eyestowardHeaven
Nothing but the truth
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Having had to deal with your father's drinking, lies, and fights (to say the least) it's no wonder your mother was so cautious.. She sounds like such a strong woman, i respect her a lot hearing that she would just turn the other cheek, never stand up for herself or fight back. She truly does live by the Good Book, that is clear. It sounds like alcohol brought out the devil in your father. For all she went through with him, she was obviously the better, stronger person out of it, he would look like the bad one for what he said and did. I understand that you would get mad when she didn't stand up for herself, if it was my mother, i would have felt the same. Your mom may have not felt the need to stick up for herself as she knew that those who knew her, know the truth that she was a good religious woman who would never cheat, and followed what the bible says.
Did your father only get like this when he was drinking? Alcohol does some really horrible things to people, i have a friend whose mother stayed with an physically abusive alcoholic husband for years (they had finally seperated yet not divorced) she was a devout Catholic who believed that she loved him for life and that they were married for life, despite his abusiveness and drinking.
It's understandable that you all were in a comfort zone having her close to you, and farther away from him after the divorce.
Does the date that your mother got abducted coincidence with any dates that may have been important to her and your father in the past?
For example, around the day or date they first met, got engaged, got married (anniverary dates); or any dates (this is for your father's side only now) that would have been emotionally devastating for him, such as the death of a parent, etc?
He was drunk a lot...maybe truly sober one day a week...sometimes gone to who-knows-where for 2 or 3 days at a time. I'm not really sure what kind of person he is when he's not drinking.
I don't know of any dates relating to Mom or "dad" that would coincide w/ this happening. The date that means the most to all of our family is that Taylor, my niece, passed away 2 yrs ago on Nov. 8, the anniversary falling 2 days after Mom was abducted.