magnolia Grove Monastery - Batesville, MS

 

[cluciano63]

Has the conversion been confirmed?

Also, I think it was known that she was planning to visit her sister for a birth...true? And then the added part about sleeping disorder/mental issues was revealed later? Or was the entire trip on spur of the moment? I thought her mother had confirmed that it was a planned event.

 

[Ontario Mom]

Perhaps the family istrying to keep the conversion(if there was one) secret. Damage control. This could ruin her husband's career. Even if he were forced to give up his position as a Baptist minister, there are lots of non denominational contemporary churches popping up, but, I think they would require a husband and wife to be united in their beliefs. Her conversion could be the end of his career.

And their marriage, most likely. If she did in fact convert, without him knowing, I mean.
If he did know, his congregation is going to have a LOT of questions.

 

[diggndeeperstill]

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Sadly, that is what makes it extremely hard to get out of an abusive situation for many women in the church. I am not saying that is what is happening here, but can you imagine if it were? Oftentimes, these relationships are all about a man's control as well. Control of finances, credit cards, checking, etc. If you didn't have the support around you, it would be incredibly difficult.

Additionally, some Southern Baptist conventions have free estate planning, will making etc if you agree to donate a percentage to the convention at death. This may be what could have been used to facilitate any and all documents including power of atty. Just a guess.

What do you guys think about the difference of her carrying the rolling suitcase at check in vs. rolling it at check out? I have been bothered by the suitcase because it was reported by the spokesperson that she left with not much, maybe a backpack. I don't see this as a backpack. My line of thinking...did she purchase this on the way? Would that be hard to do because of the time and stores not being open? Or, did she have a "bug out bag" as is suggested to many abused women that might be preparing to leave. Just my thoughts...

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[jmisha]

Has the conversion been confirmed?

Also, I think it was known that she was planning to visit her sister for a birth...true? And then the added part about sleeping disorder/mental issues was revealed later? Or was the entire trip on spur of the moment? I thought her mother had confirmed that it was a planned event.

I am confident she became catholic because:
1. Leawood, KS is a small community and the odds of two people with that same name are rather rare.
2. A few people have checked and confirmed that there is only one Marilane Carter in the United States, she is 36 and living in Leawood, KS.
3. Someone else confirmed that she started following a Catholic priest on YouTube 4 months ago.
4. The job interview video for a catholic school (even though not all schools require their teachers to be catholic)
5. The church's bulletin showed her first communion on June 21st

There is some confusion around whether it was planned or not. We learned that she wanted to be there for her sister, yet the husband and BIL have said she left abruptly and with only a backpack (even though we saw her later with a suitcase - buying clothes for a long term convent stay?). Also, her leaving at 8:15 PM on a Saturday night ensured her husband couldn't join her, since he was preaching the next morning. Seems to me like she was planning something - just not sure anyone else knew of her true plans.

 

[jmisha]

There is a monastery in north mississippi.
Magnolia Grove Monastery - Batesville, MS

Yep, there are a handful not too far from where she went missing. Also - she was spotted at a Shell gas station in Southaven, MS, which is on the way to Magnolia Grove...